Hi Ladies. Wasnt really sure what to call this thread, but just wanted to talk to someone. I was diagnosed in 2014 with bc, needed a mastectomy and tamoxifen. Everyone kept telling me how lucky I was and I knew that so tried to get on with life and enjoy every minute. Then in 2016 I have 2 ovarian cysts being monitored for a year. It was difficult waiting for results and then another scan then more results, but through it all stayed positive and kept on smiling! In March this year it was decided to remove the cysts,also to take my ovaries and tubes. This in turn put me in a surgical menopause which has been difficult. Again tried to keep my life on track even with fatigue, joint pain and night flushes. Switched tablets from tamoxifen to Anastrozole more side effects to deal with but carried on. Then following a dexa scan I found out last week I now have Osteoporosis. I will be given more tablets to slow the process down. I am finding it more and more difficult to keep smiling and wonder what else is in store for me! I even laughed with my boss saying he will be trading me in for a healthy model. I am an easy going person and I know how lucky I am but come I need a break so I can be myself rather than someone who is just waiting for the next thing.
There it’s all out now. Thanks for listening and I will keep on Smiling!!..xx
Hi Poppy ,I can totally understand how you feel.I had lumpectomy in June 2015 and have had health problem after health problem ever since .Had hysterectomy in April including removal of ovaries as Tamoxifen causes me to develop womb cancer !!! I am too now struggling with surgically induced menopause and anxiety problems as a consequence -seems never ending and very depressing -oh for good health and a break from it like you said !!! Would love the old me back!!!
Hi everyone…bare with me as this is my first post!..I’ve has a mastectomy and reconstruction for a large node neg Bc just lately…havnt had to have chemo as node neg and onco test came back that Iam low risk of recurrence…finding it so difficult to just get on with life and to stop the anxiety. .it has caused problems in my relationship and most days I feel so alone…can anyone give sympathise or give me tips to move foreard please? Xxx
Hi Rachy,welcome to the forum .Im afraid I’m in the same boat -so far no solution to offer re anxiety but can totally understand how you feel - it is putting pressure on my relationship too.Its a horrible place to be .Ive been going for accupuncture which I think has helped a bit .Cancer takes a lot of recovering from mentally as well as physically .Jill.
Hi Jill…we had the happiest relationship ever before. .he is 16 years younger,I’m 51…I feel so alone at times,we were going to get engaged before this bit we have both decided it’s the wrong time at the mo. .thankyou for replying hun…glad I’m not alone in my thoughts x
Hi I am same age,been with OH many years though ,but this does take its toll on any relationship .You are not alone ,better day tomorrow hopefully ?? I am trying so hard not to carry on about it all the time- but I can’t help being clingy and needy which is not me ?
Hi all i can take and associate with so much from each of your journeys. The main ailment of the moment ironically worrying me is anxiety. It seems I’m not alone with that one but I’m wondering on the tamoxifen connection. Have been considering a break to see if it helps …but how long before it leaves your system and body settles back to whatever is normal?
Or other option is further medication to counteract the anxiety. Is anyone doing this ? Mild anti depressants or I’ve heard magnesium is good.
My partner informed me today that he thinks we arw at “rock botton” and I agree. We used to bounce off each other and were never apart.He thinks that I am “cured” now and that o shouod be the same as before.He has stated that if I can’t be like the "old Rachael :…then I will end up alone…feel so alone already x
I know Jill.in love him to bits and am trying so hard to be “normal” again. .I fear he will meet someone else sooner rather than later. .I just can’t shale the way I feel most of the time.I used to be considered the glamorous older lady…now I’m just an old lady lol xx
Yes I have good support from family but I havnt had the confidence to meet up with my friends since all of this…think my rekatuonship is near the end x
You need support from other people too ,it’s too much to deal with otherwise.Share the misery around !! When you feel a bit more positive try and have a frank conversation about everything .This really does test relationships I’m afraid .?
I’ve just been going over wit my mother how inappropriate he has treated me since all of this…the “old” me would not have stood for it.It feels like my vulnerability has been taken advantage of. .but I will soon be more assertive when I feel a bit better xx
I’m afraid it’s not unusual for partners to really struggle with this,once the " crisis " is over they expect normality will return -but it’s not as simple as that is it ?
Hi Jill…it seems we just sit there now in silence,not knowing what to say to each other…I’m in tears writing this as we uses to be so close .but I just can’t laugh and joke with him like I used to x
You just can’t spring back from this easily I’m afraid no matter how hard you try -it’s not as simple as that .Im driving my OH round the bend with my anxiety - almost barricaded him in today to stop him going to work - I do have better times/days ,but then the bad days seem worse to both of us .What do you think is causing how you feel is ot connected to the meds you are taking do you think ?