Words Spoken Which I Cannot Get Out My Head

Life after a breast cancer diagnosis Living with breast cancer
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I thought I was doing well, all of my treatment over and working hard to carry on and not let this get to me.
I know I am not looking good, hair still growing back, bruise easily, misshaped right breast and putting on weight due to taking letrozole (which I am working to try and correct) my self-esteem has never been good, so getting back out there has not been easy,
Yesterday I was told I had put weight on (followed by the words) I am only being honest.
I cannot get those words out of my head I am devastated (silly, silly I know) - why do people need to be so rude do they think it is clever and brave? Have they any idea what those words have done do they even care?

Feeling utterly devastated.

Poppy xx

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(The thing that person said you which I am not repeating) - what a pointless and cruel remark to make.

I hope you can re-focus on my comment to you which is that you are doing well. None of what you are going through is easy and none of it was deserved. You have got back out there and have an absolute right to. I’m only being honest

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@Anonymous  and @silvertong  - both of your messages made me cry, Poppy’s because I am stunned that someone could come out with something like that and Silvertong because your message was so lovely, true and reassuring. Poppy, it is not silly not to be able to get those words out of your head, but please do keep reading Silvertong’s message instead to try to stop them. My very wise mother in law told me while I was going through treatment (and it applies to any time) that I should surround myself with people who top up my batteries, rather than drain them. The person who spoke to you is clearly in the second category.

We are so vulnerable after treatment, we need people around who make us feel better. Anytime I’ve had a rude comment I’m so shocked at the time that I don’t say anything, but when home wish I had thought of a good reply.

I can only repeat Silvertong’s message - you are doing well. Keep chatting on here and we’ll help you get rid of that demon message. Sending hugs and love Evie xx