Work is treating me terribly

Hi-
I don’t know if anyone has run into this. My place of business has been very insensitive. I don’t need flowers or card. Not one person said good luck when I went for my surgery. Not one person has asked me how I’m doing. Unfortunately-my position was eliminated-and they put me in a similar position. I work at a rehab/assisted living/long term care facility. So there are many jobs that are a lot alike.
When I was offered this job, I made it very clear I had cancer and would be going through radiation. Well my new co-workers are treating me like I had leprosy . I come back from radiation and they act like I had been partying. Never a how are you? In fact it’s just the opposite. They are throwing me in like I have been there 10 years. I came out today and said I don’t think I’m well liked due to my radiation schedule. They played stupid of course. I don’t want to leave. It’s 2 days a week right up the street. Plus I don’t want to give them satisfaction of driving me out. Any else being treated lousy because of their breast cancer?

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Hi Loulou
I’m sorry to say that I was in a similar situation- I was diagnosed during the Covid time - and it all went downhill workwise for me when everyone returned to the workplace. Finally I decided that it was better for me to leave and just concentrate on me for a change.
But I know I was advised to stay at my job and it was the employers responsibility to make changes at work so that I could continue with my job.
I just think some people at work were unable to cope with my diagnosis and really didn’t know what to say to me.
Please try to be kind to yourself. Sending cyber hugs to you x

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That sounds horrible. If this is how you feel your coworkers treat you, have you raised it with the management team or owners who hired you? Maybe the staff need some training?

Hi, I had six weeks off sick when I had a lumpectomy as its a job that involed heavy lifting. When i was due to go back the toldme they had given my job to someone else. Then offered me 1.5 hours a day over 3 days. It takes me half an hour to drive to work so I had to turn it down. I am now unemployed.

Hi @loulou1
So sorry you are been treated that way by staff , have you not got a manager or hr you can speak to especially as you are going through radiation makes you tired and low , your not on your own this forum is a good sounding board .Just take care of yourself and I wish you well Xx

Hi-
I don’t know if anyone has run into this. My place of business has been very insensitive. I don’t need flowers or card. Not one person said good luck when I went for my surgery. Not one person has asked me how I’m doing. Unfortunately-my position was eliminated-and they put me in a similar position. I work at a rehab/assisted living/long term care facility. So there are many jobs that are a lot alike.
When I was offered this job, I made it very clear I had cancer and would be going through radiation. Well my new co-workers are treating me like I had leprosy . I come back from radiation and they act like I had been partying. Never a how are you? In fact it’s just the opposite. They are throwing me in like I have been there 10 years. I came out today and said I don’t think I’m well liked due to my radiation schedule. They played stupid of course. I don’t want to leave. It’s 2 days a week right up the street. Plus I don’t want to give them satisfaction of driving me out. Any else being treated lousy because of their breast cancer?

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Speak to a lawyer free 30 minute consultation about it, if they are going to try constructive dismissal then you can use your 30 min session to know your rights so any games from them you can take them to the cleaners :heart: don’t be intimidated by anything, you are kick ass my lovely, everyone here is :muscle::two_hearts::two_hearts::sparkles::sparkles:Shi xx

We are a Catholic organization on top of it!! We have a spiritual department, and I going to talk with her. She sends out emails about praying for this….praying that. Which is fine-they need prayers too. But I’m going to suggest we pray for our sick colleagues. Be extra kind to colleagues that are struggling. I always get myself in hot water when I speak up-can’t keep my mouth shut-only when the underdog is struggling, and I’m no referring to me.

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:heart:use your voice :heart: be wise in the use of your words when you send the email :heart: make the difference, make each one that might read it stop and take a moment to realise how lucky they are to not be walking in another persons shoes who is going through any treatment for any illness, to stop and take a moment that they are lucky to not have a loved one or a friend to be going through any treatment for any illness, use your words as power to reach any of them, that could make a difference and make a change to not just how you are treated but others that will follow you, and there will be others that unfortunately will face something during their lifetime :heart::two_hearts::two_hearts::sparkles::sparkles:Shi xx

I may. But if I must be ready. I have to cool of.

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:heart:draft a few out till you’ve covered everything you want to say so that it’s all there all in one go, then keep it in case you ever need it if required at a later date :heart: I’m sure the words you right will be well thought out are carefully considered :heart:when you cease to allow the negativity of your work colleagues and work environment to influence your words, you know you can do it :heart: hopefully it benefits you and any others at your work place who might or may have been on the receiving end of what you are having happen to you too :heart:wishing you luck :heart::two_hearts::two_hearts::sparkles::sparkles:Shi xx