For those of you who know me and have heard me speaking about my mum, its with deep deep sorrow that I am writing here to say she died on Friday morning. she has been in hospital since my chemo started in July, caught c diff which they could not get rid of permanently, she was diagnosed with dementia and had to go into residential care. Because of her c diff she did not move into the home until 2 1/2 weeks ago and never got to appreciate how lovely the home was. Dad and I were called in on Wed evening and stayed with her till she passed away Friday morning from pneumonia. She really has suffered the past 8 months or so and in a way it is a relief that her suffering is over.Dad and I are dreading her funeral on Friday and of course I worry so much about dad - he is going to be so lost without her - they have been married 44 years - would have been 45 this year.
I suppose another good thing is she never knew about my diagnosis as she was not with it enough so at least she did not have to worry about me.
Just feel very numb at the mo and dont know what to do when dad and I are not organising things.
I am so so sorry to hear that. My mum died with dementia four years ago so I have an idea of what it is like. I really feel for you and understand too that one good thing is she didn’t know about your breast cancer.
Hi Fiona,
heartfelt condolences on the sad loss of your Mum. Having lost my Dad at 59 yrs to colon cancer, my twin brother at 50 yrs to brain cancer, and myself having bc, I do know how devastated you must feel. My only solace is that neither my Dad, Mum nor brother lived to hear of my diagnosis.
I hope and trust you and your Dad can just remember some of the wonderful memories you had of your Mum and focus on them. So glad you have each other.
Take care,
Liz.
Dear Fiona
Just to add my condolences. You will need strength and support now and I very much hope you find that - don’t be worried about looking for it.
All the best to you and your family.
Jo
xx
Dear Fiona
Just read this sad thread - I’m so sorry. You have had such a mountain of things to cope with. Sending you big hugs and lots of love. At least she is at peace now.
Take care of yourself
Ali
x
Its such a difficult time, have lots of things to try to get my head round but dad and I are definately taking comfort in the fact that she is at peace. Her funeral service was on Friday - very very hard, but a lovely service with a good turnout for mum and ourselves - very heartwarming. We will miss her so much, but it is dad who has the biggest hole left in his life as for the past 8 months, his afternoons have been spent visiting mum in whichever hospital or home she was in. Mum will always be in our memories and in our hearts, and dad and I are even closer now.