@alig1961 so the wig band holds it ok with no, or not much hair?
Yes. I prefer the wig tape but as the hair starts growing itās a no go. The wig band is great. I think once upon a time I took a pic of it and put it in here because Iāve also used it to attach my false fringe.
I only have fluff and I feel confident when the wig band is on. Xx
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These were taken when Iād just shaved my head back in July.
@alig1961 thanks. I think Iāll invest in that just in case I decide to shave, but it will probably make my wig more secure anyway. Thereās certainly no growth of any of my hair anywhere 
so I think I could need the wig for a while
Iām in the same boat. I have growth but thereās no thickness to it. At least we save time not having to style of hair. I have no growth on legs or other areas either.
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Congratulations @alig1961 that must feel great. Hope you enjoyed your jammy red!
Iām six weeks post chemo and have hair growing back above my ears a few tiny years growing on my head. Eyebrows very sparse.
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Ye ha @alig1961 thatās great news! Well done ā¦. Another big tick! X
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@charlie22 i think this fluff is hard to contend with ā¦. I still feel very emotional about it but thereās not much that can be done. Hats, wigs or just strut your stuff. I must be 6 weeks since chemo and it is about 1cm but it still has no colour - they said that on the course and it is extremely fine. They said it will take a couple of months before any colour. I donāt remember the course mentioning it falling out again but then the hair does fall out naturally - it has a lifecycle but we donāt notice it so much when we have a full head of hair. They did suggest Holland and Barrett hair, skin and nails vitamins on the course. My eyelashes and eyebrows are the worst and have nearly gone post chemo the same as my nails. Iāve still not tried false eyelashes - I just think Iād look even more like a clown than I feel now! I feel worse now than 6 weeks ago!
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@alig1961 awww huge congratulations!! 
well done youāve done the worst bits nowā¦ I hope the glass of red and pie and mash tasted brilliant!!
Thanks everyone for the hair advise ā¦ think I just need to grin and bear it and once surgery done start with the vitamins etc ā¦ got told I wasnāt allowed to take anything until then! I spoke to my sister whose a hairdresser, she has a few clients that have or had cancer and she explained that the hair follicles hold the drugs more so take longer to recover ā¦ in a nut shell. Suppose I am grateful for the regrow to of the brows and lashes 
@donna_51 the assessment call went well ā¦ well when I could stop crying!! It was literally like a flood gate opened and everything just came blurting out, the poor lady probably thought I needed sectioning not just some counselling 
but it felt good to be honest, so I am looking forward to hearing when first appointment will be.
Hope everyone has some nice things planned for the weekend? 
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@alig1961 whoop whoop! Go you, another wonder woman through!! Hope you do something this weekend for you to celebrate.
Im due to finish 6th dec and weve booked night away in london on 7th, war of the worlds immersive experience and lovely tapas meal booked and ok-ish hotel (london is so expensive!!)
@charlie22 well done on making that referral. I did too yesterday. Its not going to be a miracle cure, but i do believe better out than inā¦
Re the kids/teens. Im volunteering with a charity supporting parents with kids that have mental health issues. As an aside ive learnt from a psychologist that their brains are wired so differently, they literally cannot see mess in the way we do; they also dont remember things the same, so we say what did you do? Who was there? And dunno is the response, it might be true in that momentā¦we need to ask different questions apparently, take them back earlier in the day and prompt their memories.
Im trying to hold this, but do still feel maybe they are just lazy, ignorant little ā¦!
Re hair. I was 7 weeks post chemo yesterday. Fluff only hear and a v bald patch one side. My friend asked at her support group and people say they ended up shaving at least a couple of times as it came back in tufts, to even up and takes 3 months plusā¦so im trying not to worry and embrace my scarves!
Happy friday everyone x
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I think until this chemo crap has worked its way out our bodies we will have issues with the hair. Hopefully by the new year things will be starting to change and grow.
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@nicd thats interesting about the teen brain ā¦ bless you for volunteering as theyāre a hard bunch and even harder with mental health issues.
@pat I too wear a headband/snood thing over my wig as it feels really secure and I can pull it quite low over my head so my eyebrows are almost covered or at least less obvious. Iām out shopping and eating with friends tomorrow so Iāll take a snap for you.
@charlie22 the counsellor has no doubt seen it all before so let it ALL out! We can find support all around us and then our families can be lovely peeps that we spend time with
I went out with my dog this morning and I suddenly thought āwhat is this feelingā?? And would you believe it, it was HAPPINESS!!! Iāve had euphoria and relief and TF thatās done feelings recently but to feel actual happiness was amazing! Yes, I have lots of lovely things to look forward to this year and I know feelings change ā¦ but considering I sobbed with my counsellor not that long ago that I will āNEVER be happy againā it feels like a win today 
Iām sending fabulous weekend vibes to everyone xxx
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@donna_51 Your post is wonderful!! Iām so pleased that happiness is returning to you, as it will to all of us in time.
I have been feeling a bit strange this week. When the June 2024 thread started I was one of the first to start chemo and, therefore, one of the first to finish. Now suddenly, some of you have finished all your treatment, not counting hormonal treatments, and I still have 2 stages to go. I must confess to weird feelings of a mixture of jealousy and failure 
This is even odder as Iām the most uncompetitive person alive so why would I think that 
Sooo odd. This cancer business really does make us more bonkers than we usually are!
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Oh @pat this whole thing definitely brings out feelings we perhaps didnāt ever think weād have!!! Just go with it, itās ok to feel competitive and jealous just like itās ok for me to cry over stair lift adverts!!! 
I think if theyād labelled these month groups on the day your cancer journey (scream!) started then weād all be in different months. I was diagnosed in March but the horror actually started the day the recall after mammogram letter landed in my house which was Februaryā¦ itās all different for all of us but weāre here, weāre a team. I am cheering all of you with more hurdles to jump with BIG shoutsā¦ youāll get there
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@donna_51 thanks Donna. You did make me laugh with your crying at stairlift adverts comment
My hubby and I are currently watching Zootropolis which is great, and funny, even though weāve watched it several times before. Just right for a film that needs to entertain but doesnāt use any brain power!
Ah @pat totally understandable how youāre feeling. Thereās definitely no failure though! As weāve all discovered this past year thereās so many different variations and treatments. It must be frustrating seeing others coming to an end when you have more to go through but they wonāt be as hard as chemo and you will get through them, and weāll still be here to support you and anyone else who still has stuff to get through.
@donna_51 is right about all the different months we started on. I found my lump around my Birthday in Jan and was officially diagnosed in Feb then had surgery first in April. Only a couple of months now till my next Birthday and hoping this one will be a bit more positive!
When I was putting my cream on after radio yesterday I discovered a few of armpit hairs! Wouldnāt actually mind them not coming back to be honest - would rather the eyebrows came back first 
Still no soreness with the radio Just a bit tired and achy so far. One more week to do.x
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@wjs thank you very much. I will bear all your words in mind over the coming days.
Underarm and leg hair regrowing is a double edged sword I think. Good as it indicates things are getting back to ānormalā but a pain to shave them, unless we all decide to stay hairy after so many months of being hairless!!
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I feel the same @pat with still two thirds still to go. Had my mind blown yesterday with my admission/pre op appointment for my mastectomy next Wednesday. I hadnāt realised all the stuff that has to be filled in and taken in mentally. I was also told that Iād likely not have a drain fitted, as the surgeon doesnāt like using them, although the BCN felt I would need one. Also, that I wonāt have any dressing either, so will be able to see everything straight away, which I wasnāt expecting. Has anyone else had this - is this ānormalā?
Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far and itās good to hear some āhappinessā returning @donna_51 
xx
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@jojoh gosh no dressing. Iāve not heard of that but your surgeon has obviously found that it works. Its good that youāve been told that in your preop so at least youāre prepared rather y than just waking up to no dressing. Iām having a lumpectomy and axillary clearance and have been told Iāll have dressings ,and a drain for up to 7 days.
Have a good Sunday everyone! 
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@donna_51 lovely to hear that word HAPPINESSā¦. I am so pleased for you. It is wonderful to read. I must admit Iāve been looking over the fence a bit recently and seeing people having fun and laughing and even though we went away for 5 days I feel a bit ungrateful and wonder if I will have fun again very soon. I just wish there was a magic wand! @pat - a little how you might feel when you see others moving on. Of course everyone else thinks Iām doing great! . I see photos of our friends on the cruise we should have been on and all I see is smiles and laughter which Iām glad theyāre having fun ā¦ā¦ just wish it was me laughing. My husband must be fed up with itā¦. I feel like I just need a kick start. I have counselling on Monday - I canāt even remember if itās number 3 or 4!!
@jojoh you are in good hands with the surgeon. You do wear a surgical bra when you come out of theatre and I suggest you get another one or two so that you can wash them. M&S At Castlepoint were brilliant when I went in. The bra is your protection hence no dressing.
Happy Sunday everyone x
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