I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer on Thursday and dont really know what to do with myself. There is no history in my family and i am trying to be brave and positive but i cant be like it all the time. i am not sleeping and sometimes feel sick, faint and dizzy. I have told my friends and colleagues and have a supportive family and boyfriend but any advice on how i can learn to accept this terrible disease would be greatly appreciated. I know there is light at the end of the tunnel but i just cant step into the tunnel right now.
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Hi
Just wantd to say sorry that you have had to join this site, and that the way you feel at the moment is completely normal. The initial few days and weeks are overwhelming, and everyone on here will empathise with how you feel.
It is great that you have a good support network, that will make a big differenvce, and you will feel better than you do at the moment-try to believe that even though its hard to at the point you are at. I don’t know how anyone learns to accept it, I just know that I felt as you describe at first, and just kept putting one foot in front of the other-pushed, dragged, and propped up by those around me when I flt I couldn’t do it myself-and it became more manageable.
There is another thread ‘tests!’, I think, where other women have said they feel just as you do now.
Best
C x
Hi Superjem
So sorry that you have had to join us but you have come to the right place for support - rant, rave, laugh, cry - we all know how you feel and we help each other through each step of the way. You will find the tunnel and the light at the end of it - just give yourself time, how you are feeling is completely normal and we have all been there.
As cupoftea said so pleased you have a good support network around you and try and just take one day at at time. Things will be easiler when you have a treatment plan in place and you know exactly what is happening. Any questions just post there is always someone who has shared experience and very knowledgable ladies to help.
Sending lots of love and hugs Anne xx
Hi Superjem,
Sorry to hear you are feeling down, you have come to the right place,
I am 45, was only diagnosed 7 weeks ago, i have undergone surgey, now had my first chemo session 10 days ago, but things are just starting to feel a little normal again.
I must admit, it feels like ages since i was dxd, the ladies here have been a great help to me, the best thing for me, was to read what was relevant to me and to take one day at a time.
You will feel as if you are never going to see the light at the end of the tunnel, then all of a sudden, YOU WILL.
Hope all goes well for you, there are many ladies here who will be a great help and support to you, believe me, i never thought i would recieve such a warm welcome from ladies who i have never even met.
For me, i have tried to stay positive from day one, nothing was gonna beat me down, my mum and other family members had bc and survived it, i took inspiation from them.
Take care
Sandare x x x
Dear Superjem
I am in exactly the same boat as you - diagnosed with BC on Thursday (15th May). I’m due to see the Oncologist next Tuesday (18th) along with having an MRI scan and having a ‘tab’ inserted onto the growth. Surgery will follow in due course. I can’t fault the quality of care and advice given to me so far in these early days by the Breast Care Nurse and hospital - they’ve been so supportive.
I have a loving husband who has been wonderful. He was with me when the diagnosis given and we cried together. I am scared silly and wonder about telling my eldest daughter who is currently living overseas.
Happy to compare notes on the next stages.
Take Care
Thanks everyone - i didnt really know what to expect from this website and you have all encouraged me to use it more. Im only 28 so understanding why i have to go through all of this is very difficult. Lilyflorum, i have added you as a contact so hopefully we can go through the stages together and compare notes!!
Hi superjem - thought i’d add that there’s a thread called “diagnosed in their 20’s” which might be worth a look for you. Good luck on your journey.
Lynn
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Hi my name is sal…I was dx when I was 33 years old and I thought I was young !!! I’m 10 months into my journey and I’ve had surgery, chemo, more surgery & radiotherapy and carried on bringing up my two gorgeous 3 & 6 yr old girls…albeit with the help if my hubby & mom…it’s been an emotional rollercoaster but I’m out the other side now hair growin nicely & back at work…so you can do it!!!
Just wanted to tell you about a book called ‘The C word’ by lisa lynch…it’s written by a 28yr old girl who had breast cancer…it’s sad in parts but a very honest and very funny too…might be worth a read!
Best of luck with your treatment…lots of love xxxx
hi i’m also new to this i was diagnosed on the 29th april after have a mammagram ultrasound and biopsy on the 26th i have a date for a lumpecetomy on the 26th may ,the hardest part has been the waiting for the result
Hi
New to me as well I have taken a step in to my journey I am at home recovery from operation (lumpecetomy and lymph nodes clearance)which i Had last Tuesday waiting to for my results next week and confirmation for my treatment of chemo & radio…
Feeling ok as we speak keeping positive but great to read all other posts, which helps a great deal.
Any one from “torfaen” going through BC to ?
Sal x
HOPE all you ladies are doing well on your road to recovery following your surgery I thought id just add a note to say that it all does seem as if its not happening to you and all very frightening .Iam a little ahead of you ladies i had a lumpectomy 30th march (went home next day carrying my drain around in a little floral gift bag ha ha)It is a real rollercoaster at first and yes my husband has actually been worse than me ( and they say men are the stronger sex) he just felt so helpless to me but i reassured him by just talking and being there for me ( even to shout at sometimes) he was helping I had a full clearence of the nodes as they said they looked suspicious during surgery and when i went back for my post-op check they were all clear WOO HOO it was like winning the lotery ,At first they thought i would only have radiotherapy but because of my age and as extra “insurance” my oncologist recommended chemo FEC x 6 I started that 6th May and fortunately up to now have not had any sickness or much side effects ( hope it cont’s) I can only describe it like the early months of pregnancy ( a bit delicate stomach)but only a couple of days and have even gone off coffee and had cravings like when i was pregnant ha ha .i have had some great advice on coping from other great ladies on this site .I have my 2nd chemo 27th May I have cont’d to go out with the girls and hubby shopping therapy is a great distraction and just pamper yourself ( daughter got me a spa day for my birthday the day before 1st chemo and it was perfect so relaxing and took my mind off everything and a delicious meal after . You will get there and feel better about things when you get your treatment plan and get started and start to plan again for the future instead of feeling in limbo .Ive booked my hols for after finishing chemo and before starting radiotherapy ive also got a big wedding to go to in July and although i still have hair now ive got an amazing wig and hat to wear ( even my hubby and daughter didnt notice ha ha . Feel free to message me anytime when you get your treatment plans Im a nurse aswell so will try and help if i can if you have any questions .Keep doing them execises girls and take care love and Hugs Julie xxx
Hi everyone
I guess I just need other people going thru same as me. Felt a lump on a Saturday, went to GP on Monday, she said “it’s just a cyst, don’t lose any sleep over it but I will send you for a mammogram and ultrasound anyway because you are too young for routine checks” - I am 43. So it was a bit of a shock when the consultant had a feel and said they would do a biopsy with the ultrasound. I was so startled all I could say to the ultrasound lady was “so…not a cyst then?” She said I was the third person that day who had been told it was just a cyst when it was definitely not…so I am still in shock. All I know is that this lump is apparently small at 15mm but I need an MRI scan because she wasnt sure if there was another smaller lump behind it and I should be getting the biopsy results on Monday 24th May. They say they are sure its cancer. Sometimes I think everything will be OK, sometimes I think the thought of not seeing my boys who are only 6 years old and 20 months old is just too much to bear. I hate the waiting, even though I don’t have long to wait…Hope this isnt boring everyone, it does help just to write it all down actually…
Cheryl (in Southend)
Hi Cheryl,
I’m sorry that you have had to join us on this website. I only joined myself a few weeks ago. Don’t ever feel that you are boring people when you talk on here, thats why we are all here to support one another with whatever is thrown at us. Hopefully your tests will turn out well for you and everything will turn out ok. I know it’s very hard waiting for results I was dx on 27th April with bc and last week I had a WLE and SNB it was not half as scary as I had expected and the doctors and nursing staff were excellent and helped me through my initial fears. Now I just have to wait once more for results, we seem to spend a lot of time just waiting, good luck I hope all goes well for you.
Best wishes
Isabelle xxx
Cheryl
Have sent you a pm
thanks ladies, good job there is a glossary on here! A whole new world of medical terms to be understood!
Thanks for listening and hearing
Cheryl x
Have sent you a private message .heres hoping you get good news and benign results take care Juliex
Hello,I’m new here. Got diagnosed on Friday 21 May 2010 so feeling slightly sureal at the moment. One minute I’m cracking jokes and feeling posative, the next I’m scared senseless! I kind of expected to be a bit up and down but right now I’m just plane brickin it! I’ve been reading all the comments and they have already made a big difference to how I’m feeling! I wish all of us the best of luck as we go through this journey and I’m grateful to be able to share my thoughts on here with all of you. I feel I’m rambling now and not really making any sense but you all seem so nice that maybe a bit of rambling is forgivable! Take care and thanks for reading this xxx
Cheryl & Olly
Sorry that you both find yourselves here…it’s a club that noone wants to belong to, but it has the most warm and compassionate members imaginable.
Waiting for results is the worst thing, its a very anxious time. Once you have an idea of what your treatment plan will be you will hopefully start to feel better.
Come here for support and advice whenever you need to and Olly… ‘ramble’ to your heart’s content…we’re all here for each other.
HC xx
HI olly sorry you had to join us but im sure you;ll get lots of support and advice from all these wonderful brave ladies ive sent you a private message and contact me anytime xx julie
AND cheryl hope you doing ok good luck with your appt today let us know how you get on xx