Hi everyone
Taking out the dog Christmas morning I slipped on a slope on wet grass and ended up in A & E. I’ve fractured both bones in my wrist which had to be re-aligned and I went back Boxing day to be told I need a plate fitting. So that’s my Christmas! Hope you all had a lovely one though. Not too easy with one hand to type but will post shortly.
Ami xx
Oh ami! What a disaster! Are you coping o.k? I think this year had better sling it’s hook! It’s been a real horrible one,I just hope that we all have a better one! I think we are due a visit from the good luck fairy! I do hope this is it and hope you mend soon poor flutterby…big hug
Take care all Em xxxxx
Oh Ami poor you my daughter in law did the same the week before xmas but hasn’t needed a plate .It must be really sore. Em is right we need to have a brilliant New Year and everything to go right for us for a change.
Doz I can’t imagine how hard it must have been not able to contact Daniel but glad you eventually got in touch. My son rang from Oz and his xmas visitor was a huge snake climbing up the house yikes.He says they aren’t poisonous and keep away the mice and other undesireable creatures.Well flutterbys please try to behave and try to be healthy as we can be.huge hug to you all Janice xxxx
“A Broken Flutterby”… Big hugs Ami!!!
You poor love xxx
This is to prove anything can be mended xx
2011 was broken for a few of us, so here is the biggest wish of all to see the old year out and the new year in for us flutterbys…
Do you all remember the verse one for sorrow 2 for joy etc.,
Add the numbers of 2012 — 5
5 for silver… 2012 WILL have a silver lining for all who own a silver flutterby… that is my wish for 2012 xxxxxxx
Was that a bit deep??? ha ha!! sorry its the grey matter kicking in after working 3 out of the 4 days over xmas, not enough sleep and too much to eat… Groan!
I got a treat last night at work they let me off an hour early 
I must have looked tired that does’nt happen often!!!
Today will be spent cleaning up the aftermath of Crimbo
Nice to hear your son got to chat Janice as for the snake EEEEEEK!!
I would have been mortified I really dont like them!!!
Daniels fear is spiders and has yet to come across a camel spider god help anyone around if he does… have you ever heard a man scream?? I have… he saw a 2" one in my bath once and frightened the living daylights out of us as he ran down the stairs at 100 miles an hour screaming!!! NOT a pleasant sight!!!
Well flutterbys i’m going to get started on the mayhem around me I hope your not in too much pain Ami and soooo glad you can still type, bless you xxx
Love and big hugs to you all and to the glamorous Em… I saw your xmas pic booooootiful… just like all of us ha ha ha!!!
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Doz
Aw! What a truly lovely wish for us all! Well, got my lucky butterfly for 2012! I’m afraid I’ve not had much sleep either Doz but mine’s down to my bloomin’ arm!! Did you make the most of your early leave and jump into your PJ’s? Have to say I’ve not felt like anything else since I slipped, the pain has made me feel absolutely rubbish and I suppose some is shock. I heard from the hospital today and I have to go in tomorrow. Ugh!! What is this glamorous Emm, then?? I’m most curious. I need a lift in spirit, Emmy, so come on, let me see something nice!! Lovely that you, Doz & Janice, have been in touch with your sons.
Speak to you all after tomorrow when I’m with it - no more than normal that is!!
Hugs Ami xx
Ami Flutterby
Just popping on to say good luck i’m sure it’ll all be fine and once its sorted the pain will go…we’ll be with you in thought lovey…
Yes Pj’s went straight on and I went straight to bed :)this lack of sleep is rubbbish so grab it while you can when you can hon!
take good care xxxxhugxxx
Ami I know you won’t read this till after your op but thinking of you and hope all is ok for you.
Doz I am terrified of spiders so hope poor Daniel is fortunate not to see any.You are more sorted than me rushed to tidy up a bit today as got friends coming tonight.Still if I keep lights low they won’t notice after a few wines ha ha.
Emmy hope the good luck fairy comes to us all in 2012 I think we all deserve it.
Well flutterbys got family coming at weekend so I will wish you all a HEALTHY and HAPPY NEW YEAR love and big hugs to you all out there who have popped into the site now and again these wishes are for everyone and we will hopefully all have a wonderful 2012 Janice xxxxx
Ami what a blow just at the festive period when A&E is busy and you need your hands ++. I hope you are out of pain now., it is such a shame they couldn’t have done the operation on the day you had your fall, but I suppose staffing levels are lower at Christmas and it is emergencies only. The only advantage of having had Breast Cancer is there are a lot of pain relief tablets left over, so hopefully you could keep the discomfort at bay. I so hope you have help at home… Having fractured my scaphoid twice I know what a pain in the butt it is to cope with a plaster cast … Although you might not need one because of the plates ( it is a long time since I did my two year Orthopaedic training)
Doz glad you could speak to your boy. Spiders seem to be a great fear of our big men. My son levitated off an elephant at the sight of a bird spider(as big as a fist and hairy) on its head!!!
Christmas was superb as far as my darling grandchildren 16 months 4yrs and 6yrs were concerned. It is such a joy to see their excitement. Cinderella at Richmond on Boxing Day finished the break off nicely.
I started Radiotherapy yesterday. Another first I didn’t contemplate as happening to me. At least the Tax side effects are lessening.
Roll on 2012 and crossing every finger and toe that it will be a healthy one
Take care all
Cackles xx
Hi Cackles
So pleased xmas was a success for you you made me laugh at the story of your son on the elephant Daniel would have been reversing off it quicker than you could say spider… he really is terrified tho I dont know why?? The camel spiders in question can be the size of a small cat and have a habit of climbing into shoes and clothing so he has been putting all his clothes into a zipped bag everynight I’ve never known him be so tidy it will be a sight to behold!!!
I fractured my scaphoid when I hit the wall at badminton… missed the shuttlecock and cockled over… the wall stopped me I have never been in so much pain in my life, that was 11 years ago and it still gives me a bit of grief now and then so I know how you and Ami bless her feel/felt…
Good luck honey with the radiotherapy, take it easy and dont overdo things as it can make you tired towards the end so be kind to yourself don the PJ’s and wrap yourself up in cotton wool :)let us all know how you are getting on and all my best wishes for the new year may it be a healthy and happy 2012 flutterby…
Have a brilliant night Janice i’m sure the house looks fine
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I am back just! done the rounds with family so that is another job done! I hope your wrist has settled ami and it heals quickly for you!
Well how is everyone? apart from trying not to get into trouble? We have however been told to be good jmr you can hang your head in shame since when have we behaved??? He!He! hell a little of what you fancy!!!
Naughty Doz, was a pic I put up after making an effort Christmas day to show my thoughtful daughter how my pressie looked as it’s really lovely then everyone put messages which made me blush ,took me sometime to read them all bless they were all being kind but it is a lovely boost when you feel a bit down!! I will reread on a bad day and tell myself I can do it!!!
Will load the blessed thing and no more compliments I haven’t got any money so go steady!! Loads of Hugs and up with the Pj’s all in situ so all is right with my world!
Take care flutterbys HUGSxxxxEm xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi everyone
Came out of hospital yesterday afternoon like a dying duck! I feel a bit brighter today but tired and wan. I have to have the plaster on 2 weeks, normally it’s 2 days with a plate but apparently there were complications. Huhhh! Anyhow, I’ve become quite adept at opening things with my knees!! It’s amazing what you can do when you have to improvise! The pain has been horrid - my hair’s like a pigs nest - and I look like someone I don’t know.
My God Doz, a camel spider the size of a small cat?? Eeek!!
Cackles, I think I would certainly have levitated off an elephant at the sight of a bird spider!! I can’t believe the size! One winter teatime I placed some food scraps high up on a bird shelf in the garden, came inside and went to the loo. I felt what seemed like a pin tumbling down my back to land down my trousers. When I investigated a spider had got down the back of my jumper and bit me on the bum!
Sparkling Emmy! I think that will be you new name, lovely. You look radiant and fab and your hair looks a lovely colour. (Enjoy the Oscars!) My hair seems so lacklustre. I’m tempted to try the dog shampoo as his coat is great!
Cackles. I hope your radiotherapy goes well. I didn’t find it bad at all after everything else I’d had. One day at a time and eventually it gets done.
Thank you all so much for being there over the last months. It’s meant so much to me, flutterbys. I’m also wishing for a great New Year for each and everyone of us girls who are on this site.
Have a great night
Hugs Ami xx
I have yet to come back flutterbys! The body is there… but the kind of mind and/or emotional intelligence is just so tight/fragile. It’s as if I can only focus on one thing or one person… and those I am not focussing on or forget about, are getting upset…
Anyway… It will improve… as the new year unfolds, my wings will get stronger and I will flutter more…
Bless you all, each one, for being there through 2011… this site has been invaluable…
Have a VERY different/blessed new year flutterbys…
Jane
ami how horrible but now you are home it will get better ,there is nowhere else you should be New Year. Bless you at this rate you could get a job in a circus! Roll up and see the amazing lady who opens jars with her knees!!! On a more serious note it must be a b----r! I wish you a speedy recovery flutterby.As for the hair it has changed I now have a head of curly thick hair! It was fine and straight! It has taken me the last six months to get used to and now I guess I have grown into it ,all part of the me I am becoming!
Jane it is the hardest road to travel lovely and I did exactly the same concentrated on one thing at a time as I felt I needed to focus on getting better so I could deal with the rest later, so please DO NOT feel any guilt for heavens sake we all deal with this our own way no right way no wrong way but what is best for us at the time. No one can do it for us so we do the best we can. Yes that flutterby is unfurling and next year we will all be looking back in amazement! How amazing that we have done it and will finish it become who we should be after all we can’t let our experience not change us somewhat. I will be kinder to anyone who is ill and even more important be kinder to myself as I am sure so will you all.
jmr many thanks for your good wishes I hope your family gathering is doing you a power of good!
Doz I hope your head will still be there in the morning! Becoming famous for leaving it in strange places!!! He!He!
Much love to you all and I wish you health and happiness, Happy New Year flutterbys and I look forward to travelling with my inspiring companions throughout 2012. BIG hugs Em xxxxxxxxxx
Oh,Emmy
I’ve had tears rolling down my face at the Amazing Lady who opens jars with her knees!! You’re a real tonic! A great exit for the end of the year. Oh, I forgot! I can even tie my dressing gown belt with my teeth for an encore, hee hee!!
New Year kiss, Ami x
So glad it made you smile ami, wow the dressing gown trick sounds good too! I wonder what amazing tricks we have between us? I LOVE pull up trousers (no need to explain!) it is amazing how we adapt, again a sort of ‘becoming a new us’ we are so tried and tested! Well my wish is that all flutterbys grow into their new skins and are kind to themselves. I look forward to hearing how we all ‘grow’ and as ever we are in wonderful company! Big group hug flutterbys and a stonking, fab New Year Em xxxxxxx
“HAPPY NEW YEAR BUTTERFLIES ONE AND ALL”
I will write this post to every single one of you…
If I had’nt found you all I dont know that I would have regained some of my old confidence or sense of humour… reading Jane’s post (and filling up) made me realize how hard this journey has been in all directions… especially getting some order back in our lives!!
It is slowly happening but the one thing we forget… or was’nt really informed about is that it does take time for the body and definately for the mind to start settling down and heal itself…
I wont rabbit on as we’ve all said it in the past but no matter how often you pop on here or for whatever reason you have all been part of making me feel almost whole again thankyou from the bottom of my heart xxx
I wish you all a healthy…prosperous…happy new year for 2012 and for many many years to come… Flutterbys are unfurling and will one day become the most beautiful compassionate beings on this earth… How do I know?? I have seen it happening since first we met
Bless you all Doz xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxhugsxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi flutterbys, I hope you are all keeping well? How horrible has our weather been? I had to drive for my scan yesterday morning 26 miles for an 8.00am appointment!!! It was the drive from hell!! I think every idiot was out there in that lot, as if it wasn’t bad enough we witnessed a ‘close shave’ with one silly driver!! Never mind been to work and guess what??? Yep PJ’s!!! It did feel strange to be in for just a day then it will be 3 mornings next week, mind you a full day almost Tues as we have a meeting then off for the ‘H’ on Thursday so I just may be a gibbering wreck by the end of it all!
I hope things are looking up for you all,
Doz what a lovely thing to write and I just wanted to say DITTO! It has helped me to stay sane! I am not too sure where I went but I do know I have come to a place with some amazing people and a wonderful sense of belonging!
I am so glad to have found all you wonderful flutterbys those of you who write on here and those of you who like I did read through the posts.
ami any new tricks to report? my mind is already boggled!
Jane I hope you are coping ? I really think it is a place we have all visited I so hope you are on the way up?
Cackles I hope your rads are being kind to you? I found the travelling tiring ,it became a way of life for the month and you sort of end up in a daze after wondering where you are!!! Well I did but then we are all different thankfully! I also hope the Tax S/E are lessened.
jmr I used to be terrified of spiders till the day I sat on the loo and saw a massive one running about the ceiling! I ran screaming from the loo pants around ankles (not a pretty sight!) to find my then small children all starting to cry 'cos I was making quite a noise!! I felt so awful that I then forced myself to confront the blasted things! slowly,slowly the fear was much less with time but I still don’t like them I live in a house with beams and they love them so I have one of those humane catchers (I don’t want to kill them) which has made my life so much easier but I could not sleep in a room knowing there was one in it I have to catch it and put it out or I would go nuts just thinking about it!!!
Well that’s me checked in for today I hope all is right with you flutterbys and as ever sending big hugs to all Em xxxxx
Ha ha ha aaaaargh… I’m still picturing you running round the house panties round ankles Em dear it could only happen to you bless ya!!!
Right now i’m composed…
Hi Flutterbys
The weather is dreadful, soooooo cold and windy, I didnt meet any idiot drivers (thankgoodness) on my way to work just half a tree in the middle of a country road so had to go back 4 miles and go the long way to work 
I should have finished at 10pm as I was doing a special one to one on a confused patient but it turned out to be a very late finish 01.45am (a few unforseen problems) the drive home at that time of night was really scary so was glad to be finally home.
But the howling wind kept me awake for ages… all I could hear was the masts clanging together from the small Marina close by, there’s only around 20 boats there but my goodness did they make a racket!!!
I hope your all well and the wrist is,nt playing up Ami… Also like Em I hope the R/T is going as well as can be expected Cackles.
Jane keep your chin up, you will get there its just the time it takes that wears you down and not seeing/feeling an end to it all, But it will come sweetie I know I still have days when it engulfs me all over again but they are getting less now so I hope you will start to get there really soon xx
I have my app, in a couple of weeks with The living with/beyond breast cancer team so I will post as much as the grey matter remembers I will be asking about Letrozole side effects and if there are any remedies to alleviate them… these hot flushes are no joke now thought they would have eased but no such luck!!!The Joys of BC… NOT!!!
I’m working nights this weekend so wont be worried about Insomnia this week girls woohoo!!!Only doing 2 so will be a doddle compared to 4 days
Hope the new year is being kind to you all… good luck on thurs Em hope there are no S/E this time round xxx As for jibbering wreck thats no way to talk about yourself your all amazing dont forget that flutterbys xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxhugxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi everyone hope you are managing things ok in this horrid wind.
As far as spiders are concerned Em years ago we were having a picnic and my daughter put one on my lap I was running around like a headless chicken and screaming place was packed with people so I felt a right idiot so now Itry to keep it under control. My daughter got such a shock as she didn’t realise how bad my fear is.Funny that none of my kids are frightened of them but my Grandson is.Cackles keep your chin up and it will soon be over but it is really tiring for you as well as stressful.
Jane I can only empathise with you and hope that things start to get better it does take time and you need to only take small steps at a time.
Doz I am still lying awake some nights but not having as many horrible thoughts and not many tears now so I must be getting there due to all the support from yourself and the rest of the butterflies.Hope your nights go over okay I worked them for years and I sometimes wonder if my insomnia is because I go into night shift mode if I’m not asleep by a certain time ha ha.
Ami I hope your wrist is improving and you are not in so much pain take it easy and don’t try to be too clever it just tires you out.
Well girls time for the P.Js and my book as O.H is watching footie tonight Hugs to all Janice xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi everyone
Emmy. I love pull up trousers too. I can’t abide anything which I find uncomfortable - the looser the better! After they cut off the sleeve of my merino wool jumper, which I quite liked, to get at my arm, I’m now trying to search for things in the wardrobe with wide sleeves which will go over my cast! This week I feel as if I’ve taken a step backwards. Today is the 1st day I’ve felt slightly better. The operation etc seems to have knocked me sideways and yes, Doz as you say about body & mind, my body & mind has been kicked about a bit, once more. No, jmr, I can’t be too clever, I feel too weak! I sound like a right moaner but I just can’t wait to feel well again! I didn’t expect to feel this way. Don’t know how you feel having had another operation? The PJ’s have certainly made a reappearance. Emmy how has your Herceptin session gone today? Do hope your veins have held up and you don‘t feel too rubbishy. As for new tricks, my teeth have a new lease of life, it’s given them something to do, - holding things, pulling things open etc! Thinking of you Cackles and how the rads are going. Slap on the Aqueous cream! Jane, thinking of you also. Try to remember, you can only think of one thing at a time, so make it a positive, nice one, a healing one and you will get stronger given time. Shove the horrid ones to the back. “Get thee behind me” and all that - there’s no space for those ones, at all!!
Hugs all round, Ami xx