Big up the ladies that can agree to disagree and see each others points of views. And so eloquently. I posted a story to share but then deleted for the fear of offending. Much love to each and every lady dealing with this rotten disease in whatever way you chose to deal with it x c
Hope you all get a good ‘hand’ in your card game, using your cancer as a good excuse to ‘get your own way’, yes, I have reported this thread title as ‘inappropriate’ as I REALLY am offended, I only have posted today to let you all know how upsetting this thread title has made me feel since it started; keep on playing your game of life, I’ll be sure to let my kids know if they need any perks in life, to just tell whoever needs to know that their mum had CANCER, so I’ll have that job, free table, a*gcse thanks x
Since this thread is, In my opinion geared towards the acts of kindness that others Give, I want to share with you all how my very best friend has chosen to help not just me but other ladies who lose their hair. Upon my diagnosis and fear of losing my hair and the tears and tears and tears that we shared, she paid to attend a course with Trevor sorbie called ‘my new hair’ to learn how to cut wigs and make it he ordeal as painless as possible for me. Because she loves me and she wanted to help me in any way she could. Today , during her Christmas break she went to work for One appointment; to cut a ladies hair who starts chemo tomorrow. This lady has an 11 week old baby and is absolutely petrified. My lovely friend didn’t charge her. She didn’t even consider it. Freebie- you bet!
Hi Lisa, what a great friend and a lovely example of human kindness, which is a million miles away from upgrades, freebies, better bundles from products etc…which sadly have been mentioned here.
I am going to use my ‘Cancer Card’ as a ‘Get out of Jail’ card as I am sure there will be times when I need to call in some ‘favours’. It is just a ‘terminology’ to be used when we need help in difficult circumstances, the same as we use ‘chemo fog’ when we forget things.
Some people I think would be more inclined to go the extra mile for you if they are AWARE of your circumstances and the fact that you can’t always manage to do certain things as you once did.
If we can use the ‘Cancer Card’ to help ourselves, for example funding for heating, water, insulation, sky tv packages, roadside assistance, then good on us!
If I don’t like a television programme or if I am offended by it I would switch it off or watch something else. I certainly wouldn’t continue watching it, then dissect it and moan that I found it offensive, when I had the option to ignore it!
I wish we had a ‘like’ option on the forum. I like your post Daysiecx
And I would ‘like’ Belinda’s post.
As she says, it’s not about getting one over on someone else and blagging freebies, it’s letting people know you are/have been ill and need a bit of extra consideration.
PS.I find the thread title a bit unfortunate, it has to be said.
Like Cat Lady I see nothing remotely funny about c*****. It’s vile.
I have taken you to task, Keepthefaith, and started a topic in ‘Undergoing Treatment for Breast Cancer’ and given it your title of ‘Nice things that people did for us when they didn’t have to’.
It is my way of saying thank you to my support network of family, friends and colleagues who have gone that ‘extra mile’ for me because they wanted to, and I would like to honour them and give them the recognition that they deserve for their selfless acts of kindness.
Please join me there and sing the praises of your own experiences of acts of kindness.
Mazzalou x
Everyone has an opinion,
If you don’t like something, don’t take part in it!
This thread was supposed to be light-hearted and should have been taken in the way it was intended. I along with everyone else in this situation at the moment have lost a lot of control over their lives and now it appears just commenting on an open forum is being judged.
Perhaps we must just e-mail privately? in case of offending…
Dont think so, free speech etc… don’t look if you dont like what you see.
sorry if offended anyone…just utilising my right to free speech
hey folks
if the majority of you are really offended by the title i don’t mind it changing, but i’m not able to do it, physically. i don’t agree that it needs changing but i really didn’t mean to offend anyone.
as shelle (hospice) says, we could end up silencing ourselves out of our fear not to offend, since who knows how someone will take something we say. i worry when people say c***** instead of cancer, it feels to me that’s giving too much power to the disease. remember voldemort, when no one but harry potter would say his name? (lessons from children’s stories, what am i coming to?), so i’d hate to change the name to that. but whatever. i called it the cancer card (in capitals) as an act of defiance against the disease but i realise not everyone sees it that way.
whatever.
xx
louise has offered to change the title if we want - any suggestions?
Keep it as it is!!!
personally it does not offend in the slightest, but i appreciate that some are offended by it, and that isn’t the intention
maybe it could be called Russian Roulette! sorry sorry, just a joke lol xx
Hi Judes,
Please don’t start worrying about the title of this thread. It’s a shame if it inhibits you and important that we all feel we can be ourselves whether we agree or disagree!
We are all in this together. Starting up another thread is a great idea, I like it but no need to kill this one either. They’ve both got their place. Semantics is dangerous stuff lol!
Cx
DO NOT OPEN IF EASILY OFFENDED lol
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS lol
SENSE OF HUMOUR ALLOWED lol
THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS A FREE LUNCH lol
Judes - this thread should remain with the title and in the spirit it was intended, that’s the problem with this damned country, too many people are afraid to speak their minds for fear of offending the ‘do-gooders’. Those who don’t like it should join another ‘gang’ lol.
Judes,
I’m not offended - my thoughts are if anything helps anyone else through this difficult time so be it!
I remember reading about the poor lady who didn’t know she got free prescriptions and had paid out for months for tamoxifen - it’s so unfair at times!
Axx
Not offended whatsoeverby the title or content.
I would like to say NUFF RESPECT to Jude’s who despite feeling nothing is wrong with the title and content has put HER feelings aside to accommodate another person/s feelings and emotions.
I think that’s the exact ethos of the thread is it not, play a card,get what you want??? If the thread title gets changed, you played a card and you got the winning hand.
But then no-one wins at this game do they? Can we not just take it in the spirit it was intended. I know Jude’s and know for a FACT is wasn’t done with any intention to cause offensive or upset but is big enough to say “ok, let’s discuss”.
Trying to think of an alternative Jude’s but cant come up with one. I say put it to a vote then it’s fair. A bit far fetched perhaps but we could debating the thread title till thy kingdom come.
Let’s keep it sweet peeps.
JUST KEEP THE ORIGINAL TITLE…END OF THE MATTER
Keep the title I dont see anything wrong with it, if people dont like it they dont have to read it end of …