Hi, not had a good day today. I have been getting all uptight about diet! I have tried Soya before and don’t get on with it, I got monumentally depressed within a couple of weeks on the milk, so that’s not going to happen! I have an under active thyroid too, I’ve been on 150mcg Thyroxin a day since 1992. I am overweight and find it nearly impossible to lose any noticeable amount. Is starvation the only option? Is there a better survival rate for Skinnies? Help!
Hi Peachez…don’t panic, just eat sensibly and treat yourself kindly…I am having had second op in 2 weeks! I have a drain but my shoulder is fine and not stiff…will have stiff shoulder soon if keep having to lug this drain bottle around…its like taking a demi john walkies slung around my neck LOL!
Its a horrible thing to have but beatable and doable. My daughter is 8 months ahead of me on this journey and looks fantastic so I know I will cope with it too. Hang in there Peachez x
LIF
Thank you lostinfrance, am dutifully munching on rockett and almonds, amongst other things in my salad this lunchtime. Was your second op so they could get the clear margins they were looking for or nodes or both? I have taken your advice to be kind to myself,and booked myself enough leave to only have a 3 day week for my last week at work before the op. Sounds like there’s a gap in the market for a post op DJ trolley, perhaps an adapted guide dog - would provide pet therapy at the same time!?
Px
Hi P
Yes I had to go back due to margin and cells being found in the sentinal node…2 trips for the same thing are not to be recommended!!
A trolly…now that would be an idea! I walked the dogs complete with drain in backpack this morning…don’t think they would like the idea of carrying it LOL
I have learned that you have to take all of this with a big pinch of laughter…or you would howl and scream all the time. Watching my daughter go through it all was very hard but actually doing it myself is possibly not so bad when i look at her and see how fab she looks and the fact that if it had not been for her diagnosis no one would have found mine for a while…So come on P lets do this together as sounds like we are at about the same stage on the journey LIF x
hiya all in new so u need to bear with me had a biopsy 3 weeks ago and it came back clear doc said he wanted to take another biopsy just to be sure but not to worry as he expected it to come back ok got the results on wed to say i do have bc and to have another mamogram to see how much had to be taken away, had to wait for a phone call on thur (didnt phone till 16.30) to be told had to have full masectomy. I dont know how i feel ,Im 43 and have 2 young sons 12 and 8 what do i say to them. Am now waiting on a phone call to go and see plastic surgeon i have opted for reconstruction but i need to wait for another phone call with a date to go see ps and it could be another 3 weeks befor i get app to get surgary right now im confused at diginosis and scared of out come. I keep asking family if they are ok i know i have to deal with this but they shouldnt have to help
Mumoftwo, oh my, what a shock for you. So many people say it’s the waiting for surgery that’s the worst. I had a really hard time telling my daughters (17 and 21). There should be some advice out there for you, have you checked out the publications on this or or McMillan Website? I am struggling with the thought of a WLE and the amount that is going to be taken away. Recon or reduction of the other one planned, but a long way off. There are lots of stories on here of Recons that have been really good and taken years off! Lots of hugs for you xx
My silver lining this week- I have the bed to myself! Everyone but me has a cold; OH is banned to the spare room. With the op only a little more than a week away he can keep his germs to himself!
Lostinfrance; How far along is your daughter? I don’t know how I would cope if one of mine got it, it’s almost worse than having it yourself I should think. How was the DJ carrying today? When do you get your drains out?
Px
Hi there mumoftwo
I understand that this is a very worrying time for you and I’m sure you will receive lots of helpful advice and support from other members.
You mention that you are worried about talking to your children. Breast Cancer Care has an information booklet on this subject and I’ve given the link here if you’d like to have a look. The publication can be either downloaded or ordered throught the site:
breastcancercare.org.uk/upload/pdf/talking_to_your_children_about_breast_cancer_0.pdf
Hope you find this useful.
Kind regards.
Louise
Facilitator
hiya thanks 4 your reply the link looks very usful but im thick lol and dont know how to request a copy to be sent out, i think it would be better for my 12 yr old if he could read it in his own time can you advise me how to do it, i have read a lot of the posts and got to say its good to know im not on my own. I spoke to a girl in work who is a member on here and she helped a lot u know who you are and cant thank you enough for the support today and the links you sent on e mail, will keep posting and keep you up to date with wats happening somtimes just to write it down helps ty all
Hi there mumoftwo
Please feel free to call our helpline and they can send the booklet out to you it’s no problem, the number to call is 0808 800 6000, weekdays 9-5 and Sat 9-2. If you want to have a go at ordering online you can click this link and then click on ‘Add to basket’ , you will then go to a page where you can ‘checkout’ and your postal details will be required. I hope you can follow this please do come back and say if not.
Best wishes
Lucy
Peachez…the dj is still with me and is getting better adapting to my hectic lifestyle…though quite putting me off the thought of making my elderberry wine at the moment!
My daughter is 8 months ahead of me and looks fantastic, she was diagnosed at 26 and I am 49. We have a lot of genetic testing to look forward to as the BRAC genes are suspected…if it is I will have to consider how many bits I can do without…be the bionic woman soon!
One has to keep positive about this…lots of people on here say so and its true, although i’m scared stiff and would rather it had not happened in our family (mum and gran too)there are worse things that can happen in the scheme of things and thank gawd we live here and not in somewhere like Afganistan where it would be curtains
Mumoftwo, there are books on Amazon too, almost too much choice. If you don’t want to order online you could take the ISBN number into a book shop and they can order; or to your local public library; they would be able to tell you if they have it in. Also in libraries they should have a list of books recommended for your situation and your little ones ages.
LIF, agree, there are much worse things. Treatments for this have come on hand over fist in recent years. Any nostalgia I ever have for times past is always conditional, I wouldn’t fancy having toothache in Victorian times, let alone anything else! Even recently there have been breakthroughs that could benefit us shortly.
Having children of any age must be one of the best motivators for Positive Attitude I can think of. Mine are fledglings, standing on their own feet, but not able to carry a heavy load yet. I am still needed and I’m not going to let them down.
Px