Hi, told I had BC last Friday (12th Jan), seems like a lifetime a go. Bone Density scan today and CT scan tomorrow but it doesn’t seem real. Consultant appointment next Monday then operation scheduled for next Thursday 25th. Given choice of lumpectomy or mastectomy. Need to have lymph nodes removed. Why am I not afraid of operation? I am scared it has spread throughout my body. So hard to stay positive as people keep telling me.
Hi Alvain, welcome to the forum .In answer to your question - I don’t think it ever really becomes " real " - having cancer is a very surreal experience,2.5 years on it still feels to be like it happened to someone else .It does get easier though once you get a clearer picture of what you are dealing with and what happens next .Best wishes Jill .
Hi Alvain,
A warm welcome to the forum as well.
What you describe in relation to the anxiety that it has spread, is common & is something we all feel anxious about it at some point.
Fortunately, As bc tends to get picked up earlier, it is unusual for there to evidence of spread when first diagnosed and although it doesn’t feel like it, thankfully it has been diagnosed & can now be treated.
The outcomes for treatment for bc are some of the best around.
Do come & chat or ask anything you want to & loads of best wishes for your surgery next week.
ann x
I know exactly what you mean. When they told me, I was adamant that they had made a mistake because I felt and looked the picture of health. I was slim, fit and I thought I was healthy!!!
“You have breast cancer, and is one of the most aggressive kinds” is what they said and there was me saying "No, no your screens, tests, charts, figures and stats are all wrong, look at me - do I look ill and at death’s door? Of course I don’t so your results are wrong THEY HAVE TO BE!!!
Even after surgery, chemo, radiotherapy and Herceptin I still cannot get my head around it all. So perhaps for some of us it never becomes real. I let them do all of that treatment because they said it was necessary and I am still here so perhaps it was but I felt far worse during treatment than I ever did with the cancer.
Well I had chemo - and after a few rounds of that you are feeling rough - but rough is a long way from dead so if you have that to face you can do it and come out the other side. Lots of us have. I wish you well and come back often if you need support because on here we really do “get it”. Much love and you will cope with whatever they give you xxx
Hi alvain I have had a lumpectomy and had lymph nodes taken out the cancer as all been taken out just waiting for treatment but I am going to stay positive in the mean time it’s hard
Good luck on your operation harriet x
I heard on Friday that I have breast cancer stage 2
all a shock as only went to my GP 9days ago since then been to breast screening clinic Tuesday
Friday got the results although I have to say I knew Tuesday
have Dexa scan next Thursday and CT scan in a week
got my allocated Breast nurse and operation on 8/2/18 - lumpectomy
now telling those who I want to know which is exhausting!!!
Im exhausted as have ME anyway- but I know there is great hope that it can be treated
was relieved Friday to actually know but now I have an overwhelming sense of dread
worried as a have a very bad back and it’s not getting better I am sure it’s not related but usually my back can flare up but goes away in a week or so - this has been like it for 6weeks ???
Guess that’s why they are doing all the scans etc -------
i dread the Radiotherapy but because I daren’t drive on the motorway and it’s 30miles away each way but my friends will take me to save getting transport I’m very fortunate to have them
plus I am terrified of having blood taken - not so scared of the surgery
have had to stop my HRT and now flushes are back I look like a lobster !!!
Guess most of this is normal
but I feel wretched today :(
Hello Bizzylizzy ,welcome to the forum . I also have ME - although mostly quite well having a bit of a relapse at the monent .Stress /upset is certainly not helpful is it ?!! Ok that’s the bad news out of the way .The good news is that most breast cancers are very succesfully treated and once you get over the initial shock and you know exactly what you are dealing with it does get better.Telling people is hard and like you say exhausting -I was so glad to get to the bottom of my list !!! Most hospitals have volunteer drivers that will take you to radiotherapy sessions if your friends can’t help - at my hospital it was really easy to arrange .We all become hyper aware of every ache and pain once diagnosed - but only a very small percentage of people are diagnosed with spread outside the breast /lymphnodes - think it’s something like 5% so it is very unlikely your back pain is connected .Fingers crossed for your scans .Best wishes .Jill x
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I’m sure you will feel better once you have got the scans over with and can just get on with getting rid of the invader !! Make sure you ask about volunteer drivers at your radiotherapy hospital just in case there are days when friends can’t help .It is nice to have some company at the appointments though.
Hi. Im new to forum (1st post). I was diagnosed with early stage breast cancer on 6th February. Thankfully it has not spread and nodes are clear. I have appointment on Monday to see surgeon about my op. I will only require lump to be removed and a little recontruction but I’m very nervous. I’ve been told I will have radiotherapy but may also need some chemo depending if they find any signs it may grow elsewhere. They will check for this during surgery. Even though I am one of the lucky ones and I’ll be cancer free in matter of weeks I’m still obviously in shock that it happened. Im pleased i decided to register. I have very loving support from friends and family but it does make a difference when you can discuss matters with people going through same experience x
Welcome to the forum, Leeanne, although sorry to see you’re joining us, but you are right, thankfully it looks like it’s been picked up early & it can now be sorted out.
It’s quite normal to feel nervous & apprehensive & have the odd meltdown day, but we do all get through it.
There’s loads of support here from those of us where you are now, as well as those of us further down the road & out the other side.
ann x
Thank you ann-m. Yes Drs said I have caught it very quickly which is obviously a massive plus side. Think their positivity over my situation is helping me deal with it a lot better. I know once treatment starts I will have a few lows as reality of my situation kicks in but I’m pleased I am lucky to say I can see an end goal x
I have just been put on tablets and going to have radiotherapy in a few weeks I had a lumpectomy as I had breast cancer it was all taken away it was sent to America to determine what treatment I had so luckily I have not had to have chemotherapy I am just glad I am now on treatment