Happy haircut Jaffacakes! I’m not anywhere near that stage. In fact, I’m a bit like Alice except for the persistent bald patch on the top of my head that’s filling in very very slowly.
Still not doing too bad re hot flushes but what I am getting is the complete opposite - chills! I don’t know if its related to the Tamoxifen or not but I keep getting shivers every now and then. No other se’s so far so that’s good.
Good luck for tomorrow Kess. I’ll be thinking about you.
Love to you all,
Hazel xx
That’s brilliant Alice! I’ve still not got enough to go without my wig but really looking forward to the day I leave the house with it still on its stand. Well done too on getting back to the gym. I’ve never been in a gym in my life (I’m far, far too lazy!) but I will be considering it when treatment is over. I’ve read that exercise can reduce the risk of recurrence by 25% so I’d be crazy not to do it. I’ve bought trainers already ?
I’ve got my planning scan on Friday for rads but don’t start until 3rd sept. 25 rads and 4 boosters. Going to make the most of the time until then just in case the dreaded tiredness and skin problems happen. Fingers crossed they don’t!
Can’t believe the wedding is nearly here Sue. Hope you and your daughter are excited and have a brilliant day. You deserve it.
Love to you all.
Hazel x
How is everyone? It’s all gone very quiet. I hope that means you are all out enjoying life!
Good luck for the wedding tomorrow Sue.
Hx
Hi everyone.
Good luck for today Sue, have a wonderful day ! Have an amazing day filled with loads of special memories xxx
Im definately starting to feel more myself lately. Still have achy joints mind you. May be the Tamoxifen not sure. Hot flushes seem to be settling down so fingers crossed. Oh yes I read that tonic water is good for joint pain as it has quinine in it. I am currently experimenting with that at the moment .
Well done you Alice, I doubt if I would manage 30 seconds on the rowing machine lol !! I have never been to the gym either Hazel, well -I went once years ago. I used to enjoy jogging and am definately going to start an exercise regime. I am walking everyday and am looking for a fitness DVD I can do at home.
I would really like to have a go at dying my hair. The hair I kept from using the cold cap is bright blonde and the new growth is brown. I still wear my wig even in the hot weather we have been having but when I go on holidays in October I will probably go wigless ( maybe ) Has anyone coloured theirs yet or is it too soon ?
Love to everyone xx
Cx
Thanks for your advice ladies. The link did work Alice. Setting a good exercise regime shall be my goal for next week. As for ditching the wig- I really do wish I was brave enough but not so at the moment Im afriad. I really do admire all the ladies who have.
I was lucky with my finger and toenails Jaffacakes. Mind you nothing would suprise me these days. There always seems to be some reminder of the bad old days lurking around one corner or another. Its still early days for us yet, hopefully in time things can get back to normal.
Enjoy the rest of the weekend. Its a glass of red for me with my feet up. Cheers everyone !!
C xx
Oh Sue I am so so sorry to hear that news. I cant even imagine how you all must be feeling. What a terrible shock. Thinking of you all sending you a very big hug xx
Catherine
Sue, I am so sorry to hear that. Your poor daughter. I can’t begin to imagine what she’s going through. I hope you don’t mind but I’ve called her fiancé lots of bad names in my head. Thinking of you and sending you lots of love. Hxx
Ah no Sue that is bad news devastating for your poor daughter too but she will get over it with time and who knows she may find someone who is meant for her she might look back and think she dodged a bullet . Upsetting for you all tho !!
Hugs xxx
Hi Sue,
How are you and your daughter? Been thinking about you a lot. Hope you have some answers now at least to try and get some understanding. Sending you both lots of love.
Jaffacakes, I have lost 4 fingernails now and another couple looking a bit dodgy. Think it will be a while before they look normal. As for my hair, the bald patch is finally filling in but with tons of white hair! Once it’s long enough it will be getting cut and coloured and I can finally put the wig away. That will be a few weeks away yet and I can’t wait. Eyebrows and eyelashes are starting to make a reappearance too. Starting to recognise myself again when I look in the mirror and that feels really good.
Hope you are all well.
Lots of love, Hazel xx
Kess I am 11 weeks after my last tax (can’t believe how quickly the time has gone!!) and it’s only in the last couple if weeks my eyebrows and eyelashes have started to come back. I still can’t wear mascara and am still pencilling in my brows but both lashes and brows are coming in well. I had a lumpectomy so can’t advise on the bra situation but sending you a hug because I know I would have found a mastectomy very difficult to deal with too.
Alice, I caught two finger nails and they pulled off and the other too kind of worked loose and I had to finally pull them off myself. Don’t worry though because it’s not as bad as it sounds! There was no pain whatsoever and no sensitive or broken skin underneath. There was in fact half a new nail already grown. My fingernails are sort of layered as if they started then stopped growing with each tax so it will take a while for the nails to be completely smooth again. Both big toenails are part way detached and I really don’t want to loose those because it can take over a year for them to regrow fully (or so I’ve read). I’ve been keeping all my nails very, very short to avoid catching.
Hxx
Good morning ladies, hope you are all well and have some exciting plans for the forthcoming Bank Holiday.
I had a meeting in work yesterday and have decided to start phased return Sept 1st. I think the return will do me good as I seem to be spending a lot of time worrying about things. I noticed during the rads my nipple was quite sore and becoming crusty. I dismissed it at the time as I was plastering the cream on but noticed it again this morning and it has started the worry game off again. Has anyone else experienced this ?My breast area is looking very good after the cream the redness has almost disappeared and the last few days I havnt been moisturising as much as I should I suppose.
Also I was wondering does anyone have some advice for Holiday Insurance. I really must arrange this before I see my oncologist again in Sept just incase I need her to write a letter.
Sorry to sound a bit depressed ladies. Love to you all and have a lovely Bank Holiday.
Thinking about you Sue xx
Cx
As your radiotherapy is over you have quite a few options re travel insurance. Insurewith, insurecancer, eurotunnel, free spirit are a few I have heard of.
I am hoping to go to New York only 12 days after radiotherapy and only free spirit will even consider it - with a Fit to Fly letter from my GP.
I agree that when busy our brains have less time to worry. Work might be a good idea.
Happy bank holiday all. Am off to Turkey tomorrow for two weeks - yippee!
Jilly x
Many thanks ladies you are amazing, dont know what I would do without you all !!
Have a wonderful holiday Jilly, bet you cant wait until tomorrow !!!
I hope you’re having a lovely holiday Jaffacakes. I’m sure the rain won’t stop you having a good time. Alice, I haven’t been brave enough to go to the dentist yet but I really need to because I’m pretty sure the chemo (not to mention chocolate and sweets) has caused some cavities. I’m working up to making the appointment.
It’s been all quiet from me because I’m in that strange limbo between treatments. Recovered really well from surgery and waiting on rads starting next week. For the past couple of weeks, I’ve felt more like my old self and I’ve loved it! I’ve been out and about a lot, meeting up with lots of old friends and workmates that I haven’t seen in ages. Today I booked a holiday to Tenerife for three weeks after rads ends and ordered a new car!!! The finance is over 4 years and I thought long and hard about it because of the huge uncertainty over the future. In the end, I decided to hell with it, I’m getting the car!!! Stuff cancer and all the troubles it brings with it ?
Love to you all,
Hazel xx
Yay !! thats the spirit Hazel. Sounds like you have good times ahead !!
Im making the most of my time off and have taken little pumpkin to our caravan before returning to work. Hope you are having fun too Jaffacakes, Its been mild here today in West Wales, and luckily we have managed to escape the showers , not that Im a heat lover at the moment with these hot flushes !!!
Good luck at the Dentist Alice. I had my scale and polish 2 weeks ago. Not nice at the time but well worth it xxxx
Here’s to happy times ahead for us all xx
Glad you’re recovering well from your op Kess. I didn’t work during chemo so I’ve kind of gotten used to being off work but I do get bored too. Nearly at the end now though and looking forward to getting back to work and getting some routine back.
Hope you’re having a lovely time at the caravan Bigpumpkin.
Hxx
Sue, you are not a burden and please, please come here and offload anytime. That’s what we are here for. Cancer aside, you’ve been through the mill over the last year or so and it’s no wonder you feel down. I’m sending you a big hug.
That was really lovely of your daughter’s workmates to do that for her. If you feel up to it and your daughter would like to take you, I would go with her. How would the spa people know you’d had cancer??!! The Equality Act 2010 covers people with cancer in that you cannot be discriminated against if you have had or are undergoing treatment. Having cancer automatically considers you to be disabled even if the cancer is long gone. Both the spa company and your employer need to tread very carefully because of the protection the Equality Act gives you. It’s hard enough fighting cancer without people trying to bring you down. I’d be emailing HR to remind them of the protection the Act gives you.
Big hugs,
Hazel xx
Hey up me ducks
Not been on for a while and not had chance to read anything yet, hope everyone is ok!!!
Im actually more pregnant than I thought, after the stitch im still bleeding a lot but baby is hanging on in there and after scan after scan after scan ive been told that im 21 almost 22 weeks gone, have to stay off my feet as much as possible (how im supposed do that with 4 kids and andy I dont know) to try keep the bleeding to a minimum, looking at my other pregnancies this bun in the oven could be here in the next 12 to 14 weeks ?
Hope everyones ok
Love and hugs
Hayley
Xxx
Oh bloody hell, back in hospital not looking good xxx
Hi ladies. Sorry I haven’t been on here for a while. I have had some tough times and didnt feel coming on here to offload was helpful or fair to anyone. I was too worried to put my fear into words. I was getting day headaches and ft dizzy and sick regularly. To be honest it spoiled my holiday In turkey as I was so worried. To cut a long story short I was sent for a brain scan and it was clear except sinusitis,thank goodness. You may also remember they found a nodule on my thyroid and i was told it needed biopsying back in march. I eventuay got a thyroid appointment after lots of hassle to go and to be told it needed biopsying! I said I thought that’s what I was there for and the registrar I saw said, no we send you an appointment for that! He told me it could be related to the BC (I was told in march it wouldn’t be as it doesn’t go to the thyroid) so it was a pretty upsetting appointment. My family were upset too as all this waiting for results affects everyone so on their advice I contacted PALS. The lady there was brilliant and made sure I got an appointment for the following week. The biopsy was pretty painless but when I rang for results I was told they hadn’t got enough and I need to wait for an appointment for another biopsy! So I ll wait as what else do you do lol. Apart from this starting to feel a bit more like myself except still bloated and unfit and have the aches and pains of a 90 yr old! On a good note - I have eylashes?
Sue my heart went out to you reading your post. I’m so so sorry both you and your daughter have had this to deal with this. Your comment about him seeing like a stranger rang bells. My friend’s husband has been seeing someone else and has left her and the kids. She has been with him since she was 16 so almost 27 yrs. We have had many conversations (her drunk, me sober- usually) over the past few weeks and him seeming like a stranger is the hardest part for her to bear. Someone who was her best friend and ‘part of her’ to suddenly act so hurtfully (and continue to) is devestating and your lovely daughter and you I imagine must be feeling similar. In time she will be happy again, probably more so than she was, but she won’t feel like this right now bless her. Huge hugs, sue. I really hope you are managing to support her and look after yourself too.
Love to you all. Caz xxxx