dear Norma
I am so sorry to hear of what has happened to you, and welcome to the forum.
On the holiday, are you sure that you will lose the money - have you explained why you can’t go and that you can provide medical evidence? It seems very mean of the holiday providers in the circumstances. There may be a consumer association that could advise - I could try to find out if you wish.
Like Swissmiss, I actually did go on a holiday between diagnosis and the op. I wasn’t keen, but my partner persuaded me. I enjoyed it more than I expected. Obviously I would have preferred not to have bc, but going away did help to calm me down a bit. We only went for a few days, so changing it to a small holiday sounds good - surely the company would agree to that?
Dont worry about your reaction - we all say odd things. I said something like there was too much booked in my diary to cope with this! Somebody else on the forum leaned across the desk and pulled the file over to check they had the right person, she couldn’t believe they were right! Its such a shock we are really not thinking clearly at all!
regards
Sarah
Hi Norma
I’m so sorry you’re in this position. I was in exactly the same position two years ago. We were going on a family holiday and really didn’t want to let anyone down. I went with the attitude ‘well it could be my last holiday for a while so I might as well enjoy it’ and I did. BC went on the back burner and I made the most of the time playing with grandkids on the beach etc. I came back knowing that I would be starting chemo soon but I was ready for it. So glad that I went ahead with the holiday even though I didn’t feel a bit like it at the time.
The treatment is long and gets us down sometimes so if you can get away on holiday - go for it.
Mal x
Hi Norma
So a little bit of better news at least in that your op is being brought forward by one week. So whether you decide to go away or not at least the 5 July isn’t too long away.
Sometimes you just feel so overwhelmed with things that what you really want is someone to make the decision for you. If you don’t decide to go away then what will you do with your time between now and the op? Do you work? Have you family and friends around? Have you got hobbies you can immerse yourself in?
I know what you mean about using your son’s name as your username - I use my daughter’s name in my e-mail address. I miss everything about her, what would she be like now and even just saying her name. You are probably the same with Kristian.
I hope you can decide one way or the other about your holiday because I think you will feel maybe a tiny bit better by having made a decision and not having that additional stress.
Take care. Love xxxxx
HI
I am in similar place to you. Diagnosed 1 month ago today and still not got definite treatment plan. I am going this morning for results of 2nd biospy. If that is cancer then I am facing a mastectomy and probable reconstruction.
I have also been paronoid, think every pain in arms and legs and shortness of breath must be cancer. This is normal, All we can do is keep positive and if I were you I would go on holiday and enjoy it.
Best of luck
Good luck Carol , everyone here will be wishing you well .
Kris
Hi Kris
Thanks for message of support. It has been confirmed that I am to have mastectomy and reconstruction ussing back muscles on 28 July. Also have to have a sentinel node biopsy on 16 July. Remaining positive and hopeful that everything will work out fine.
Good luck to everyone whatever stage you are all at.
Carol