Just want to reach out as I had my biopsy results today. Not sure how to cope or what to write to be honest. Just wanted to connect with other women who understand
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Welcome , lots of us here who understand how you feel , lots of support and advice out there to tap into .The first couple of weeks are awful but it does get better once you know what your treatment plan is and you can get on with getting rid of the “invader” . Best wishes Jill x
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Thanks so much for taking the time to reply x
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You are welcome , please come chat whenever you need to theres always someone around , this forum was a sanity saver for me when first diagnosed 8 years ago now and I made some good friends that I still talk to every week .
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You’ve got plenty of company, 1980. If you have any questions we’re here.
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Hi 1980, I hope we can be of some support to you during this rough time. You are amazing for reaching out at this point; after my biopsy results I was so blindsided and in denial and horrified, I really hope that coming to these forums will make it a far less bumpy road for you.
Please do feel free to ask any questions as and when. Sending you all the very best.
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Dear 1980,
We have all been there, and now we are here for you as the other ladies have already said this is a great site to unload any problems and worries you may have.
Maybe have a notebook nearby to scribble down whatever questions you may have when you next attend the hospital as there are so many, our heads are spinning and all over the place at the moment. The waiting time is endless, anxiety take such a toll on us, however as Jill said the first couple of weeks are the worst.
Let hope you will have your treatment plan in place very soon, take one day at a time, not everyone understands what you’re going through, so please keep posting on this site we understand you.
Wishing you well, health and happiness going forward.
Biggest hugs Tili​:rainbow:
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What were your results and we will help in any way we can x
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@1980Please do not hesitate to ask or seek answers. First of all, write down everything in a diary, ask the Breast Cancer team any concerns you have, and wait for all investigations to be completed that later the team will explain the treatment you will undergo. It’s a shock and I understand you, I also went through these stages but you will see that there is treatment and in the end you will be cured.Don’t lose hope and try to think that it’s just a hop away and you’ll be fine. Keep your optimism and don’t let it affect you. I am an active and optimistic person, I was shocked when I found out the diagnosis, I have not been sick all my life so the shock was enormous but I thought that I had to be strong to do the treatment so that I could get my life back, I have three children who understand me and support me, but honestly I didn’t tell the people around me, only my brother knows and my mother in law, I’m still in chemotherapy treatment and probably next year in radiation therapy, but I’m still thinking about being able to carry out the treatment, if you’re strong and have a strong body I wish you good health and strength and here you can read experience and I am sure you will find many answers and encouragement from the girls on the forum I found a lot of useful information and a lot of encouragement Good luck with your treatment. Be positive 
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Yes can be a shock, more so for my husband initially who had anticipated it might be breast cancer when an appointment invitation dropped in just after Christmas 2021, while I was a bit more naive. If anything that feeling of incredulity faded over the months as I got more information and treatment plans were offered. The sense of participating in my treatment decisions helped too, although I fell into the trap of searching the internet too much. What helped me most emotionally was keeping in touch with nearest and dearest (albeit online as they live abroad). Another thing that’s helped me tremendously was keeping my passions alive even if unable to fully practice them in certain phases of recoveries and treatments.It’s been a tough journey, feels like there were many steps, tried my patience many times, yet it’s been insightful too…best wishes.
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Hiya, I expected the worse when I went for my results but was still shocked. I think I cried on and off for about 2 days then my practical head kicked in and started preparing to get organised and stay as fit as possible before my treatment which really helped me throughout. The worst and hardest bit was telling family and friends but once I had it was a normal part of our chit chat and easier. Also I know it’s hard for some people but I stayed positive, worked and did normal everyday things whilst and when I could which got me through. Good luck, there is lots of treatment out there and some wonderful people to support you x
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Hi 1980,
This is my first message on here as I have only recently joined despite getting my biopsy results in early July - it was a shock for me as I had been trying to stay positive. I think it is great that you are here already as there seem to be so many supportive people on here. I agree that it is good advice to write down any questions in advance. Also I hope you have someone who can come with you for your appointments - as it is really hard to process all the information and good to be able to talk about things after. If not, someone recently recommended asking the medical staff if they were okay about you recording the conversation to be able to play it back later. This was only recently that someone suggested this, so I’ve not actually done it myself.
I had a lumpectomy and lymph node biopsy 3 weeks after the biopsy results and then it was another few weeks before I got the positive news that the lymph node biopsy came back clear.
However now I am trying to decided what treatment is best for me as chemotherapy has been advised. It’s so hard to know what the best decision is and so easy to put off dealing with it. It’s also hard to talk with friends and family about it without feeling that they are worrying and judging…
I wish you all the best wish your treatment journey.
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Not sure if I’m replying to everyone or just the last post so sorry if I’ve not figured out how this works yet! Thanks so much for the replies, it is helpful and I hope I can reciprocate once I’m in a better place. I just feel such a burden at the moment to my partner and friends and it helps knowing I have you all to reach out to. Haven’t told my family yet as I can’t stand the thought of upsetting them. Thank you again for your responses x
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You are replying to us all , if you click on reply at the very bottom of the thread you are replying to everyone . If you click on reply at the bottom of a particular comment it shows you are replying to an individual person although all can see the comment .
It’s actually easier to talk to people on the forum who’ve been through this or are going through it than your family / friends . You are not scared of upsetting people by your thoughts / worries and they really get how you are feeling x
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Thank you for clarifying. It does help talking to people who I can just be brutally honest with. I’m so scared that I’ll be too much for people and they’ll get fed up of me being upset x
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Yes that’s why it’s good to have another outlet for your feelings where you can be really honest and scared if that’s how you feel too .
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Please understand risks and benefits of all treatment modalities before making your decision on your plan of care
God bless
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Hi,
Really sorry to hear this. If it helps I’ve just been diagnosed with Breast Cancer 4 weeks ago and I’ve just had my operation 2 days ago and waiting for the results/treatment. I just feel so along and feel I need to put a brave face on for my family. I am scared!
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I know exactly how you feel. I had my surgery last week and waiting for results. I’m having up and down days and I find trying to not think too far ahead is helping. Sometimes this means taking it hour by hour rather than day by day. I get through one hour, recognise I got through that and just start again. I completely get how scary this is. Sometimes I’m happy for a bit and things feel normal then I remember and feel terrified again. I really hope you’re ok and I know it helps me knowing that other people on here understand and we’re here to support each other xx
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It’s so hard to put a brave face on Lamamma. I am someone who is literally incapable of hiding what I’m feeling so I’ve gone down the route of being open with my family - Telling them that sometimes I’ll be ok and other times I’ll get upset and that’s ok too. I’ve encouraged them to feel able to do the same. I think this is what works best for me but there’s no right way and we all have to just do what feels right for us and our families. Still, I can barely express how much it upsets me to see them having to go through this too…I have to keep reminding myself this is life, this is the reality of life…Sometimes life is great and other times, it’s really really tough! We just have to find our way through the tough times best we can, summoning up all the strength we never knew we had. Wishing you a speedy recovery from your operation.
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