Despite NICE guidelines, we do all seem to be having different experiences! I was 23 June for diagnosis, so assume I have a wait yet for first mammogram. However, I am seeing the surgeon soon for a follow up. Still getting twinges and stabbing pains, which we all seem to have been told is nerve damage, but a new non wired super support bra seems to be making a difference.
I saw no lambs - hmmm Rubycat ??! But have some more cosmos seed (yep they are annuals Helena). This time white ones, as the others are cranberrry. Also tomato seed and bells of Ireland (lovely foliage and a good day to buy it!).
I don’t know if it’s having time to stop today, but I’m noticing quite panicky and anxious feelings ?, although I guess it could be gin withdrawal, or maybe the coffee beforehand?!
You sound to be in a good (but medically busy!) place Delly. Hopefully your eyes will soon be well healed.
Are you still lunching Lesley?!
Love that picture Rubycat xx. Helena, I haven’t gone back to underwired yet. Reason being is all bras have a side seam and that’s where my scar is, right down the outside. I’ve been wearing soft pull on over the head jobbies, no seams. Get them from Sainsbury’s, very comfortable and very cheap. The only problem with them is they come quite high up so if you’re wearing a V neck or something that’s very slightly low cut (and I’m not talking cleavage showing) you can see them. Might try an underwired one on and see how it feels as scar doesent seem too tender now, it’s more the whole thing. Still no Lily xx
I’m hiding at the back - so as well disguised as Helena behind her tapestry!!
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Lunching Janey? Having afternoon tea tomorrow with my old colleagues. There were supposed to be 8 of us. We were going to go to The Crazy Bear as that’s where we usually have dinner but for some stupid reason they wouldn’t take a booking for tea for more than 6 (go figure). So we booked at Raymond Blancs instead as it’s only a few yards away. Now 2 can’t make it so we’re down to 6, still it will be nice to try somewhere different. I’ll just have to make sure I don’t sneeze and bottom burp at the same time as it’s quite posh. Having said that, I think my ex colleagues will be disappointed if I don’t do something as I usually provide the entertainment on our get togethers even though I don’t mean to. Hope the panicky feelings are just a blip. May top up on the gin will help xx
I see you Janey trying to hide. Well done xx
Doh! Sorry Lesley I thought it was today - maybe less gin needed! Xx
Well thanks Ruby, but I don’t eat cats - found them a bit sinuey. Now the one on the right looks more like it, given a bit of plumping up !! Awww, but aren’t they lovely. I’d like one as a pet, if it stayed forever a lamb and I could change my name to Mary.
Helena - Yeh, discovered the benefit of an automatic, when I inherited my bruvs, following his death. Veru much noticed when I was regularly zipping from North to the Devon coast where he lived, to attend to his affairs, I was getting out after a four hour drive, still feeling “fresh”. Amazing the diff it makes, having one less pedal and no gear stick manouvres makes. Also find I drive and concentrate better with having those two less to think about, apart from when I hit a sudden flooded area of road and aquaplane, that is !!
After I’d picked up the car and was nearing home, I called into a supermarket to get a few bits. got chatting to a lady at the till queue, as I do. We carried on chatting whilst walking out and then outside for about 20 mins, probably longer. She’d had a rough time of it the last 3 years, losing her husband, then her daughter in laws Dad, but then recently, awwww her daughter in law lost her baby whilst giving birth. Had carried it full-term. Poor woman. She said, she used to be able to cope better, but just goes to pieces now with each one bad thing after another. We had a giggle though, and she said, “I feel more normal after this chat”. “Yeh”, said I, “does you good to talk about things, sometimes better if it’s to a sympathetic stranger”. And she just launched her self and arms at me. Gave me the most ginormous hug, kiss and thank you, which of course I reciprocated back, when she allowed me to breathe, as hers was sooo tight, Ha. She left me all “Glowy”, how lovely was that.
You know, people can tend to be a bit retentive about contact in this country and I’ve often noted the same in certain other other European countries. I’ve worked in “contact” all my working life (can’t get much more contact than carrying out massages on and for people, can you?! Feet less so, but I still had to hold a persons foot and often used to give foot and leg massages as well as nail snipping and scalpel works). I’ve often said it, and will always maintain it, that a touch can often break down communication barriers and create a “bond”, that words can’t always reach or achieve. But I also maintain, that someone’s listening ears are a very SPECIAL “gift” to be bestowed onto yourself, or you onto them. I certainly appreciated it and still do from certain of my friends, when I’m going through rough times. To me, listening and a touch or hug are one of the one of the greatest gifts someone can give you. And. . . they’re FREE. They’re always hugging and kissing each other in Italy - another reason why I like that country, the Italians.
Janey - mmmm, Helena’s got you sussed on the gin, the rest of us just haven’t said anything !! Is that You-hoo at the back, on the right??
I’m better today thanks, my little magnolia. Bit more “up” again. Had a not so good day yesterday, but was very, very tired and sore. Didn’t help that I misjudged my distance, being one eyed (not sloshed), and fell over. Got a lovely bruise on my hip and arm from protecting my head. Giggled after tho’ :smileylol: May be a skinny bird without much padding, but always been a toughy, physicalyl. Still think all the bashes and blows I’ve had to my head, through the years, are responsible for me being so Doolally (ha - yeh, I’m hearing you all agreeing on that one), but that recent car crash, smash and jolt to my head may have put something back in place, that’d come loose!!! Mmmmm, nice thought Delly.
Here’s an interesting point tho’, for me to raise to the manufacturers that be. I struggle now with these blasted lids and tops, that require you to press on both sides of them. I’m now struggling with my so called “good” hand and often end up with an old fashioned tin opener to mutilate, gemmy or lever the lid off, then I leave it loose. Child proof? Huh, Delly proof. I’m having to put antibiotic drops in my eye, 4x a day. Can I sqeeze that tiny bottle - NO !! What a devil of a struggle. Why can’t they make them in a softer plastic, rather than a concrete one - terribly frustrating. Needs me to write, give them some feedback and suggestions of softer ones. I shall do, when I can see better !! Haha.
Bye for now
xxxxxxxxxx Oh, and I need to offload some hugs, arms very, very itchy from lack of use these last couple of weeks, so have some of these too ((((((Skinny me and Who-ever wants one!)))))))
Blimey, Delly’s been on a typing binge. I’ll have to go back and read those LOONNGGGGg things later. Lesley…saw surgeon on MOnday only this week and she said she would chase it up, so kind of expected to her by the end of this week. It’s so annoying, as I got forgotten for my rt follow up as well…that was meant to be August and ended up being November ! As for the crispy extremity…yep…it’s still there…however dare I said it is marginally better and possibly very very slowly improving.
Mmmmm, yum yum yummy lamby. Left the cat, but thanks for the thought, Ruby. That’s been really tough on your son, but hopefully he’s young enough and still enthusiastic enough about his work to bounce back and keep kicking at it. Get his status back, even if it means moving to another area. Awww, lovely to hear you soo proud, and with good reason.
Ohhhh, come on Charys, I’ve had zillions to catch up on with you lot, and you’ve had a “bit” to catch up with meeee. I haven’t been standing or sitting still - that’s the most important thing. Should keep Miss Janey happy to know that. Need her to keep weilding the. . .erm. . . “stick” as oppo the other, walnut word.
I have to say this, to all you lumpectomy and rad ladies. I now consider myself somewhat fortunate, a sort of “not very nice fortunate”, in that I opted for full mastectomies with both of my boobs, rather than the offered lumpectomies. No, am I hell, arrogantly rubbing your noses in it. But, I haven’t suffered any of these pains and underarm scar problems. Having full lymph node-ectomies,(was just prior to SNB procedures being accepted in this country) that were carried out through the frontal mast incisions at the same time, I don’t have a seperate tender under arm scar. Having no remaining breast tissue, I didn’t go through any of the pains that some of you are experiencing or suffering, nor the probs with bras at the sides. Just had to be very careful at the front, tender scar wise for a while. I did suffer in other respects though, from total loss of both. Mentally, confidence wise especially. I DO and can sympathise with you all though. Was just a thought that cropped up for me today, from reading how many of you are sore and tender. Had I opted for lumpectomies, I would have had to have Rads, but was advised not a good idea, if having recon at the same time, which didn’t materialise anyway. But then, that was back 10 yrs ago though. Things have vastly moved on since.
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Rubycat, I would be proud too. Being prepared to roll your sleeves up a sign of a good Social Worker to me. It’s tough going in Social Care now with no agencies out there. I miss my underwires so much, but just too uncomfy. Not easy to find robust enough bras for me! Xx
Evening fluffies
you lot have been busy again!! There were 4 pages to catch up on lol
welcome back Delly!!
janey - hope you had a fab day In Westminster! It’s an incredible place to visit and congratulations on the awards!!
Bras - I still can’t contemplate wearing underwired bras. Even the super soft one I’m wearing is sore. Let’s face it, any thing that puts any kind of pressure on by breast is very uncomfortable at best, and painful at worst. I have some coats that I can’t wear now as when I do them up they’re just putting too much pressure on the area. Please don’t be offended but I’m reassured its not just me that’s still really sore.
It’s just a few weeks now till I have my clinic appt which is the first time I’ll have seen anybody still finishing rads at Christmas. Think I’m going to have a long list of questions.
So my news of the day is that I have told them I am handing in my notice. My 3 months starts today. They were shocked to say the least and tried to convince me to stay but I have made up my mind. I have this tremendous sense of relief, but I also feel really sad too. I have worked my socks off and with my business partner, turned a failing office into one of the top performing ones but enough is enough. I don’t think I will fully start to recover physically and mentally until I am able to rest for a while - maybe then these breast pains will stop.
I will end off today with one of my fav pics…continuing the lamb theme!! Have a little happy Welsh lamb, always good with a splash of mint sauce lols
Evening lovelies, just popping by to say hello
I’ve really struggled this week with work issues, being in a lot of pain and just life in general. I’ll catch up fully on all your news later.
Well done Beth xxx
Love and hugs Clair xxxx
Yey Beth - Well done from me too. You can fully concentrate on yourself and recovering now, instead of having to put up with the daily brown stuff you have.
Ruby - Where on earth did you dig that photo of me up from. That was obviously on a good day - I’m smiling and my ears are sticking out (always a good sign). Honest, it’s the spitting image!! And I lurrrrv mint sauce, so don’t care how much of it you splash on me!
Awwww, so many of you are uncomfey with your boobs, I’m am being seriously sympathetic now, btw.
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Beth, good for you! Now you’ve done it you can start to think about the future without all these problems.
Clair, i hope you have a restful weekend, you sound like this has been a bad week, sending you hugs.
I feel like a bit of a fraud, i have no pain or even discomfort, and I’ve been wearing all my normal underwires since about a week after surgery. And I had no problems from rads. Considering how much of me has gone, i don’t understand how I’ve got away with it. But listening to everyone else makes me hugely grateful.
The only thing I have to get my head round is going down several cup sizes if I have the symmetrising surgery, I’m not sure I’ll look like me any more. But it’s either that or make Bertha a permanent feature,and that doesn’t do much for my self image either.
Moijan, maybe the bleepers are still asleep.
Delly, I’m 56, and think the pertness horse bolted a long time ago! So a bit of basic symmetry is all l want. It’s just that every now and again I have a fit of nerves and wonder if I’ll like the new look.
I’m amazed at what they can do through such a small incision, so you may find they don’t need to enlarge the original scar.
Well it’s a grey and blustery morning here, I’m going to finish sorting my allotment out this morning, so heaving bags of manure and chipped bark around. It’s composted manure, so not actually pongy, but still not my favourite job… But it’s very satisfying when it’s all finished and after today the hard work is done for the year.
Dizzy I’m jealous! Almost there with the veg patch but I get itchy fingers this time every year, when I want to be knee deep in muck! I’m going to ask about a mini fillet to balance me, but then think I need to lose the weight first!
Moijan you really are at your spiritual thread being so fluffy!
Busy day today. OH already near Salisbury then as soon as he gets here, we are off to Bo Peep to think about my other lovely but no longer here friend at her favourite spot. We are of course Beth going to have to find a TV for the rugby! Maybe today we shall see your lambs Sue! Happy Saturdays all of you. Xxx
Hello fluffies
Well it is a bit dull here this morning but thank goodness that wind has finally died down, it was a bad night here, checked and all the fences are still in place and only one small patio pot fell off the patio.
Dizzy you are making me soo jealous as well, I am dying to finish work next Thursday and praying for a lovely week after that when I am on leave so that I can get into my garden. I have decided to take up a stretch of bark on a border I have running 15m x 500mm and replace it with slate chippings so I need to get a cost for that next week and see about delivery. Colin bought me some new lights but I am going to have to dismantle the old ones and put a connector is as the cable is not quite long enough, new experiences for me there then.
Happy Saturday everyone and fellow rugby fans enjoy this afternoon.
Helena xxx
Janey, the allotment is only a small plot, and we’ve converted it to raised beds because it’s so much easier. I cover all the empty beds with polythene or membrane in late autumn, so it’s weed free when I uncover them. And I have bark down in between to keep the weeds down, so in spring I spray the worst weeds that have popped up, the dandelions and docks, then just give it a top up. It does cost me to put the bark down, but it’s only a hobby, I don’t claim this saves me money. But we have strawberries, autumn raspberries a rhubarb triffid, blackcurrants, gooseberries and a blueberry in a pot. And this year we’ll have onions, shallots, turnips, broad beans, french beans, mange tout, courgettes, butternut squash, they’re all things that you stick in the ground and forget about. The tomatoes and lettuce and herbs are at home.
I wish I had a garden big enough to have everything at home, but I don’t want to look out onto a vegetable garden, so the allotment lets us play at growing our own without taking too much time or effort, or spoiling the view from the house.
Anyway, the allotment is now sorted, the seeds are in the growhouse, so now it’s time for the garden, which is desperately in need of some TLC.
Helena, are you replacing garden lights? That’s on my list for this year, last year we put in an irrigation system so low voltage lighting will be this year’s project.