DIAGNOSED 3 DAYS AGO.
DIAGNOSED 3 DAYS AGO. Hi, I have been diagnosed with Breast Cancer 3 Days ago, and am feeling quite frightened. Have had mammogram, and a biopsy which I am getting results of on Monday. I have found it very comforting to read the posts knowing that others have gone through this waiting time also. Doctor told me that on Monday they will be able to tell me what stage I have, I am really worried and would like to find out as much information as possible. Thanks Jillian.
Hi Jillian Sorry you have had to join us but this is a fantastic site and it has helped me enormously since I was diagnosed at the beginning of April. I too was very scared and waiting to see the consultant was just a nightmare. Once you have been told however, and know your treatment plan things will become a bit easier, I promise. My tumour was grade 2, and 3 out of 5 ly. nodes were cancerous, I haven’t asked too many specific questions because there is only so much I want to know, plus you get to the point where you just don’t know what to ask, and just keep the positive bits in the forefront of your mind. I am HER2 negative so I don’t need herceptin - which is a plus.
Just had first chemo on 13th June and after feeling pretty crap for a week I am now feeling much better. After chemo I am having 20 rads and then tamoxifen I think.
You are not alone and we are all here.
Just take things a day at a time and keep us posted.
Take care and best wishes.
Diane x
Hi Jillian
I remember it well. I was diagnosed in December and have now had 6 out of 8 chemos. It is the most frightening thing ever, but it does get easier I promise. I was the world’s worst worrier, but have somehow managed to get through this and continue to get stronger (which you will). Just give yourself time to adjust and do whatever you need to do that helps - wine, chocolate etc. We are all here for you and understand totally how you feel, you’re not alone. The waiting is the worst time, but once you have all the facts regarding treatment etc. you just seem to go with the flow. I have always been a bit like an ostrich (head in the sand) and have never wanted details etc. (I still don’t know what type of breast cancer I had), ‘just tell me what treatment I need and I’ll deal with it’ - too much information early on can be hard to take, but everyone is different, I just had to take one day at a time. Chemo has not been as bad as I expected and I’m nearly at the end of it now - hair growing back as well (yay).
Be kind to yourself and don’t ever feel like your alone. We’re all here for you and you can cry, laugh, rant and rave and we’ll listen. We’ve all been there (some still are) and we will be there for you.
If you need anything, just yell.
Love & big hugs (((((0)))))
Julie x
hi jillian
So sorry to hear your news, i am in a similar situation , i had a mammogram and a biopsy and got the results back tuesday i had a grade 3 invasive ductal cancer, and i am starting with chemotherapy 1st , its so hard to take in , and the waiting around is the worst thing, i see dr Orton next friday at the local oncology unit and he will discuss with me what chemo i will have and what the cancer is receptive to etc, its going to be a long week but i find this site so fantastic , i felt overwhelmed at my messages of support from such lovely people, i have got a bit stronger everyday even had my lovely blonde bob cut short yesterday! then consoled myself with pizza and chocolate !! my thoughts will be with you for your results tomorrow, try and ask as many questions as possible and try to be strong even though its hard. and let us know how you get on.
Take Care
love galen xx
Hi. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me. You have made me feel so much better. It is encouraging to know that you have all been through the same. I am sure as you say, that once I know on Monday things will become clearer and I will be able to cope alot better, and just get on with the treatment. I feel quite positive today.
I hope that you all continue to improve and wish you well.
Will post on Monday when I get the results.
Love
JillianX
Hi Galen. Thank you so much for your reply. I am so sorry that you are in the same position as me, and do hope that next Friday goes well for you. As you say it is the waiting that is the worst thing, one minute I feel OK and then it hits me. But I will take your advice cos pizza and chocolate sounds like a great idea!!! I am so glad that I have found this site because it really helps to share the experience we are going through. I have a wonderful supportive partner so I am very lucky in that respect. He is coming with me on Monday for the results.
I will let you know how I get on, and thanks again.
Take Care
Love
Jillianx
For Jillian Dear Jillian
The waiting time is the worst time as you do not have enough information. Once I was diagnosed and given all the available info I felt better able to cope as you can focus on the facts and not the unknown.
Make sure you talk to as many people as poss about how you are feeling and if you want to cry and shout and be on your own then say so and people will do whatever you want!
I have my consultation on Thurs to find out which way round they want to do my treatment (either Mast or Chemo first). Also get CT results too. Good luck for Monday, and ask loads of questions, write them down tonight if you can’t sleep!!
Take care
BESTIE
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Gillian - welcome but sorry you are here. Good Luck tomorrow and do let us know how it goes. Remember to take a list of questions with you as it is so easy to forget in the heat of the moment. Even better take someone with you.
Gillian Sorry you have had to join us…please let us know how things go tomorrow…do take care.
karen x
good luck Hi Gillian
Good luck for today, remember we will all be around you holding your hands pushing you through it. Also to anyone else on the site awaiting results or going for ops, hang on in there, we all be here to welcome you back…
The bar will be open and bursting with drinks, do come back and tell us how you got on…then we will have a drink or three…lol
Elaine
Good luck Gillian Hi Gillian,
Welcome to the site! Although none of us actually ever wants to ‘need’ one of these sites its so good that they do exsist. I am so sorry you’ve had to join us but am glad you’ve found us (if that makes sense? I’ve got chemo brain at the mo!).
You may have set off already but I just wanted to wish you well for your appt today. This first few weeks is a very uncertain and worrying time, but I promise you it does get better. My knowledge of bc before I was diagnosed in March was v.limited, it has been a v.v.steep learning curve!!
Anyway, I hope today goes ok for you. Please let us know how you get on,
Take care,
Kelly
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Hi. Just back from my appointment, consultant has scheduled surgery for this Friday for a lumpectomy, going in on Thursday. She told me that once I have had the lump and lymph nodes removed then she will have a clearer picture of what stage I am at, and what treatment I will require.
Said tthe lump seems to be confined but she cant be sure till tests carried out. I feel strangely relieved like you all said I would, that at least things are moving forward.
Thank you all for your help this past week, I could not have got through it without you all, that I am sure of.
I will keep you informed of my progress.
Love to You All
Jillianx
Hi Jillian,
Just wanted to wish you all the best for your op on Friday. I hope all goes well and you make a very speedy recovery. I had a mastectomy in March and ordered the ‘exercises after breast surgery’ booklet to take into hospital with me. I found it invaluable and the exercises were actually much better than the ones the physio gave me.
Take loads of reading material too! It can get v.boring between visitng times!! LOL.
Take care and be sure to let us know how you get on,
Kelly
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hi jillian
Thought about you today, hope all goes well for you on friday, i am sure you can rest a little easier knowing things are moving for you now, try not to worry take care
galen x
Hi jillian
I was diagnosed with breast cancer (just saying it hits home really quick) 3 weeks ago. It was the most scary thing ever as i have small children and like you i felt really frightened. In the 3 weeks since i have had CT scans, Bone scans and surgery - its happened so fast almost like in a dream, but i can’t complain on that. The consultant was fantastic and my life is definately in his hands he was very quick and i was amazed at what they found. I have an early breast cancer (was going to have a cyst checked out and then they found this elsewhere in both breasts). I had a bi-lateral mastectomy last wednesday and i was back home by friday! I have panic days but the thing that gets me through is all the postive feedback from all the guys on this website. You feel as though you are the only person dealing with this but that isnt the case anymore - this website showed me that. I hope eveything goes ok with your consultant and just remember to give it time to sink in - you have up and down days but the support you receive is very helpful and comforting. Do loads of surfing especially if you are a need to know person and let your friends know the score - this is when you find out how valuable they really are! I wish you well. Let us know how you get on.
Julie g
Good Luck Dear Jillian
Glad you have your ‘action plan’ ready to go. I’m sure you will feel a bit better now you have a focus and a date for surgery. I am waiting for CT this week and bone scan next week, then probably chemo before a mastectomy. Wishing you well for friday, take care and make sure to stay in touch afterwards.
Ali (Bestie)
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Good luck Hi Jillian
Good luck with your op - it’ll soon be over, take care.
Diane x
Hi Everyone. Thank you so much for all your good luck messages, I really do appreciate them. This will probably be the last time I will write before my operation as my computer is at my partners home and I am going back to my own place to prepare, got to get the chocolate and magazines sorted!!! I have had a really good day today, been for a bit of retail therapy which always works wonders! I hope you all continue to improve while im away, and the minute I get back I will be in touch.
Thank you again.
Lots of Love
Jillianx
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Hello Jillian,
Like me, bet you never thought this would happen to you?! I’m a ‘cool’ 49 yr old according to my kids, too young for this lark I thought, and was devastated, like you. I was diagnosed grade 3 last Nov, surgery Dec, 6 x FEC chemo, now radiotherapy. I was very scared, but something inside tells you that there is nothing you can do about it, so go with the flow gracefully, as the only possible way out is the treatment. I have 5 more doses of RT, then ‘thats it’. I have never asked for a prognosis, as I don’t think I would ever get out of bed again if it was bad. I take each day at a time. Its upsetting to see friends, family and loved ones cope, its often harder for them, but they will take their lead from you - be a wreck, they will be a wreck with you, be brave (a word you will hear a lot), they will support and admire you. I dragged myself into work for 2 out of the 3 chemo weeks - it was the best thing I ever did, as it puts you in denial - try not to stay at home and wallow in self pity.
Ooooh Jillian, I feel for you so much, its upsetting me now thinking back to my November day
. Good luck, keep in touch
Ann