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Hi ladies! m emotional tonight on my business 18th Anniversary!!!

When I was diagnosed in August after a lumpectomy and was told I needed 6xchemo, 18 months herseptin, another op to clear margins, 15 rads and 10 years hormone tablets I thought my life was crumbling down!

My daughters father had an affair when I was pregnant and I dedicated my life to bringing her up and paying off huge debts otherwise no home!

10 years ago my father died and then mum had colon cancer! My family all lived overseas and I had no one around me but I made it with good friends!

I started a restaurant business with my boss which has paid it all off and brought up my beautiful 20 yr old whos now at uni but it has been hard work, stressful and tiring! But Im proud to say I kept it going for 18 years tomorrow!

When I got through my tough period I promised to help the local charites and community raising over £220,000! Many of them local cancer charities!

Never in a million years would I (we) have thought that this would happen but I was more worried not for me but my daughter and how would I be able to help others! Never me!

Well, after my major meltdown after diagnosis(only once) I listened to people and came to terms that I needed to put ME first and accepted help in any way possible! Im so glad I have and now I have a business partner coming in to take weightload off!

Coming to terms with BC in itself was bad but to be so motivated and independent for all these years and then to have to step down has been difficult but then I think I have been given another chance and this time round I will enjoy life and concentrate on myself more!

I look at my bare head and now think well its going to grow back! Probably nicer!

I have got round to sorting my head about whats the best way forward when I’m better whereas before it was as if I had given up and thought the worst!

Again I am using my experiences to help others and I’m finding that other ladies on here are doing the same thing!

I really want to thank all of you lovely ladies on this forum at whatever stage they are in now or before for making this extremely difficult time in my life as easy as possible for me to deal with in everyday life! You make me laugh, make me feel better on a down day, you give all the best advice from the heart but most of all , you understand! We all understand each other!!!

You are now part of my life and will never be forgotton! Lots of love.xxx

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CK

 

Congratulations on your anniversary tomorrow, that is brilliant.

 

Your daughter must be soooo proud of you  

 

You will do this and we will always be by your side

 

Helena xxx

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What a lovely and inspirational post CK! I don’t think you realise how much you’re helping all of us too with your practical advice and your humour! Thank you! :smileyhappy: And I’m hoping before long I can be as positive and deal with things in the way that you’re managing to do xx 

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Oh CK that is so lovely. You have been through challenging times but wow you have overcome those challenges and then some!!
You are inspirational CK. A lady and a mum to be extremely proud of.
THANK YOU for being here for us all.
Enjoy this emotional time with pride in all that you have achieved. Xxx

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Thank you CK for such a fab post, you’re an inspiration!
ann x

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Hi CK

This is a really lovely post xx

You know, you don’t have to be strong all the time. You are so good at looking after others, whether that be with family and business, or here with your supporting posts. You are allowed to let others look after you! Accept that sometimes you might have a wobble, we all do, and then we can support you.

Sending a massive hug

Sue xx

 

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Morning CK

 

As others have already said, you really are inspirational - in particular your phenomenonal charity work over all these years. And on the forum you’ve been a total star with your handy tips and hints pre chemo and then your updates in the aftermath. I know I felt much less anxious before my first chemo sesh after reading how well you were coping with it.

 

Have a lovely day 

 

? Bakewell xx 

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Morning Sue
I was on a wobbler and needed to express myself and what I was thinking at the time and I knew I’d be safe doing it here as we don’t judge each other
on this forum!

Whatever our situation, diagnosis, how far we are, single mother, employee or employer, confused, anxious, finances, up or down, happy or sad with results, stressed, posting the same thing on every thread, there is someone on here who will try to lift us up!

I really dont know how I would have got to this stage with all the uncertainties and emotions mentally and pysically without you ladies and you are all going through difficult times yourselves!

Hope we all have a good day.xxx

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Ditto x

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Sending you a hug Rosie xx

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Lots of love Rosie! We all have wobbles, its learning hpw to cope with them and finding help too to take pressure off other things.xx

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Cherry thatvwoukdnt be so bad if England matches were currently happening lol x

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Or if England were any good ha ha ha

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CK congratulations on your 18yrs!  

such a positive post, with everything you’ve been through, the charity work, having a wobble and getting back on track. It’s really good to see when someone is in a better place with their diagnosis and treatment too. And I couldn’t agree more about the virtual bond everyone has made on this forum-great inspirational group of ladies we are!

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I have an 80’s afro wig if the England one proves to be no good Cherry! Or we could just meet up. N9ne of this i’ll wear a red rose etc. 2 BIG WIGS will do!!
Xxx

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We are all gonna have Pink wigs for our event!!! Innit!!!:smiley:

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? my hair is now pink/purple with just 5 sleeps to my brave the shave x

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Rosie thinking of you
Jen good luck for tomorrow x

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Good luck with your op.

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Jencat ask all your questions tomorrow. The waiting to start is nerve wracking! You will get there xx