Thanks everyone for your support had to get it out how I was feeling as I need to be strong and get through this and support my mam and dad too, I won’t be much help physically but I would like to show strength as emotional support
This forum is so valuable to us all as we all have our trials and tribulations with life as well as cancer going on, some of the ladies on here live alone, some have very young families or may usually care for someone, so to just be able to rant moan joke or just having someone going through the same roller-coaster of emotions and symptoms to chat to is invaluable xxx
You know CK you sometimes it’s scary then other times it’s not, like you said getting through this with determination to back to normal will spur you on, it’s best to be up front about your support network too as things can be sorted to give extra support during treatment, I know that because when I was in hospital I got talking to a lady who lived alone and she was getting support with lifts etc and home visits from her BC nurse, I told my mam she needs to make hospital aware that my dad is her carer as they will need extra support as I can’t be there as much as I want to due to me having tratmtat same time x
Morning mishy. So sorry to hear about your dad. I think sometimes life saves all of the crap up to throw at us all at once for a deeper impact.
Your mam will get help if she says she needs it. Does she have a social worker? If not, if she rings the council they’ll arrange for someone to come visit and complete an assessment. Tell her not to be proud about asking for help and to tell them what she needs. There’s loads of support available but it’s rarely offered without asking.
My adult son is severely disabled so I’m quite up to date with how things work. Just ask if you need any advice.
My aunt (more like a second mam) called yesterday to say a suspicious shadow on her lung needs further investigation too. It never just rains, it pours. Xxx
Oh I hope she’s OK, yeah I will tell my mam about the social worker thing thanks, I know what you mean about life never goes simple, but remaining positive is the best way forward isn’t it I feel happier today I’m pretty up beat in general I hate being down in the dumps so I have been to visit parents, watered my neighbours plants they’re on holiday! Did some weeding and watch eta couple of episodes of Shameless
Sorry to hear about your dad Mishy and hopefully your aunt is okay FeelTheFear. My maternal grandmother has pneumonia at the moment and is fortunately on the mend but one of her scans has shown up something abnormal so we’re waiting to see what her consultant says.
Today’s treatment will mark the end of round 2 and I can say I’m officially a third of the way through chemo. I took a risk and used a temporary dark brown dye to cover my blonde roots (I’m usually raven haired!) as although my hair has stayed put, it was starting to look patchy from the re-growth. Touch wood it’s not done any damage as far as I can tell…
Anyone else here on Zoladex? I’ve been having hot flushes on and off constantly. I’m really hoping it’s just the drugs and I’m not going through menopause at 30… It’s funny, I’ve never been that bothered about having kids but now and then I catch myself imagining having a daughter. If it turns out I can’t conceive after all this, my sister has offered to be a surrogate. I was so surprised when she offered I didn’t know what to say!
That’s a lovely thing to do x but keep faith about the fertility thing you should speak to your onc about it x what a good way to look at session 2 a third of the way! Yeah just over a week & I’m at halfway line it will soon be over for us all, I’m already looking at mini breaks for Dec as hopefully my radiotherapy will be over by then mind I think I’m getting ahead of myself there haha!!! It’s a good thing though to have something to focus on xx
I hope you are all well today, has anyone else been bothered with a runny nose BTW! Mines been like a tap don’t know if it’s pollen doing it but as the hair on my nose are gone it could be that hehe also can any of you recommend a good face spf mine are a 15 for face and I know we need about 50 also need to put on my head as it’s a different colour to my face so probably need to give it some air!!
Finally being able to drink water so I’m making up for it my face seems more wrinkly than normal so don’t know if it’s not enough water or the chemo aging me!!!
Yes I’ve got a runny nose too. Keep panicking I’ve got a cold and checking temperature. I do get hayfever but this happens when it’s chucking down with rain.
Hi Mishy18
Hope you are Ok! Yes, I’ve been upfront with a few people who can be there for me in different ways! I’ve had lifts and help at work but sometimes I feel useless as always been so motivated, although I know I’m not! Hope mum and dad are coping too.x
Hey everyone having quite a good day weather is rubbish but TV box set binge booked in for this afternoon don’t know why but really hungry started yesterday need to be careful for overeating my parents are remaining up beat dad has a liver biopsy on Fri to determine type of cancer, should I mention it to onc? When I was diagnosed they said no need for genetic testing as no family with cancer but now dad has it I’m not sure if that would count?!
I was meant to be up in Scotland for the week from yesterday but had to cancel due to this so I’m pleased it has been raining (sorry if you live there) but don’t feel as disspointed to be missing my hols! Couldn’t fancy sitting in Ed Castle tonight watching the tattoo where we should have been tonight
Hope everyone is enjoying their good week if it’s yours and if you just had chemo hope your OK with Sean x take care everyone x
Hi Mishy, hi everyone. It’s pants that everyone has all these extra stresses, you’d think your own cancer would be enough for now. I have a 94-year-old mum and dad, coping ok in their own home until recently, but now they both have memory issues, mum has constant urinary tract infections, etc etc. Eventually got them to accept a daily visit from a carer, but they really need full-time help, and I can’t do much now. Today I had dad on the phone, upset because mum’s accusing him of seeing other women after 70 years of happy marriage. It’d be funny if it wasn’t so sad. Most of my energy goes into trying to persuade them to accept the help that’s available. Luckily they live in a village with the most amazing neighborhood support network. Bless all those kind people.
As for me, I managed to stay out of A&E for a whole cycle! Had my last fec yesterday, ok so far, the antinausea meds are working, fingers crossed! I’m into the boxed sets tonight too. Mad men and top of the lake. Any more recommendations, anyone?
Positive thought for the day: I’m saving a fortune on hairdresser’s bills. (And spending it all on scarves, says hubby.)
Hi Tatyana, I’m binging on Desperate Housewives at the moment. I’m not usually one for trashy TV but it’s surprisingly good. Other recommendations include Luther (Idris Elba) and Taboo (Tom Hardy).
Came home from chemo yesterday to find a bunch of flowers on my doorstep from a friend, it cheered me up to no end. Sent a bouquet to my gran hoping to cheer her up.
Bloods came back touch and go yesterday resulting in a delightful conversation with the on call doctor about my bowel habits. Constipation causing a few issues but fortunately was still okay to do chemo. A cup of strong coffee in a morning seems to do the trick ?
Morning everyone. Hope yous are doing okay. Mishy, I’ve had a letter through about genetic testing. I have to inform them of everyone in the family who has had breast cancer/anal polyps, ovarian cancer and I think it also says bowel cancer.
Half of the questions I can’t even answer as my dad died last year (difficult to even type that) and we don’t have any contact with his family.
Well I’m off for bloods ready for tomorrow. Hope they’re okay as I feel knackered. Hoping that’s just all of the painting I’ve been doing.
As for box sets; damages is brilliant, or desperate housewives, nurse Jackie, house of cards.
Thanks folks for the box set ideas, I’m set up for weeks now! Hope everyone has as good a week as possible. I also came home the other day just in time to catch the florist delivering some gorgeous flowers from an old friend, aren’t people lovely!
Yeah it’s brilliant. You’re in for a treat if you’re only half way through season one. I’ve mentioned before we’re living on a building site but my bedroom should be ready for tomorrow’s chemo. Carpet fitter coming today. Can’t wait to have a clean, comfy space to veg out in with box sets. ???
How’s everyone I will need to inform onc of dads illness wasn’t candidate at diagnosis for genetic test but this might change
Having a really good week feel back to normal if there is such a thing!!
Box sets to recommend I’ve been binge watching Peaky blinders, sons of anarchy aswell as shameles series 1-3 before it got to daft!
Mad men too is a great one love the erasure it’s set in!!
