A lot of you ladies may know that my mum is due to go into hospital on the 5th Feb. Well, I am not feeling very strong mentally at the moment, in fact, I’m at breaking point, and don’t know where to turn. She said I wouldn’t be able to help her, as I am so malnourished, and would be incapable of looking after my son, too. I suggested that, as actual cancer has not been confirmed, that she give me a few weeks to get my strength back so I can help her. She went nuts, and accused me of being selfish etc., and for the first time in her entire life, she lifted up her hand, but didnt do anything.
I want your honest opinion. Am I being incredibly selfish, or is a few weeks in the grand scheme of things going to make a great difference? I really don’t know where to turn, as my son has had an accident, too.
Put yourself in your Mother’s position and see how you feel. The waiting is the worst part and your Mother obviously wants an answer and quite understandably. I should go and see your GP as soon as possible, or ask for a home visit which everyone is entitled to if they cannot get to the surgery, and ask for his help with your problems.
Hi Lyn,
i imagine your mum wants to get on and find out what she has to deal with - like everyone says the waiting is the worst bit. She may be able to do more for herself than either of you imagine (of course she may not). Try not to put too many of your worries onto her - have you got a good friend you can talk to? Don’t beat yourself up about being selfish or not - you are how you are and some people are just better at coping than others. I see on another thread that you have a little boy (not sure old) but there is an organisation called homestart - also mentioned on another thread who give practical help to those with young families going through difficult times it might be worth googling? Hope things improve for you both
cheers
caroline
My mum is not very pleased, as she has developed a cold, and reckons she might not be able to have her op on the date scheduled. Is that a possibility? How long would they delay it for? I don’t know as this has never happened to me.
Hope you don’t mind my asking, I know some of you don’t think much of me at the moment.
Hi ladies, just an update. As you all know my mum goes into hospital on Tuesday, and I’ve been feeling a bit wound up to say the least. Well, we’ve compromised, and her friend is going to come with me for some moral support, then while my mum is in hospital, her and my sister are going to keep me company until it’s time for my mum to come home. That way, mum gets her op, and I don’t have to be alone, which is what I was most afraid of. I know you all think what an awful chicken I am, but you can’t change the nature of the beast, and I’ll always be a coward at heart.
Edit: Caroline, just noticed you asked how old my son was - he’s 15. Sorry for not replying sooner!