Hi, i came across this site while searching for info on the net. I found a lump in my breast on Sat, saw my gp on Mon who found the lump straight away and also said she could feel a hard mass in the same breast. I have been referred to the hospital and am now waiting for an appointment. Eversince i have been so worried, panicky, terrified, you name it, not eating or drinking, cant sleep and cant think of anything else. The only thing im thinking is that my 2 small boys are going to lose their mum. Just wondering if this feeling is normal and any advice on how to get through this
thank you for any help you can give, i feel so alone
Sam xxx
Hi Sam,
What you are feeling is totally normal and we have all been through the same or similar emotions and fears.
I know it’s a really hard time, waiting for the results is the worst time of all. It can be a very lonely place. But you are not alone in this. Try and take one day at a time.
Everyone on here offers fantastic support so keep posting.
One bit of advice I would give is not to spend much time searching the net. There is a lot of wrong and outdated information there. This site will give you good support and there are people on the helpline you can talk to if you need to.
Lynda
Hi Sam, welcome to the BCC forums
I am sorry to read that you are having such a difficult time at the moment, as Lynda has kindly suggested, it may help to talk to one of our helpliners, they are here to offer you further support and information. the lines are open 9-5 Mon-Fri and 9-2 Sat on 0808 800 6000
I am posting a link to the BCC publication ‘Referral to a breast clinic’ which you may find useful whilst you are awaiting your appointment as it explains what you can expect to happen at the clinic:
www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/worried-about-breast-cancer/referral-breast-clinic-bcc70
Best wishes
Lucy
Hi Sam
you’re in a very scary place at the moment, its the unknown which is the worst. Once i’d been referred to Breast clinic, i had an appointment within 3 weeks, i know it seems a lifetime, but i tried to carry on as normal and not dwell too much on what if.
it may not be anything sinister for you, there are other things that it could be, and fingers crossed that will be the case.
On the day of my appointment they were able to give me a provisional diagnosis, which i didn’t expect, i just thought it would be tests and go back for the results, so i’d advise to take someone with you, for moral support.
As Lynda says, this site is fantastic, you can ask any questions and someone will reply to you, so remember you’re not alone
Gill x
Thank you so much, ive downloaded the info so now know what to expect at my appointment. Just wish it would hurry up and get here the waiting is awful. I havent told my family yet as i dont want to worry them, i was going to tell them when ive been to the clinic, is that wrong ?
sam x
Hi Sam
My story is very similar, felt a lump on 20th December and my whole emotional well-being fell apart - absolutely the same feelings as you. I was away on holiday so came back and tried to enjoy Christmas and then went on another planned 5 day break so finally rang the GP and saw her on 4th January. She had a feel and could feel the lump and referred me for a mammogram and U/S scan and obviously wouldn’t commit to what it might be. Went for the tests on 10th January and I was really lucky as my ultrasound sonographer took pity on me when I collapsed into crying fits and told me straight away it was a benign cyst and my mammogram looked normal. They normally won’t discuss results with you and send them direct to GP. I am booked into see GP on Friday so hopefully she will say the same. There is no change to the breast whatsover or discharge etc, only a pea shaped lump which is fairly moveable under the skin, it is sitting directly above my nipple. This experience has affected me deeply and I am actually gonna ask for a sick note for a few days to get back on track. Wasn’t eating, sleeping, constantly crying, panic attacks, not going out etc etc, good luck and fingers crossed XX
When I had my ultrasound they told me straight away they thought it was cancer.
I didn’t tell anyone except my OH until it was confirmed (3 days later) so I can understand you not wanting to worry the family. But Gill is right it is really best to take someone with you if you can.
Lynda
Hi everyone, i have my appointment for mon 16th at the bcc so hopefully i will get an idea of whats going on, nothing can be as bad as what is going on in my head. I also have a very achy tingly arm, neck and shoulder with a lump on top of my shoulder, so my minds telling me that its the cancer and it has spread everywhere and i havent even been diagnosed yet. Lack of sleep is taking its toll i think. Does anyone know how long it is after my tests on monday before i will be told what my lump is ?
sam xx
Hi Sam,
Will be thinking of you on monday. Hope your results come back clear. The waiting is a nightmare,its so emotional. I’ m trying to be positive, only my husband knows, haven’t told my mum and brother, don’t want them to worry too!
Keep in touch Sam,theres lots of support for you on here.
Nicci xx
Hi Sam,was exactly in the same position as you on the 8th Dec,GP - small lump nothing to worry about - truth was,small lump was part of a larger mass,Awful Christmas,thought just like you,the absolute worse,but no! It’s not mine proved positive for cancer cells,but a lot are also benign cysts or tumours,I would say keep coming back to this forum,while your waiting for your results,but also please try and continue as normal,it all helps to prepare you for any good or bad news,and even if it is bad,people asociate the word cancer with death,but treatments are so good now,I’ve been told,I had to have a mx,this wk(Tue),but am positve for the future,things can only get better,you will be fine!
Hi, when I went for mamogran they then sent me for us and biopsy, they told me there they thought it was suspicious, this was the tuesday went back on thursday and I was told bc. Please remember that when you think you have something and your mind is telling you its everywhere(when its not)you can start to imagine pain. Iv had lumps before and I was never worried, this time I really do think I knew it was different. Good luck, karen xx
Hi sam,
I have my appointment at bcc in chelmsford on Monday 16th too!!!
I went to the docs on tue, with what i thought was an infection and he happened to find a big lump behind my nipple so he was as shocked as me. Feel really silly as my mum was diagnosed at age 44 and has just been signed off by the same clinic after 6 years!!!
I too have 3 little boys and only 31 so i am expecting the worst and hoping for the BEST xxxx
Hope you will be fine 
xxxxx So with you on the worrying though xxx
Hi Sam,
They normally give you a good idea when you go to the clinic of what it might be, but if they take biopsy then you will go back a week later for the proper results.
Good luck its not alwsys bad news fingers crossed for you all waiting for results
Deb xx
Hi kc31 and welcome to the BCC forums
In addition to the support you will find here from your fellow users please feel free to call our helpliners, they are here to offer you further support and a listening ear on 0808 800 6000, Mon-Fri 9-5 and Sat 9-2
Take care
Lucy
Hi kc31,
ill be thinking of you tomorrow, i hope we both get good results. I think id rather just know what im facing, not knowing is the hardest thing. Feeling a little bit scared now, so far its all in my mind, but tomorrow all my fears could become reality.
Im off to try to get some sleep (not holding out much hope) need my energy to face tomorrow.
Take care and good luck tomorrow
Sam xxx
Just sending my love and healing thoughts to you both and every other lady off to a clinic somewhere tomorrow. I was diagnosed in April 2010 and all you are feeling is absolutely natural and expected. Sleep helps a whole lot if you can get it. You can and will cope with whatever happens and try and think of tomorrow as being the first day of getting better - from whatever it is, lots and lots of love, let us know how you get on be thinking of you xxxx
Hi lovely ladies,
I had an us and a biopsy which wasnt nice as they tried fine needle first but the lump was too hard!! So then had the big needle with an incision.
But on the good side the doc did say he thinks!!! its a fat lump so i am expecting good news next monday.
Also i did ask if the lump had a blood supply and it hasnt so heres hoping X
Sam how did you get on? Been thinking of you xxxx
Hi everybody,
I have some excellent news, i had a mammo, then an us and was told all they could see was normal breast tissue. Apparently my lump is just hard tissue and glands. I cant believe how lucky i am, i dont know how i would have got through this without all of you wonderful people on here, you are all amazing.
KC31 sounds like very good news, fingers crossed for monday. I do hope you’re not too sore tonight, been thinking of you too xxxxxx
Hi everyone
I am so glad I found this forum when doing a google search yesterday. Plucked up the courage to see the doctor yesterday after finding what I thought was something suspicious over christmas. There seems to be some thickening tissue in my right breast which she feels should be investigated so am now waiting for the call to the clinic which should be within 2 weeks.
I ditto all the above feelings, normally I’m quite calm and rational but I can’t even begin to explain how I’ve felt since walking out the doctors surgery. Seems to be aches and pains everywhere which I am sure are all in my head, can;t concentrate on anything and appart from OH haven’t told anyone yet. Worried about effect on 2 daughters who are both going through exams right - A Levels and 2nd year of Uni. I know it may well be completely benign but currently can’t help thinking the worst. I think once I have the appointment through it may be a bit better but this waiting game is no fun.
Reading through the threads on here has been a big help, so keeping everything crossed and really do need to try and have a more normal day today.
Hi Pooky,
Just wanted to say fantastic news!!! all the very best to you xx