HELLO TO EVERYONE ON THIS SITE …
I HAVE JUST BEEN DIAGNOSED WITH BREAST CANCER IN MY RIGHT BREAST.
I AM 37 AND I FELL APART …
I WOULD LOVE TO GET TO KNOW PEPOLE THAT HAVE AND GOING THROUGH THIS SAD AND SCARY TIME…
AS MY MIND IS ALL OVER THE PLACE …
SALLY X
Hi Sally
I am sorry to read of your recent diagnosis and I’m sure the other forum users will be along shortly to offer there support. You may also find helpful a Resource Pack published by Breast Cancer Care, it has been designed for anyone newly diagnosed with information to help you better understand your diagnosis, test results and various treatments, it is available via the following link or by contacting the helpline: breastcancercare.org.uk//content.php?page_id=7514 You may find our helpline useful to call to talk through the concerns you have about surgery and treatment options, they can talk to you about our other support services too and also offer support, information and a ‘listening ear’. The number to call is 0808 800 6000 Monday - Friday, 9am - 5pm, Saturday, 9am - 2pm. I hope you find this helpful.
Best wishes Katie
hi mallysally
sorry to hear your news.but you,v come to the right place if there is anything you need to know
or if you just want to rant this is the place to do it…
you will always get a shoulder to cry on {all be it cyber} and a reasurring cyber hug !!! so don,t feel your all alone out there … and welcome …with best wishes dynamite
Hi Sally and welcome
You will be all over the place until it all sinks in and your treatment is under way I have found the ladies here to be very supportive and there is always someone who can relate to what you are feeling,no matter how trivial you think it is .Please don’t feel alone and ask as many questions or just rant.
Keep strong
Mary
x
Hi Sally
So so sorry to hear your news.
I’m 39 and was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago. It really is a very scary time, it does get better as you start to understand what is happening to you. I have found discussing my problems and concerns on here an absolute godsend, these ladies have been through everything imaginable and will help you get through.
There will be so many things going through your mind at the moment. Try to stay positive.
We are all thinking of you and sending our love
Ann
xxx
Dear Sally,
You’ve come to the right place, though I’m sure that you & the rest of us wish you had been spared the experience. But EVERYONE here has been through the first terrible moments/days/weeks of diagnosis, either themselves or with their partners or close family/friends. I was diagnosed about three months ago, many have been diagnosed since and come here with very similar feelings to those you are now experienced, many more have been finding this place a lifeline for much longer. The advice/comfort that people give here cover a real range of perspectives - and you will certainly find good friends and approaches that help you personally to get through this most difficult of times. I think most people agree that this initial part of the ‘journey’ is probably the hardest but also that, for almost everyone, it does settle into a state of mind where you can start to cope with all the various issues involved.
Believe me, you will find some wonderful people ready to discuss everything connected with the blasted disease - or you can raise questions yourself and be answered - and it is hugely reassuring to know that we are not alone with this experience. Take a bit of a surf through the threads under the heading ‘newly diagnosed’, if you feel up to it - and know that the support and caring that has gone out to all those who have come before you, goes out to you as well.
All the best, and don’t hesitate to come here for support - you’ll find it.
Big hugs, M-L
So sorry that you have had to join us here. I am 40 years old and I was diagnosed with invasive ductal in my right breast in January of this year. I had WLE (or lumpectomy as it’s also known) with node sampling at the end of January, thankfully no lymph nodes were affected so I did not have chemo - I had a program of 29 rads which ended 29th April.
Do you have any more details on your breast cancer? What is your treatment plan? If you are anything like me you won’t have had a clue what questions to ask. Anything that you need to know - ask on this site, someone is bound to have the answer, and there is no such thing as a stupid question on here.
Try tho not to investigate too much at this stage as it’s so easy to read too much and worry yourself senseless.
your so right lilac i found personally for me it was easier to take it one stage at a time…other wise it just swamps you to look to far a head …
Hi Sally
I just echo everything that everyone else has said. It is a truly horrible feeling when you are told you have BC I found out 7 weeks ago. But I promise whatever you are feeling today and over the next few days it WILL get better, you don’t think so at the moment but it will. I think my only advice would be don’t swamp yourself with too much information. I found it has been easier to deal with one thing at a time, having the op and getting that out of the way was a priority for me ( i had mastectomy) now I am waiting for my full diagnosis which will be next week now, the waiting for things to happen is the hardest. I haven’t really looked into chemo at the moment because everyone is different and has a different experience so until I start I won’t really know how I feel. But through each stage you will find someone one here that can relate to how you are feeling phyically or emotionally. Also if you feel you can’t sleep go to the doc’s and get some pill just so you can rest you mind really. YOu will get through this we are here to help
Best wishes
Debs x
Hi Sally
just to echo everyone elses comments . when I was diagnosed I felt bereaved and like you my world as I knew it felt very fragile and uncertain. Just looking at my kids would make me cry . Until you know the treatment plan you will have dont let your run mind riot (easier said than done) Once you know what you are dealing with you can focus and find out about it . I finished my chemo in Feb and am now having rads . Had 2 x wide local excision . Take each step as it comes and use your breast care nurse. In the early days she was like golddust and really reassured me when i didnt know what to ask or what to expect. You are probably reeling from it all . There are lots of us , all different treatment plans and experiences .
best wishes
Cally x
I am well and truly into my journey was dx lasy aug it seems a lifetime ago …but here I am … positive and got through it this site helps as there is always someone who can share the experience … I took my news very calmly I knew that I had it …i dont know how but i did …its just a step at a time thing .xxxxx
Hi Sally,
I’m so sorry you’ve had to join us but ‘welcome’ to this most awesome site. I was diagnosed with bc in my right breast in march last year, I was 34 at the time. I had a right mastectomy and total axillary clearance a week after diagnosis. In May I started chemo which lasted 'til Oct, then I had rads. Now I am taking Tamoxifen (for 5 years) along with Zoladex implants (for 2 years) as my tumour was hormone receptive (Er+).
I knew v.little about bc prior to diagnosis and it was a VERY steep learning curve for me and those closest to me. The first few days after diagnosis were terrible, I cried lots, drank lots and smoked lots!!! Basically I did everything that I shouldn’t cause I didn’t know how else to handle things. Telling people was horrendous, everytime I called friends they thought I was ringing to say either that I was getting married or having a baby!! If only!!! I was dreading the mastectomy as I was not able to have an immed recon. Once that was over I began to dread the chemo, I was so scared of how poorly it might make me feel and terrified of losing my hair.
Anyway, I got through it and I have no doubt you will too. There will be very tough and dark times I’ve no doubt, but there will also be happy and positive times too I’m sure. You know where we are if you need us, and rest assured we do know exactly what you are going through right now,
I wish you well as you start out on this journey,
Take care of yourself and be sure to keep in touch,
Kelly
-x-
P.S. The younger womens page on this site is v.g, check it out when you get a chance if you haven’t done so already
hi, so sorry ofr you. Im 35 and just about to start my chemo. I really wish I had visited this site when diagnosed as would have helped me so much more. Think you have to deal with bits as and when they come as the bigger picture is too scary.
Good luck
Lisa
xxx
Hi Sally.To paraphrase something I read a couple of months ago" Welcome to the club you didn’t want to join.Great crowd,crap joining conditions".You’ll find the answer to almost all of your questions here as there are people who’ve been through every combination of treatments.Like the rest of the members,I’d advise that you read up only on what’s happening right now.You may not go through every stage and may be lucky enough only to have some of the treatment. Good Luck and keep posting!
Tricia
xxx
Hi Sally
So sorry to hear about your dx. I was diagnosed 6 weeks ago with IDC Grade 3 and had a lumpectomy and SNB two weeks ago today. I am currently waiting for my chemo to start. I found keeping myself busy in those early days the best thing for me and cooked everything I could think of and filled the freezer up. This site has been fantastic and I browse it every day and have found some really useful tips.
Thinking of you.
Claire x
Hi Sally
It is a scary and uncertain time.
I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago, had lumpectomy and nodes removed 2 weeks ago, of which I got the results yesterday. Although the news was mostly bad yesterday I feel relieved to know exactly what I am dealing with, that I will have chemo as soon as the wounds from the surgery are healed enough etc.
Good luck, and do come on here, even if it’s only to read what others have put, as you coudl be having a very similar experience.
Kinden
x
Hi Sally
I too was diagnosed 3 weeks ago. waiting for wle and snb next thursday. I echo everyhting the other ladies have said, take it 1 step at a time. read only the information for that step and write down anyhting that is not clear then ask your breast care nurse.
Lots of love
Bridie
Hi Kinden
Are you ok? Just read you got results yesterday?
Love P xx
Hi Paula
My tumour was 3.1cm, grade 3 and 5 out of 7 lymph nodes are infected. I am ER + and PR + but HER -.This all puts me at a ‘poor’ in the prognosis statistics, but they are there to be beaten! I am feeling ok. I felt that it was grade 3 and am actually relieved that I haven’t got any secondaries rather than feeling anything else about having what I do have. They told me that being ++ - as I am is a good combination, albeit that it is not that common for such an aggressive tumour to be HER -.
Maybe it hasn’t sunk in yet, or I’m just still feeling sore arm from the surgery, but I am ok so far.
Husband is being all positive, which is weird as he’s usually the glass half empty whilst I’m the full half. I guess that’s one of a number of things that will change for us as he has to do more for our girls aged 4 and 2.
What stage are you at Paula43?
Kinden
x
Hi Kinden
I was told that most younger women have a grade 3, its highly unlikey to ever be a grade 1 and not many a grade 2 so if thats any consolation…!!!
I am a grade3, 2.5cm and 2/13 lymph nodes involved. I have 2 youngsters aged 19mnths (this week) and 6yrs old. I had a mastectomy in feb and am half way through accelerated chemo. I am a triple negative. I didn’t want to know my prognosis as they are only numbers and I don’t do those but of course I do worry as we all do.BUT I intend to be here in 30yrs time.
My hubby is the same, very positive which is good as I know I would be the same if the roles were reversed.
How you feeling? what is next for you Kinden?
P xxx