I got all those booklets,
I was 8.5 when diagnosed,slim , low BMI,ate healthy, keen walker,been slim since puberty.
Lost weight during chemo but put on tonnes of weight 8.10 stone on aromatase inhibitors,not sure where their tho as I still looked slim.,gone back down to normal wight 8.2.
Cheers, il just keep doing what I do ,
Eating cruciferous veg, low sugar, only use olive soap only skin now,( I was big on chemical before tho)
Don’t moisturise anymore ,do a bit more excersise , hope it never comes back,if none of this helps then well,
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I was diagnosed at 54, no kids, slim, fit, healthy. I tried not to be angry, and said ‘why me’ then ‘why not me’. I found not being angry, gave me the energy to manage the journey. It is do good that you are able to share and vent on here, and be supported. Remember to look after yourself first and I hope you have a good support network.
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I don’t really get the 'why not me, "
I didn’t deserve to get cancer,
What does it mean ?
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I am not going to beat myself up. I was diagnosed ER HER2 - at 63 I didn’t even know I had it until 2/3 of may liver packed up! worst mets is now in my bones. 5 years I’m alive and loving every day even though the fight is hard work and often painful
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The “why not me” is a statement to show that cancer can affect anyone. It can perhaps help people to stop beating themselves up about whether they could have done anything else to prevent it happening to them.
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Sorry I just meant that if the 1 in 2 statistic is correct, then we all have a chance of contracting some type of cancer. I definitely did not mean I/we deserve to get it. I only meant, why should I be exempt. Sorry if I caused you upset.
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@Be Hi 
its okay to feel the way you do and having a good rant. Where can you do this other than this forum. I had mammograms from the age of 40 all normal. In 2022 had my mammogram as usual and within two weeks got a letter to come back. I knew that something wasn’t right. Anyway a long story cut short I had DCIS and went onto have a masectomy. Life is not always to our liking but we do all have choices, to live our best life or not. What you are going through is what all of us have been through, going through and on that roller coaster. Be kind to yourself your an amazing woman. Hugs 
coming your way.
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Hello ladies, first time contributing but have read sooooo many forums and posts. I too can attest to the frustration, anger and the feeling of “chuck-it-in-the-f#ckit-bucket”. BC picked up during screening - strong family history of BC - Double Mastectomy - Hormone Therapy (all within 6 weeks, then !!WHAP!! back on my arse after being laughed at in public by two grown ass men because I have no boobs! What’s with people? Sick of getting the “… oh you’re so lucky you don’t need Chemo or Radiation so it can’t be that bad…” running commentary from everyone thinking they know better. Do some more exercise, eat less sugar, cut out carbs, have more protein … BC stole my life! I’m sick, feel like poop and struggle through every day just to have some form of normal life. What is normal life after BC anyway? An altered state of mind due to the countless drugs we’re fed, radiation burns and side-effects, hair loss - the whole 9 yards?! We have the right to be pissed and unsatisfied when we feel like it. It’s ok not to be ok. Tomorrow, or the day after or the day after that the sun will shine again … maybe just not today - and I’m ok with that.
You’ve got this ladies - even when it feels like you don’t x
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I am sorry you got diagnosed with mets at 63 but it’s good the treatment has helped so much. I am now 68, diagnosed this time at 66, and had breast cancer diagnosis in 2003 too. No children, acne and a bit of drinking in my youth may have had an impact. But we are where we are. I am doing loads of cooking, housework, gardening, dog walking and other chores as my husband has taken to his bed and has lost a stone of weight in the last two to three months.
He’s not been diagnosed with anything but he’s got his own ideas so he’s petrified. He won’t do anything hence my frantic activity. The carpets are now extremely well vacuumed and I had a brilliant night’s sleep as it wore me out. He screams and moans if I suggest getting a cleaner but I have one anyway. It’s just she’s on holiday and I couldn’t stand the dog’s hairs a day longer. It’s red carpet and she’s part dalmatian and sheds like mad. I thought she’d be less work than our previous Alsatian, but no such luck.
Nil desperandum as my mum would say. She’s on end of life care though no sign of her giving up just yet. Her 97th birthday is on 15 April, I hope she keeps on keeping on.
Seagulls
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Hi, it sounds like you’re coping well.
My husband went into a deep depression after I had recovered from the first trauma 5 years ago. As I said I’m living with it and I’m OK managing the side effects and pain etc.
On the other hand my husband had to have a major op on his bowel to remove polyps. When it was investigated they found cancer so gave him chemo tablets and radiotherapy as a precaution. He is still NED after 2 years. he is still suffering from the op they have now discovered that he should have had a stoma so at the minute running to the loo is ruining his life. Hopefully we are at a place where there is something going to be done about it… Wish us luck as its hard coping with him and his depression. I totally get what you’re saying. Sending hugs x
dear Debbie4
I don’t feel so alone now. My husband has had some results including information that he has a few polyps that they took biopsies of. So he could have bad news later. I think a diagnosis would help. He has prostate problems too, but he refused an operation to shave off some overgrowth following rezum surgery a few years ago. This was miraculous to start with, steam put in to the urethra for a couple of minutes which gave an almost instantenious return to normal weeing. Unfortunately it recurred last year, but I don’t think he needed a huge amount done, just a bit taken off. He has so much anxiety, he was convinced by taking out the prostate he would become totally incontinent. Not long after this he started to get wound up about cancer. He had projectile vomiting after taking an antibiotic a week before the prostate op was planned a few months ago and since then he’s lost a stone in weight so I think he has every reason to worry, but he’s stopped doing anything and feels he’s ruined my life! I can ruin it quite well for myself…
Seagulls
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I can do the same!!!
I hope he can get sorted, losing that amount of weight when you’re not trying isn’t right. let me know how you go on
Thanks Debbie
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Yes I had all my mammograms and nothing showed up, 5 years ago I felt unwell and I had a bit of a pain in my side. It was my husband who make me go to the hospital.
I was diagnosed with BC stage 4 it was in my liver and bones before it was detected on anything. I was told I had a week! I’m just damned grateful that 5 years later I’m still here
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A week is meant to be a long time in politics but not anywhere else. Well I would stick my thumb on my nose and wave my fingers at whoever told you you had a week to live. Dear debbie4 you are a medical miracle and you ain’t going anywhere…
Seagulls
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They sent me home, at my husband’s request, to die. I was given Letrozole as a last resort… it worked. not ever been able to have infusions again been 5 years on meds. They put me back in hospital for another 5 months until i had gained enough strength to stand up. My husband got me walking again. Although i will always live with the cancer I feel fine meds keeping me stable and pain control does the rest. I know how lucky I have been
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I don’t think it’s just luck. You and your husband are warriors indeed.
I wrote “worriers” by mistake. My next door neighbour used to say, “worry, you die. Don’t worry, you die”.
My philosophy now plus plenty of exercise in the garden lugging compost around. And long walks in the countryside. No smoking or drinking. Keep down constipation with laxatives- that is the downside.
And enjoy the sunshine and a good laugh.
Seagulls
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Thank you, It is a hard road we’re travelling. i just carry on as normal and sod it, I do what I like these days and if people don’t like it … tough!
My cancer is hormonal, if anything caused it it was HRT - my doctor did warn me about it years ago, I was too busy running round after everybody else and working that I couldn’t/didn’t want to stop taking it.
I have learned the hard way… no 
more. I don’t drink, never really did, but I do still smoke! Well if I’m incurable then I just think I may as well just get on with what ever makes me happy. My oncologist is aware and although she says she wouldn’t recommend it, she gets it, so I just cut right down. Hey what’s the point? it would do my mental health damage. So there it is life goes on we have to enjoy what we have left don’t you think?
Sending hugs
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I personally think cancer is non discriminatory it doesn’t care if you drink alcohol or if you smoke or if you have had children or not if your a size 10 or 20!! Im recently diagnosed with ilbc I’m over weight drink to much and have 4 kids ( but I personally don’t think cancer cares)
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I agree totally, with you all the way on that. I am living with incurable cancer and WTF if I want to smoke I will. End of. Sending hugs
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