Sorry Clair, our posts clashed, so ignore bit about ringing. Your GP will see you right I’m sure and also say you need to not be deterred but taken off the list xx
Grrr deferred not deterred - bloomin spell check!
Hi ladies
sorry I’ve not been around much the last few days but been having mum issues. Exasperated would be an understatement and my lovely, desperately worried sis and mum have fallen out today. This ‘germ’ thing is doing our heads in to the extent that mum is completely shutting herself away from us (not everyone else though).
I think in reality she’s just not coping with what’s happening to her and that they have stopped her chemo perhaps indefinitely and the only way she can deal with it all is not to see us - maybe it’s too painful to face that time could be limited. If she doesn’t see us, she can pretend it’s not happening.
Ive tried talking to her and all I get is that she’s either ‘highly contagious’ or ‘far too tired’ to see me and doesn’t want to hear anything at all about that it just all may be very difficult for us too.
so all you lovely ladies…what can I do? My limited energy is already spread thinly and the way I feel at the moment about her cannot be printed on a public forum. ???
Oh Beth what a tough time. I wonder if you are able to speak with anyone in her care team, to ask them if they can mediate and support your Mum. I think you maybe right, it’s probably harder to face you both, as it makes it real. If you aren’t able to reach her care team, is your Mum someone who would read a letter? I’m sure you’ve tried everything already but so sorry you’re going through this. I think you need a few of those cwitches back xx
Evening all. I’m getting more and more achey from painting fence panels, I wish I’d never started. The ones I’ve done have come up like new, so the ones I haven’t look so much worse, I’ll have to do them all. I sat in the cinema feeling stiff. Today’s film was good, The Lost City of Z, yesterday’s not so much.
Helena, I nearly said to you that I once used slate as a mulch and really regretted it. It looks great when the border is newly done, but as time goes on you get earth and dead leaves and it looks really messy. I’m a fan of bark because it’s fairly forgiving when you want to plant things in it and it doesn’t show every bit of twig or dead leaf.
Janey, I’m interested in your solar lights, have you had them long? I’ve always assumed they wouldn’t last.
Your appointment today sounded so positive, if your Cowdens test does come back positive at least you know you have someone really supportive to follow it up with you.
Clair, how unlucky to get called for jury service, it’s just the last thing you need with everything else going on .I’ve heard they’re reluctant to let anyone off, so referring it for six months may be a good option, at least hopefully you’d have got the gyne issue out of he way.
Beth, I really feel for you, you have so many issues to deal with at the moment, your mother sounds exasperating and upsetting, but she has her own issues as well, and it is hard for you both to deal with everything. I hope the work situation has settled down a bit now that you’ve handed your notice in.
Afternoon one and all
Hope everyone is doing well 
Well I have spent the morning putting out all my garden ornaments on the bark and tidied up one border so feeling very virtuous today, albeit that I ache from top to toe but in a really good active way. It is pouring down here now so I timed it right although I was hoping to mow the lawn this afternoon, suppose I will just have to sit and do my tapestries instead.
Helena xxx
Hi Helena
Well u have been busy …hubby does our garden …I have a few cherished garden ornaments but am totally banned from having gnomes or anything!
I had a three hour lunch with my friend and hubby …bless him …has painted the bathroom …so one room down …all the rest to go now …ha ha.
Hi all,
Just read back a few posts, I’m sure I’ve missed a lot as it says there are 74 unread posts! Beth, I think you are absolutely right, I reckon your Mum is finding excuses not to see you as she feels pain when she does see you (from thinking time might be limited). My Dad when he thought he was dying (he didnt as it happened, sorry, that wasn’t meant to be as lighthearted as it sounded lol) refused to talk and even look at me and my Mum. It was so upsetting and hurtful, but the only way he could cope was by shutting us out. Of course it isn’t a good long term measure, as it ends up causing more pain for everyone.
All fine here, Mammo appointment finally through for a couple of weeks from now. x
When my mother in law died last year we inherited Snow White and the Seven dwarfs stone garden gnomes ,I’m not a big fan of garden ornaments but we couldn’t leave them behind and they are lovely and weathered been there 30 years probably . Snow White was chopped in half at some point so she is placed carefully against a wall …
Hello lovelies,
Helena I’m a bark fan too I did get a bag of purple stones to go under my acer but I didn’t like it so ended up removing it all. It’s been a nice day again here and only just started raining now.
I had a chat with the Dr who said he’ll totally support me if the jury people need anything from him and he gave me some guidance in what to say. I also had my review at work today and my boss said he wants me to continue with just my 4 days for the foreseeable future so I don’t over do things he was really kind and said he thought I was amazing I felt so happy.
Hope your all having a good day
much love and hugs Clair xxx
Woohoo Clair! So glad you have support both of GP and work. It was a long day today, dragged in to aftermath of a bad Friday and sat in the car for a while summoning energy to drive home, although I think it was also panic about any post!
Anyway, there was no post waiting and so I sat outside for a bit listening to the birds and then inspected seedlings, which are doing their job and grounding me! I have a couple of iron hedgehogs in the garden from one of my favourite service users and they always make me smile.
Would you recommend the Z film Dizzy? It’s had mixed reviews.
Charys, thank goodness you finally have a date. Beth how has your day gone today? Xx
Hi Janey
my day has been busy and must say I’m shattered tonight. I could have easily gone to bed when I got home but wanted to see Stargazing Live (hubster’s que for a bath lol) and I’d bound to be awake like a button after a few hours!
Given my mum a wide birth today as I think we all need some distance for a few days - not that she’ll see me anyway, but we do speak on the phone. Been in touch with my auntie and I think she is going to try and speak to mum. All we can all do is try.
I have a visit visit from the hierarchy to look forward to on Thursday but I think it’s just to plan my finishing date and what happens next. Since I’ve said I’m leaving, I’ve not had a shred of doubt so I know I’m doing the right thing. Roll on mid June!!
my pic of the day…
Rubycat
i love all your pics so don’t you worry - they are exactly what I need. The mammogram one is exactly what im dreading later in the year!! I think if they came anywhere near me with one of those machines just now, I would poke someone in the eye or punch them on the nose!! Ouch.
Keep posting those pics!!
xxx
Hiya
Managed to bring a few ornaments from last house …got Winnie the pooh and a couple of old people figures ( from my dad’s garden when he died ) and of course bud the Buddha …I love him …I rub his belly anti clockwise for luck sometimes !!
I’m not a gardener as I don’t know a pansy from a petunia …but What a good buy cyclamen are …ours were planted last September …flowered all winter ( apart from a bit of frost that knocked them a bit and low and behold they are stood up again …loud and proud like little soldiers !! Got bluebelles popping though our front garden lawn but kind of like seeing them .
Morning all
Its dull and wet here today, been raining most of the night I think, although I was that exhausted I zonked as soon as I went to bed. I think it will be a day for housework, yuk.
Here is my completed border with new lights in, at least I have managed to get that and the bottom part of the garden cleared and the soil turned. The pot has a hosta in it which I just leave and it grows, has flowered for the last two years so must like being there.
Hope you all have a good day doing whatever you have planned.
Helena xxx
Helena
Your garden looks lovely and you have really put in some work …lawn looks just right now for a Sun lounger, glass of wine …just need sun which has not arrived in Devon today either …in fact its cold and got heating on again.
Xx
Sorry Fluffs, got a bit behind on you all.
Clair - Yeehaaa, on your smear results. Hope you can managed to riddle out of Jury Service. As you say - flippin awful timing for you. Great for you to have a supportive Dr tho’, and your boss seems to be looking after you and your interests.
Coo LadyH - Am looking at the fruits of your hard labour - looking good. I’m sure I saw that pussycat move !
Janey - Thanks for the explanation. Major serious then, unlike your Occ Health womans attitude - honestly. No wonder you’re so worried. Why does it take sooo bloomin long for your results though Janey?? Do they have to send them overseas (no I was being serious)?
Oooooo, Bethy-Boo - Sorry you’re sooo upset about your Mum. Hope someone or someTHING will be able to reach her. Glad you’re feeling so positive about your work decision tho’.
Carolyn - Haha, like your style woman, having lunch whilst hubby’s hard at it !!
Charys - Hello Mummy. Was just about to email today, to find out your excuse for absentee-ism, and there you are. Are you okay flower?? 74 posts! - wonder who’s responsible for most of those?! Glad you’ve got a date through.
Jill - D’ya think the nasty queen came back and chopped poor Snow White in half.
So what is it with all these recent nasty happenings, Janey a week from the Westminster disaster, and Josie and I close to the gas explosion, literally on the edge of the Port Sunlight estate the night before. Fortunately, it didn’t damage any of that, but what a mess, and what a mystery to its source. I don’t know how the gas board, or anyone else can investigate a pile of rubble and destroyed pipes to either point or accept the finger of blame. Horrible as it was, we didn’t allow it to spoil our day. Had a lovely day and with the weather being so lovely, I’d packed some butties and a flask for us both, so enjoyed the first picnic of the year.
All my various appointments are coming through. Pre-op 19th April to/for boob op now officially booked for 28th, but still need to have that chat with the surgeon with ref to opt for the added tissue matrix or not, as being dependent on the size of incision required.
Post-op eye check 27th. MRI scan for spine this Sunday 2nd, but going to see if I can alter that to a weekday, as there’s a Wirral group walk, which I’m determined to make this time as the forecast for Sunday’s pretty good. S’all go.
Love to all of you-hoos
DoolallyDelly xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hello lovely Willows, just popping in while I’m still under anaesthetic (wine), had a lovely lunch with our friends today. Going through a really bad headache phase And had to dose up with painkillers before I could even think about showering and getting ready this morning.
Janey, I googled Cowdens, it’s a right b***er, seems one thing sfter another for you lovely lady, but at least it sounds like you’ve got good support at last. Beth, so sorry about your mum, but guess it’s out of your hands, nothing you can do but be there for if/when she needs you, you need to concentrate on yourself at the moment. Easier said than done I know, it is your mother and of course you’re going to be worried and upset. Clair, Glad you’re getting the support from work. Charys, as usual you’re in front of me, you get to get your poor boobie squeezed before me (mines 12 May) Im dreading it as it’s so painful without it being put throung a mangle. Still, as Iong as We get a good result we can handle it. Dizzy, Helena, Delly, Moijan, Carolyn, Jill and all you other lovelies, sending hugs xx
The dreaded mammograme …wander how men would feel if they had to have their men bits squeezed between two heavy metal blocks !! All that from us women a few years ago that endured thongs for fashion ( felt like cheese wire between the cheeks) and one piece body suits that were impossible to do up the poppers again ( after a few vinos) in a cubicle toilet !!
Come on ladies …anymore fashion nightmares !!
Anyone remember flying suits? At least, Ithink that’s what they’re called. And you have to more or less strip naked to go to the loo…
My pet hate is swimming costumes that are too short in the body. At the top they’re dragging your boobs down to your waist and at the bottom they’re cutting in like you need to walk on tiptoe.
But some things I remember fondly, remember floral skirts with broderie anglaise petticoats just showing at the hem? And Laura Ashley dresses, also very floral.