First thing is for me to say thank you all for your kind words,you dont no how much thay have helped me,. Had the day off work today to go with my wife to the hospital,as we are going to do all this together,and beat it together,at first when she told me i thought that i cant do any thing, i was her protector , and could do nothing, but now what she needs is me not falling apart and being with her all the way no matter what the out come,. I have read so much about all the treatments and side affects so no all the scary stuff and all the good stuff.I would like to say to all on here who have this problem that is a problem shared is a problem halfed ans i wish every body well …jimmy
Hi Jimmy, We wish you well too… The waiting is really the worst, once your wife has her treatment plan sorted out things will improve you just kind of go with the flow, purely because you have no choice in the matter…
Let us know the outcome, good luck on the results… xxx
Hi Jimmy
Just wishing you and your wife the best. Its great to hear you are being so supportive. For me, the most helpful friends were not those who freaked out or got hysterical, nor even those who kept saying cheerfully ‘be positive!’ but those who were calm, realistic and practical and said’ ok, so how can I help?'. There will be loads of stuff you can do. My OH knew nothing about cancer or treatments, but was fabulaous about eg rushign out to get crisps/coke/ or whatever odd thing I suddenly felt like eating, sorting out replacing keys, credit cards etc when my bag was stolen… all sorts of things I just didn’t feel up to dealing with. I am sure you will be an enormous help and support to your wife.
Best wishes
Sarah
Jimmy, your wife is a lucky lady to have you by her side. Best wishes to you both, whatever the future holds, and fingers crossed that all it holds are bouquets of roses.