You summed it up Beth, bullies look for vulnerability, shameful! All one can hope is Karma bites them on the bum xx
Beth, what a horrible rotten thing to have happened and my cynical mind wonders if a set up. That’s no friendship or partnership and I get why you are thinking leave them to it. However, if you do go with gloves off, I would be tempted to write to the directors of the company to say how appalled you were that your work wasn’t covered while you were absent, as you were assured it would be - and that you are sorry your partner is unable to be trusted to run the business, which is why you no longer wish to have your name associated with his professionally. Sorry, that’s me being vindictive but he deserves to be thoroughly stitched up. His ears must be burning with the willow vibes heading his way! Huge hug to you xxx
Beth, I am gutted for you that something like that happened, and none of them could see how disgusting they were. And you have to go back tomorrow and work with the “partner” who seems happy to have dumped you in it. I’m glad that you sound furious, you’re entitled to be so angry about all of this.
I’m also mystified, because as you say, how are you supposed to be dealing with clients when you’re in the midst of cancer treatment? On what planet is that reasonable? So I just wonder what else is going on, because they must know that at haven’t got a leg to stand on.
Anyway, sending you a huge hug, and I hope you give him hell tomorrow. So much for reading your article…He must have known this was coming and that he was going to watch you take all the flak.
hi Beth,
So sorry to hear how you’ve been let down, sadly, this is bullying behaviour which your partner could not stand up to in supporting you, as Lesley says, karma may find a way! So glad you saw your counsellor afterwards.
They dont deserve you.
hugs
ann xxx
Yes Beth, I was feeling very cross for you too…was wondering what you actually said in response?
wouldnt be surprised if you found you do have some recourse with both your business partner and the firm you are contracted to…
.because you are clearly feeling the way you would have done in a ‘constructive dismissal’ situation…where you feel you have no option but to leave, as a result of the way you were treated. Yes explore it fully…but act when you feel strong enough xxxx
love and hugs,
Moijanxx
Morning lovely ladies, just popping by to send you all love and hugs xxxxx
Beth I hope today is a better day for you and definitely get on yo citizens advice. I was talking to my hubby last night and he said they shouldn’t be allowed to get away with that! tons of love Clair xxx xxx xxx
Hello lovely Willows, hope you’re enjoying your day. Beth’s experience yesterday has just reinforced my relief that I’m not working anymore even though financially it’s a bit grim, however, that’s a small price to pay for the peace of mind and relief that I don’t have to struggle and put up with a*******s anymore.
As Beth is the boss/partner, guess she hasnt anywhere to go to to complain. The outside people I’m guessing are a financial compliance body, the FCA? If so, they will have superiors who need to know that their representatives are behaving in such a hideous fashion. Guessing Beth that with everything youre battle fatigued and not up for a fight. Just concentrate on your well being for the moment, and if I were you I’d do as little as possible to make life easy for your pig of a partner. Keep your powder dry as the old saying goes, you’ll get the last laugh in the end.
Janey, Have you put scissors in the box? Always useful, plus plasters, I get through them at an alarming rate as I always manage to cut myself when peeling/chopping veg. Xx
Beth
How are you feeling today, hopefully more resiliant today after those idiots from yesterday xxx
Oh I do miss not being able to talk you all during the day with being at work, grrrrr. Hope everyone is well, it is absolutely pouring down and very grey here today, but I suppose it is warmer than it has been!!
Clair how are you feeling xx
Dizzy, lesley, ann, moijan, charys leigh,lily,Janey, blueleyla and everyone else HELLO xxxxx
Hi Helena, nearly finished your week of normal hours now, that’s pretty good. It’s been a dismal day here so far, but it’s just stopped raining and the sun is coming out, so I must take Daisy out while it’s nice. A friend came round for coffee earlier, she’s still struggling to get back to normal three months after a knee replacement operation so we were swopping hospital stories.
Hello lovely lady H,
I’m not to bad, my tummy is still a bit sore and bloated but the Dr gave me some tablets that seem to be helping and I’m not letting it stop me doing things. Xxxx
Too true Dizzy Darling, these days when I see colleagues (ex) we are dining, drinking, and laughing, and I listen to their stories of their grief of their daily struggles with their new employers/colleagues/work load and they harp back to “the good old days” when we worked together before being made redundant and were happy. Only, I can remember that although we all got on like a house on fire it was stress, stress and lots of strops and tears and I’m so happy to be out of it. Quite happy to be a poor old naughty lady growing old disgracefully, counting down the days until I get my pension. Until then I’ll continue to harass young builders as pay back from my youth when they used to embarrass me when I walked pass building sites, revenge is sweet lol xx
Helena, great news about the contract renewal! That must be such a relief after the last few months, I’m glad they’ve appreciated you working through radiotherapy.
Lesley, I haven’t pictured you as a naughty old woman, more as feisty and a character. But I love the idea of you embarrassing the builders. And I’m completely with you on not missing all the stress and the hassle of work.
I have a friend who retired, then immediately volunteered with the CAB, and has filled up all her time with commitments either with them or various groups she goes to. If I want to see her, she can give me two dates in two months when she’s free. She hates not having everything planned. It’s almost as if she’s stopped work but still wants the same routines. And I’m just the opposite, I love being free to decide what I feel like doing, and if I have too many things in my diary, I can’t wait till I get through it and have the time to myself again. So I shudder at the thought of living her lifestyle, and she’s completely mystified by mine.
Hi you amazing bunch
today I was a picture of serenity - on the outside anyway. Inside I was a raging mess still. I figured that I will be niceness personified whilst I bide my time and come up with a plan. The staff all came in to me one by one throughout the day as they clearly had figured out something happened yesterday and ultimately it has come out today that they all dislike him and were waiting for me to return to work to put everything back on an even keel. I am going to document everything, go and see a solicitor when I’m off in a few weeks and see what they say. I have a 50 page contract which I want vetting so I know where I am.
Today he was polite and courteous but it’s too late now. I’ve had enough. We have a 110 mile journey together tomorrow for a meeting so that will be interesting. I can do silence as good as the next person!
I shall be like a swan…calmly floating around for now, but paddling like heck underneath. Lol
hope everyone is ok
thank you EVERYONE for all your support
love you all!! Xxx
Ruby!!!
that is absolutely hilarious!!! I love it lol xxx
Oh if I could have you all at my side, things would be very different lol!!!
You’ve made me all emotional. You ladies are truely amazing and I am so thankful that in the depths of despair of a BC diagnosis, I got to know you lovely lot. I genuinely think you have all held me together the last few months. Xxx
Beth, I think you’re brilliant for the way you’re dealing with this, getting mad and planning on getting even. It would be so easy for it to have destroyed your confidence, it shows how far you’ve come that you can see that they’re just complete jerks, all of them. But you’re entitled to expect your partner to show some loyalty as well as a bit of consideration, I’m still sticking pins in his effigy on your behalf.
Ooh Beth all of us virtually in the back seat looking daggers! No surprise your colleagues all love you and hope that gives you extra strength. Xxx