I was 3 years post menopausal when my bc was found and diagnosed at my first ever mammogram. I was already suffering from all the symptoms of vaginitis, I was driving myself mad with itching, scratching myself to death.
So before the tumour was found, my GP put me on a low dose oestrogen vaginal cream. Within 2 days I had bleeding and horrendous period pains. The treatment was stopped.
Of course, like all of you I went through chemo, which made the problems down there worse than ever followed by Letrazole. My body is not tolerating Letrazole well, I can only describe my symptoms as minuscule chemo. I was taking it daily for nearly 2 years, but my Oncologist has altered the way I take it on my last visit to her. I’m now off it for 3 months and then on it for 3 months. A trial had been done over a period of time, to see which way of taking it showed the best results. The results showed that there was no difference between either way, so I’m sticking to the on/off method. I know I’m warbling on, but this is such an important topic.
I have had smeared blood when I wipe after having a wee, I’m trying the YES products at the moment and I used the water based lubricant this morning, inserting as carefully as I could with a gloved middle finger. The next time I went for a wee again, there was blood and I had period pains for about 10 minutes. I am in no way blaming it on the lube, but the insertion of my finger.
I do pelvic floor exercises and I concentrate mostly on the relaxation part. My husband and I have been intimate twice since I finished chemo and it was hell for me. Like one of the ladies has mentioned that she has no libido, nor have I and also like her I feel I am doing it for my husbands benefit. After both times I ended up with cystitis and bleeding. I have shrivelled right up down there, it was a bit of a trial getting my finger in. I won’t use an oestrogen based lubricant, my cancer was a grade 3 and aggressive.
After all my blabbering on, I’d like to know if anyone has tried using a dialator?? It was suggested to me by my GP but that’s as far as I’ve got. I’ve only just joined this site and I’ve joined because my husband is of no help whatsoever. He is great on a practical level but as someone to support me emotionally he is (pardon the pun) impotent.
I don’t know also, if your relationships with your partner are suffering as a result of not being able to do, at the end of the day is a normal part of any relationship.
You can wake up now, I’ve finished ??.