Waiting times for surgery, diagnosed months ago breast cancer ER+ HER- test after tests no answers major holiday upcoming for all my family, never likely happen again in my life time even if lived to a hundred could not afford it, I am choosing to be with my family right or wrong I’m choosing to live my life with cancer as I already have been for months,any one have any other views?
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Do it. You and everyone in your family wants those memories. Talk to your team. But id probably have the holiday then crack on with whatever is coming. Xx
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I think everyone will have their own views depending on their own circumstances. I was diagnosed in June and was literally desperate for surgery - I would have been operated on the next day if possible.
After lots of tests my double mastectomy was one months after diagnosis.
We had a £10,000 family holiday booked four weeks after diagnosis which we immediately cancelled - there is no way I could have enjoyed it knowing I could have had the surgery earlier. So we cancelled- I couldn’t fly anyway for eight weeks - and we got our villa money back on our insurance. Actually TUI changed our flights until next year, didn’t even want a note from doctor.
But as I say, everyone is different- I was having panic attacks and in total shock and could not delay surgery, whereas other people would react differently.
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I’d say talk to the medical team. I was diagnosed in May but the time I had biopsy and MRI results it was late June. We had a holiday booked and the surgeon said it was unlikely I’d be called for surgery before I’d be back anyway. He said if we wanted, to go ahead with the holiday and they’d get me in asap on my return. Sure enough, we came home on 15th July and I had surgery on 17th. I really enjoyed the holiday and even forgot at times what I was coming home to. I’m so glad we did it as I didn’t know I’d end up having a second operation and chemo, and now there’s no prospect of a holiday til at least next Easter. The surgeon did say long haul was more risky in terms of clots which could delay subsequent cancer treatment, so it might depend on where you’re going, but I would talk to them and find out their opinions.
Do check with your holiday insurance
If you’re awaiting treatment they can be difficult I have found
Don’t think this is meant for me?
We had travel insurance and they paid out fully when I was diagnosed this summer.
No sorry it was for original poster
Yes I think you’re right to do it - if I was you I would want to do the same. Having waited already I don’t see that a bit longer will make much difference and the memories you will make will be something for you to treasure and sustain you through your treatment . Not sure where this leaves you if you need travel insurance though . I know you’ll speak to your team anyway but try and get them to agree that they’re happy. I got travel insurance earlier this year and was asked if had refused any treatment - I had stopped taking my hormone therapy and was able to say with all honesty that I had been told it was reasonable for me to stop it. Xx