I am sorry you going through this, just know we all are thinking of you and sending you love from wherever, especially since we too have been through this. The waiting seems crazy, but try not to focus on that. Get busy with something and enjoy the things you enjoy, spend time with family and friends. Watch a funny movie.. anything to distract you. You will be okay.
In a way the waiting prepares one psychologically for whatever is to come, even if it is not such good news. None of us expected to be in this place.. but somehow that’s where we found ourselves to be and got through it.
Sending you a big hug and prayers. You are not alone, this is what is so wonderful about this breast cancer group. None of us know each other but we feel each other’s anxiety, pain and fear. No one truly understands how one feels in this situation accept those going through this themselves or those who have gone through breast cancer.
I saw that taking someone to your appointment has been suggested - if there is someone suitable ( the right person who will take note etc. )that’s a good idea . I was diagnosed and treated at the end of lockdown and I wasn’t allowed to have anyone with me and some of my appointments were by phone . If you don’t have anyone that you think would be the right person to go with you then make sure you’re ready with questions that you feel you need answered .
I had a pad of paper and wrote down my questions in advance and crossed them out as they were answered . When they said was there anything I wanted to ask I was ready . I even made a few notes as sometimes the answers threw up more questions which I was able to get answered . - the end result looked a bit like a tree diagram which I added to as well after the appointment as once I had results I felt it was safe to research .
You might also feel a bit better ifyou write down the questions you have related to possible cancer . Also write down anything you might think you would need to know if it’s benign .
Some people have been helped by journalling as well . Sending love xx
This is true. I spoke to a nurse today to see if they could tell me what was said on the day as I can’t totally remember. I wish I hadn’t as it’s made me worse. Think I’ve cried most of today
@321_cake I just wanted to send virtual hugs and say I understand how you are feeling.
I have been diagnosed, had surgery but have needed more scans and tests. All the waiting each time causes so much anxiety. I have days where I am ok and other days I could cry all day. I have been given some medixation to help me through this time from my GP.
I spoke to my nurse last week about a recent appointment and came off the call feeling worse too. Have you tried ringing the nurses at Breast Cancer now, they have been lovely and reassuring when I’ve spoken to them.
Take care x
Oh bless you . Write down what she said before you forget again . I had a similar wait to you for the results from my first procedure and that was the worst part for me . I was ok for the first week but after that I was ok in the day but during some of the evenings I was a total mess . All I can say is try to snatch some little moments of joy if you can. Oddly enough everything good thing that happened up to me getting my second surgery felt more precious to me and made me feel more alive than usual - the time spent with family over Christmas ( which we had not been able to do the previous year ). The time spent with friends , swimming in the sea , walking on the beach on a cold but sunny day , snuggling up with my partner on the sofa , my Yoga classes - these things helped me to hold onto my sanity . I don’t know if there’s something that you love that makes you feel good under normal circumstances that you could do ? I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you that your results will be negative but if not then you will be starting treatment and then you may not be able to do the activities you like for a while . Any sort of physical activity will help your body to deal with stress. Xx
Sorry I hit reply before i’d finished. I really hope everything is ok when you get your results. This waiting time is really really hard. Do you have family or friends you can talk to about how you are feeling? I find that helps me too x
@burstcouch, So sorry to read you have a positive diagnosis, we are all here for you with love and support.
Take one day at a time at the moment, write down all your questions and thoughts I feel this will help you when you need to make decisions regarding treatment plan.
@321_cake bless you my lovely, it’s good to cry and let out your emotions. Once you have a plan in place I feel you may start to feel better and able to cope a bit better.
