Hi All
Feel slightly awkward about this as I have a different view so please don’t tear me apart!
Like so many I too haven’t shown my mutilated breast to anyone since bc surgery… 7 years ago now. I’m single and any time a guy has shown an interest in me since then I’ve felt complete panic about him seeing my body. So I’ll never have babies as I’m now 44. I feel really sad about this further outcome of bc and how I still feel about my body.
So why do I feel differently? Well I think BCC do amazing work, esp around sbc, and that they need money to help people. Everytime I look at the front page of the forums and see the posts from people waiting for results, or trying to understand them, it breaks my heart (eg tonight “Newly diagnosed and utterly terrified” and “Disappointing scan results”). BCC are needed. I never really understood what to be “beside yourself” meant until I went through bc and can’t imagine what it would have been like without forums (though I actually used different ones in the early days). Not least because they allow us to give support to each other.
We’re not in the real world if we think that 30 grand isn’t a massive donation. Fair play to her if true. Can BCC confirm? And also say if you get many donations that size so we can know how normal or exceptional it is? It might help us to know more about the context.
I took a look at their accounts tonight (is it any wonder I’m single?!) and see that last year BCC made £11.798m (lower than the previous year of £13.933m) and, if I’m not going mad, actually spent more than they raised??
So back to KP/Jordan. I agree it’s thoughtless not to draw attention to the tension between her profile and the body image issues so many women feel post bc. Just think it would be wrong to prevent anyone from showing their support. Surely it’s better for everyone with bc if she gives 30k to BCC. And moral judgements just aren’t relevant.
Asda, at £20m, must be one of the biggest supporters of BCC. That kind of money would more than fund all of BCC for more than a year!
Sorry, I know most of you disagree. I blame it on my Dad! Anyone who grew up with him would be hard-wired to play devil’s advocate, even if in this case it’s for a supermarket giant and a tabloid celeb…
Hope to hear a balanced response from BCC and maybe Asda again tomorrow. And I do think we should leave off KP the person and stick to the issue of the insensitivity around body image. The tabloid press is already slaughtering her and we shouldn’t kick a woman when she’s down, whoever she is.
Love Ex