Oh Stuart, I am so very sorry for you both, and words are just not enough to describe how I really feel for you both. It’s really tearful reading your posts - I think you are both wonderful, and your Vicky couldn’t wish for a better husband.
I’m almost 50 and have had two different sorts of breast cancer, but both of them have only been early stage each time. I really wish it had been the same for your Vicky, and wish I could do something for you both, other than just write these words!
You are both incredible and inspirational!
My love and best wishes to you both, I hope Vicky’s pain can be controlled most of the time. Keep on fighting for as long as you can or want!
With much love and admiration, Julie x
Time for another update.
Vicky is 35 tomorrow and over 5 1/2 years after being diagnosed she still hasn’t lost her fighting spirit.
The nurses still come every day to change her syringe driver following the last hospice stay which helps but it is pretty evident that the brain tumours are growing as she has started to lose the sight in both eyes. She’s been up to the hospital and her eyes are fine so she has decided that she will have either a Cat or MRI scan to see what’s going on. It would also seem that the secondaries in her lungs are getting worse too as she has developed a nasty cough and she wheezes when asleep.
That said, Vicky still manages to smile and in her own words “isn’t ready to go yet”.
Time is always too short so live, love & laugh while you can.
Hugs to you & those who love and support you too,
Stuart x
Thank you for keeping us updated, I often think of you and Vicky and wonder how you’re getting on. I hope you can both get out and enjoy the sunshine, it’s beautiful out there today.
Have just read yours and Vicky’s story on the thread and am overwhelmed and in awe of both of you. Your strength and love shine through as does Vicky’s enormous courage.
I hope you manage to have a special day with Vicky on her birthday and like all others who have posted here send lots of love and thoughts.
This is such a dreadful disease and 35 is much too young. I am also blessed with a wonderful husband and know that he will support me as you are doing with Vicky. It makes me very sad to think about leaving him and the children, as you say, we must make the most of all the time we have together both the good and the bad. Vicky will live on through you.
I was called home from work on Friday as Vicky’s MacMillan nurse had the results of her MRI. Well, the results weren’t good to say the least with the cancer spreading into her skull, the meningeal lining and some fairly large tumours there too. Things only got worse when Vicky suffered a seizure on Friday night and was taken into the hospice by ambulance.
Amyway, she came home yesterday and seems fairly responsive now as Midazolam has been added back into her syringe driver which will help prevent any further episodes.
Everyone is so tired, including Vicky of course. I’d like to say that she’ll make it as far as our anniversary on May 20th but I just can’t see much beyond the next couple of weeks now - she’s asked me to remember her smile. I will and so much more besides.
Take time to get a hug today, it’s worth it on so many levels.
Stuart xx
Big hugs to you and to Vicky. Not much more that I can say, except make the most of every day, which I am sure you are doing anyway. This horrible disease is so unfair. xxx
I am completely inspired by Vickie’s determination. We don’t always remember what people do or say, but we never forget the way they make us feel. Wishing her many more good days.
I have just read yours and Vicky’s posts and I am so sorry that this dreadful disease has affected you both in this way xx
I am 34 and it is so cruel that this disease is affecting such a young and very determined lady.
Sending BIG hugs and I wish peace and love to you both