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Hi Lily - sorry to hear of your problems. The feeling of loneliness must be over-whelming. My wife is just 32 and we found out 3 weeks ago she has BC. I’ve been a wreck but getting a bit more strength now I’m coming to terms with it and we know what the treatment plan is ie mastectomy, lymph node removal…followed by Chemo.

We have a 9 month old and a 3.5 yr old and they have been my wife’s focus. She has been so strong, I just hope I can be as strong as possible to support her through the hard times ahead.

We’re in Nottingham so I can’t comment on help in Leamington Spa, but I believe my wife is applying for some incapacity benefit (I think). If we get it, we plan to use it for a cleaner/ironing. Is that a possibility for you? I know it’s not much…but every little helps.

I do hope that all these fantastic, supportive ladies on this site are giving you a bit of moral support.

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Finally accepted that my mum doesnt want to no. My husband has taken some time off work, and it has made everything sooooo much easier. my hubby is an absolute star,financially not good but will look into benefits.
brooktop, thankyou for your comments, sounds like you have your hands full with 2 little ones. mine have been great for a distraction, and have helped me to just get on with things

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lily…I look out for your comments, so glad your now feeling you have some help, must say my hubbies been and still is being brill.
Sorry your Mum can’t help or cope, maybe someday soon, when things are less stressful you two may become close again…sending hugsxx