Hi @glimmers,
I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through and it really does sound like a rollercoaster of a time. Please know that we are here for you and I hope you find the forum a helpful and informative place.
You mentioned that you were researching DIEP flap surgery and so I thought you might find this forum discussion a helpful source of information and give you a chance to reach out to others who have gone through this: DIEP flap surgery experiences - Going through breast cancer treatment / Surgery - Breast Cancer Now forum
Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need help finding anything here 