Hi Girls,
had bi-lateral mastectomy and LD recon 2 years ago because of mantle radiotherapy for HD 15 yrs ago.
I am a single mum and just started a new relationship.
We have been to bed and he seems ok with everything but I can’t help feeling a little weird about my scars and the fact that I have no feeling in my breast whatsoever.
does anyone have any thoughts or advice?
Hi,
Even with a partner/husband you have been with for a long time these thoughts go through your mind, we are concious of our scars etc., and the lose of sensation/feeling is strange, i had a lumpectomy but the sensation in that breast is much reduced compared to the other.
would you feel comfortable talking to your partner about your feelings?..if so may be it would be good to address the issue for both of you and get your feelings/ worries etc aired.
i kmow i was concerned that my husband wouldn’t find me sexually attractive after surgery…and especially when i had no hair with chemo…but we discussed it and felt reassured after.
I hope someone may be able to give you some better advice, i know there is booklet available on this web-site titled…‘‘In It Together’’ …which you may find helpful.
I hope your new relationship continues to go well.
Take care
karen x
Thanks Karen.
Hi Hev
The following link will take you to a page where you can order or read some of our publications including the one mentioned by Karen, there is another called ‘Sexual intimacy and breast cancer’ which you may also find helpful.
breastcancercare.org.uk/content.php?page_id=5259
Best wishes
Lucy
Moderator
Breast Cancer Care