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Angelmoubjr33
Member

Re: Struggling

Hi Thank you for replaying and for your kind words if you dont mind me asking what helped you get through the difficult times and the times you felt like giving up ?? 

PinkCloud_34
Member

Re: Struggling

Chemo is scary, I will never forget how hard I cried during my first treatment. I only can say that this will pass, before you know it you will be on your last treatment ringing that bell!!!! Keep your eye on the prize, there will be moments that you feel like giving up but keep pushing. The end result is worth it!:)

Angelmoubjr33
Member

Re: Struggling

I am already on anti depression tablets but have been upped but still struggling everyday I feel something is going to go wrong I cant seem to get that out my head . What helped you x

DizzyDee
Community Champion

Re: Struggling

The most important thing I would say it’s don’t be hard on yourself for feeling depressed it’s perfectly normal during and after treatment. All your love ones say things like stay positive, you’re a fighter you will get through this and other unhelpful terms. Its not their fault they don’t know what yo say. But is can make us feel weak or a failure for being depressed. I was put on anti depressants during and after treatment. It really helped me as I live alone so needed it if I’m honest and they did help me cope. This forum though is the best place to start to get advice and know you are not alone. Sending hugs xxx

Evie-S
Community Champion

Re: Struggling

@Angelmoubjr33 - here is the link to the April 2021 chemo starter group: https://forum.breastcancernow.org/t5/Chemotherapy-monthly-threads/April-2021-Chemo-Starters/td-p/136...

I hope this works, but if not or if you lose it anytime - go to the forum home page, then click on the board “going through BC treatment” and then the “chemo monthly boards”. You can also find all the other monthly groups in case you want to see their progress. You can join any board, but the latest one will be the one with people at the same stage. Just introduce yourself briefly and you will be warmly welcomed. But any questions, please message me any time.

You might also want to look into the Someone like Me service - again I’m going to try to send you a link, https://breastcancernow.org/information-support/support-you/someone-me-telephone-support

I’m glad to hear that you have sorted out some counselling and also that your GP is going to check on you this Wednesday. I had counselling after treatment and it helped me a huge amount. Getting out for a daily walk is important whenever you can, especially in the sun. My counsellor suggested starting a gratitude diary, where I could write down say 1 to 3 things each day, or when I wanted, that I was grateful for. It could be anything from the sun shining, to getting a car parking space, or a call from someone. I found that was also useful. But it’s important not to feel like it is a chore of any type, so that you don’t beat yourself up if there is nothing to write for a day/week. We are all so individual that we have to find what works for us. Please keep in touch - and do let me know if I can help further or if the links don’t work. My very best wishes as you go forward with chemo. Evie xx

Angelmoubjr33
Member

Re: Struggling

Thank you so much for the links I will definitely look into them I am trying to get put for a walk daily to help but its hard when you have so much going through your mind x 

Angelmoubjr33
Member

Re: Struggling

Hi yes would love the link please 

I have spoken to my breast nurse and they are trying to sort out some counselling for me also my gp is going to ring me Wednesday to see how I am getting on . I am trying to go for a walk daily to get me out for a bit . X 

Evie-S
Community Champion

Re: Struggling

Hi @Angelmoubjr33 - it’s really good that you have reached out on here and I’m sure others will be along to share their stories too. Chiara has also sent you some useful links to try.

First of all, your fears do NOT sound at all stupid. I can totally understand your fear of chemo - when I arrived for my first chemo I sat down in the chair, then got up and tried to run away. My lovely nurse followed me and gently persuaded me to come back, telling me I owed it to myself to do all I could to get rid of the BC. Don’t feel afraid to tell your chemo nurse about your fears, they will then do even more to help you. Also try to remember that the doctors have to tell us, for legal reasons, about all the possible side effects, but that doesn’t mean you will suffer from all, or indeed any. If you have any worries or concerns, for example a raised temperature, or any other side effect do call the chemo helpline - they should have given you a number. I called whenever I was worried, I felt like a nuisance but they don’t see it that way - they want and need to know so they can treat anything, and quickly.

Have you joined the monthly chemo thread on here - I’m guessing April if you are going through treatment now? Let me know if you would like me to send the link.

Also, being hit with a BC diagnosis is like being hit by a bus that came out of nowhere. The mental side is very very hard to deal with, so don’t be hard on yourself because you feel as you do. I had chemo about 4 years ago and came on here for support. One excellent piece of advice I received was to try to take things one day at a time, or even one hour at a time when things got especially tough.

Regarding your depression, can you speak to your GP or BC team to see what they can offer for help? Are you already seeing a counsellor? Apologies for mentioning things I’m sure you are already doing.

Please keep chatting on here anytime, with questions or if you just want to chat. Sending big gentle hugs, Evie xx

Chiara_BCN
Community Manager

Re: Struggling

Hi Angelmoubjr33

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way, 
I hope this Forum provides a space for you to learn about how other people have managed their depression and anxiety.

In the mean time, here are some links that you may find helpful:

https://breastcancernow.org/information-support/facing-breast-cancer/living-beyond-breast-cancer/lif...

https://breastcancernow.org/about-us/news-personal-stories/10-ways-overcome-anxiety-when-worry-gets-...

https://breastcancernow.org/about-us/news-personal-stories/my-anxiety-stopped-me-seeing-future

https://breastcancernow.org/about-us/news-personal-stories/podcast-discussion-alice-may-managing-her...

Wishing you all the best 💜

Chiara

Angelmoubjr33
Member

Struggling

Hi can anyone help my depression has been bad since starting chemo I'm so scared and feel like chemo is going to kill me I know it sounds stupid but it's how I feels I'm so scared something is going to happen I really anxious and can't stop racing thoughts can anyone suggest anything that could help.???