Stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND) (Part 1)

Life after a breast cancer diagnosis Living with breast cancer
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Stand clear! I’m on the FF bench! :smileymad:  Utterly vile afternoon trying to teach in Y5/6. When did 9, 10 and 11 year olds get soooo revolting? Each child, individually, is fine, many are even lovely, but together they are like a pack of wild animals. Really don’t know how much longer I can put up with this ****.

 

It was 5pm before I left school, for the 3rd day in a row. I’m only paid for 31.5hrs per week. At this rate I’ll be quite justified in taking Friday off! (except for the fact that would mean an overworked teacher wouldn’t be released from class :frowning: )

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I danced like a professional…where are you all? Is the glitterball mine?

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OK. So you win the glitterball (tablet wanted me to type glitterberry - but you can’t have that - I need all the glitterberry juice I can get) but only on condition that you wear it over your head for the chariot race. No eye holes allowed. Mwahaha that’s two of the field nobbled! :smiley:

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JCJ - Sorry, if I was in charge of education - the COUNTRY EVEN, I’d bring back the cane, slipper, ruler, chucked board rubber. Never did “US” any harm - taught us good ol’ Aretha type    R-E-S-P-E-C-T !!

Not enough of it now. AND, we had posters up all over school   “DON’T DROP LITTER” !! I don’t EVER drop litter, an adult who had it DRUMMED into me at school, yet I can walk down the road behind an adult who drops crisp packets, fag packet wrappers blah, blah. I’m always picking up and stuffing in a bin. I’m looking for a job. The council pay £10 per hour for litter pickers - that’s GOOD money !!!. I wouldn’t mind doing it, good exercise and a sense of purpose.

Going back to discipline - our parents, Mum in particular, used to slap our legs if we were (not often) misbehaving.

Ps. SSSSSSSSH - I let JCJ win with the handbags. After her circumlocutions, who wouldn’t. A terribly pathetic sorry sight !!

Dellydoodaa xx 

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Well, well, well who would have expected that outcome???

As soon as the music started who starts dancing??? FF, what a to do…

We might have guessed that FF would not be able to resist, now she can only be commended for her extraordinary skills, how can you spin on your head, tiara attached and the handbag being juggled by your feet??? This woman is amazing and a worthy winner of the glitterball, indeed!!!

JCJ and delly were timid compared to FF’s display, but delly conceding brought a smile to JCJ’s face after the “bad” day…

JCJ, it maybe the chair stuck to your bottom that’s causing the behaviour, just a thought…xx

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Guess what? We’re on photo shoot tomorrow, to support our local MP with his campaign to have a local RT unit at Kendal. Currently cancer patients face up to 200 mile round trip for their rads, so anything that makes life a bit easier is to be commended.

They want a piccie of me with my ‘family’ so Joey has been in the bath (wriggling and whinging) and Meg has been brushed within an inch of her life!

So now all I need to do is Hoover up the dog hairs…

Now on the cream crackered bench with a BIG glitterberry juice.

Grumpy

PS just so happens I’ve got a hair appt booked for tomorrow morning - how lucky is that!!!

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Thank you so much for the glitterball trophy. I would like to thank Mum and Dad for producing me, my first/second/third music teacher, my first/second/third dancing teacher, my hairdresser, my costume designer, my choreographer, my agent for the publicity and my adoring public for the votes.  I will treasure this moment and the glitterball forever.

 

Grumpy - I hope the photo shoot went well.  I hope the campaign is also successful, a 200 mile round trip for rads is really not acceptable is it?  I thought my 50 mile round trip was bad enough but 200?  It beggars belief in this day and age.

 

School is just as bad as ever - every day they seem to be throwing more glitter about, it’s everywhere.  So is food, I’ve got rice and lentils in pre-school, spaghetti and marshmallows in Key stage 2 and a history of mice! So how long will it be until we have mice again?

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Apparently the fact that the children are vile is my fault. Even though it’s mostly one class and their teacher is having a tough time with them too. I am speechless. :smileysad:

Sorry, I can think of absolutely nothing funny to say.

Hopefully, normal service will be resumed shortly. :smileysad:

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JCJ get on to union or advisor PRONTO the school needs sort out this class properly. If their teacher is having problems he/she needs support not condemnation. And you shouldn’t be taking a class on your own unless you are fully qualified teacher.

Photo shoot went well, Joey sat REASONABLY nicely, but Meg took the huff and refused point bank to have anything to do with the proceedings.

On the cream crackered bench BUT new meds working well so that I get a decent nights sleep.

Grumpy

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Oooooo - I’ve screwed up my settings trying to sort out my emails, now all my BCC stuff is coming up as SPAM.

JCJ - take no notice of those “guttersnipers” - FF and Katyc.Despite I may tease, I’m on YOUR side where they’re concerned. NOT YOUR FAULT!  Mmmm, calls for pistols at dawn for the two of 'em, I say !! Better still, I’ll slip a couple of bangers in their knickers!! That should shut them up - d’you think?!

Grumpy - Umph, bout time too for your part of the country

 

S’all I’ve got to say at the mo, Dellywelly xx

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Oh gosh JCJ am on the “FF” bench for you that is absolutely pathetic, don’t stand for it at all, such a cheek!!

Disgusting on whoever’s part that decided to say it was your fault. Have a talk on Mon and if statement is not withdrawn say you will next bring your union rep. So it boils down to you are the TA and you are in control of the class??? Am apalled.

 

grumpy glad your photoshoot went well, obviously the Duchess is “above” all that, good luck with your campaign.

FF, not only glitter but lentils too, hope you have a good hoover!!

delly, delly, delly you are on the “bad behaviour” bench, bangers indeed!!! xx

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Also on the FF bench for you JCJ.  You are a TA…so where is the teacher that you are assisting with his/her class?  You should not be on your own with them.

 

Been Xmas shopping today with Daughter.  Arrived at City 10 am left at 6pm and have bought one present for DIL and a couple of joke presents for Boxing Day.  DIL is now sorted but inspiration sorely lacking.for the other adults in the family…have asked everyone what they would like and have met with the response “Don’t know”.  That is not very helpful, vouchers are perhaps the way to go?!  I’ve got the grandchildren’s presents all done and dusted and it’s not even December yet!  YAY, I’m ahead of the game for once.

 

We both bought Christmas decorations at the Market on the Cathedral Green but they’re for us, not for presents.  Had to be bought though, so lovely and unique,one of a kind.  

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Thanks for your support girls. I can’t say much as it’s a public forum, but I’m an HLTA so covering classes on my own is part of my job. I usually enjoy it, but this year every class seems to have at least 2 “characters”, so there’s no easy afternoon. The 5/6 class is the worst at the moment, but I’ve had my battles with them in the past, and I’ve managed to show 'em who’s boss!

 

After a chat with HT (at her invitation) on Thursday, I thought she was being supportive, but I got a letter yesterday saying she was concerned for my welfare and the safety of the children in my care; reminding me that " we don’t shout at children" (arrrrggghhhh! I was raising my voice to keep the little horrors safe - they were throwing pens!! :smileymad:) lots of patronising advice about high expectations and a positive attitude. She even suggested I might like to observe TAs managing behaviour in another school. No! I just want this particular class to stop winding me up!!!

 

I have spent today making Christmas cakes (I hope they are OK - first attempt in new oven!), knitting a Santa bear for YD (whilst watching the tennis - Go Murrays!) and making cards. All calm creative things that have restored my faith in myself. I will go in to school on Monday with that positive attitude and I will endeavour to control the children in a whisper. When the “situation is reviewed” on 10th Dec, at 10am, I hope to show that all is well. I have said far too much, so please eat this post after reading!!

 

FF, I bought a voucher for ES’s GF that can be used in loads of different well known high Street shops and that online market place that sounds like a huge river. This one is available online and at the Post Office. There are various ones though, so Google (or other search engine) if you’re interested. Or PM me and I’ll send you the link! :slight_smile:

 

 

 

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Delly, FF = ****ing Furious (unless, of course, it is our own dear FF = Foxyferret! :))

 

Use of “Mwahaha” £1 a time! 

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Grumpy - my ref to about time in your area, was with regards to a Radiotherapy unit.

Katyc - have now stocked up on more BANGERRRRRS!!

JCJ - What a load of BUNKUM !! You know my views on kids discipline ref. parents and teachers - bring back the parent SLAP on the legs (discipline starts in the HOME !) and all the afore mentioned methods fo teachers, recap ruler, chucked board rubber, slipper, CANE!  WE needed it, so do any other kids. Even if it was just the “threat” of it - “If you don’t behave, I’ll send you to the headmaster”, it was enough to put the fear in us and “pull us up” !! Mmmmmm - you’re HT ??!!

BTW - I like your “Mwahahaa” statement - ok if I adopt it ? Will you accept “royalties” ?

D’you know what else JCJ! You’ve given me the words to describe something of myself. I’ve just “survived” 20 months of being in a very serious suicidal mode, where every day I literally DREADED waking up and, basically, didn’t want to carry on any more, 'cos I’d been so overloaded with massive losses of family and traumas, not just losing both my boobs.  (see Night Birds if you’re interested in all the details.) I’m sorry to be so serious, but It has been through my use of this wonderful forum in the last 3 months, that I’ve had such a MASSIVE TURN AROUND in the last two months - because of just THAT what YOU SAID  “things that have restored my faith in MYSELF” !! You have eloquently put into words exactly what happened to me. I’d seriously GIVEN UP on myself. Just ONE message from someone needing to change career, thanking me for my suggestions as to loads of options for the current depressed job market and the “world” increase in depression, made something “click” back ON, deep within myself, as to a purpose that I’d lost. I love people, I have a passion for them/US.  I LOVE helping, giving, supporting. It’s all the reasons behind why I went into an Allied Medical profession - wasn’t about making “BIG BUCKS”, it was about fulfilling a giving, loving need for helping my fellow human beings. Some of us ARE born “givers” and others “takers”. It has always given me such JOY to GIVE to people, it actually excites me, floats my boat - whether it’s giving them a present that I knew they had wanted, OR, as yesterday, giving my gloves to a young Roumanian “Big Issue” seller (gawd awful weather, COLD and wet up here). As I put £2.50 into her hand, I felt just how cold she and her hands were and said, “Where are your gloves on a day like today”??! I don’t have any was her reply. So I just gave her mine, and we’re not woolly, we’re talking leather. But I had another pair at home, so it wasn’t any skin off my nose. Now, I’m not saying ANY of this for some kind of recognition, I’m simply just saying that my COMPASSION has been reawakened - all through using this Forum and lovely peeps like yourselves. My RELIGION is :- that we should all be helping and supporting each other in life, but anyone who unnecessarily abuses or upsets me now goets “KICKED OUT” of my life. T-O-U-G-H. No more S**T.   Awwwww Taaaaa. 

 

Will someone Pleeease tell me what the “FF” means, bench wise ?? I’m probably being THICK and as soon as you tell me, it’ll be a hand smacking forehead with “OF COURSE” !  And hurry up about it taaaa cos’ I’ts giving me having sleepless nights - zzzzzzzzzzz.

Hope you’re all having a restful, enjoyable and stress free kidless week-end in order to recharge and gird you up for Monday AGAIN.

 

Love to you all, Dellywellydingdong xxx

 

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Thanks JCJ, I’ll bear that in mind but I’m still hopeful that they will think of something that they want!

 

 After wallpapering Son and DIL’s chimney breast last weekend, I was motivated to do my own.  I have got as far as stripping off the paper that was there but today, in spite of getting out all the necessary equipment this morning, the CBA bench and a good book won.  I WILL do it tomorrow… or Tuesday… or Wednesday…Seriously it will only take about two/three hours, nowhere near as difficult as son’s. No wires in the way…

 

As it is a change of colour scheme I will have to get new cushions etc.  A complete makeover, it will look good when I’ve finished.

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FF - If you come and motivate (kick up the …) ME, I’ll come and kick you in the same place.What d’ya say??

Dellywoos xx

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How very patronising JCJ, grrrrrrrrr roll on your meeting, don’t stand any nonsense as if it’s only one class and teacher also has problems and you manage every other class, perhaps they can explain that…grrrrr.

FF, what colour are you going for?

delly, you are still on the “bad behaviour” bench, but will bring you down a choc and hazelnut pastry soon.

Met up with RevCat today, train journey was bad, trains cancelled here, there and everywhere, finally managed to get there, in the end was about 3/4 hour late, which wasn’t too bad. No trooping around the shopping centre getting lost, this time.

We had SNOW yesterday, really heavy, few hours later rain, then everything froze putting paid to any chariot racing rehearsals…xx

 

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Went into school today with “positive” plastered all over my persona. Fixed the photocopier jam (mmm! I’ll have some on toast?) Did the photocopying that teacher was panicking about as it was time for kids to come in and photocopier was jammed. During which, HT asked me to log the class computer on for the supply teacher so he could do the register. Ran around fetching maths equipment for teacher who’d been delayed fighting photocopier. Helped in THAT class, smiing all the time, of course. Realised that playground duty should have been TA & teacher who were both off sick, so I went out to support the supply teacher. Only he didn’t come out, so I supervised THE WHOLE SCHOOL for 15 minutes ON MY OWN, in the drizzly rain. They were all safe, noone got hurt. Then to top it all, when I had the Y1 class in the afternoon,  I got sent 2 children (separately) from another class as they were misbehaving for the supply teacher (brought in because she’s so good at managing behaviour!!!). One of them behaved fine for me!! Then we had a play rehearsal (1st one: performances are next week! Eek!) and the class I was supervising was the best behaved of the whole school. The 5/6 class that gave me hell were awful, even though their teacher was running the proceedings. All in all, it made me feel sooo much better. I CAN do this job. Stick that in your pipe anyone who thinks otherwise!! :slight_smile: Mwahaha!

 

BTW, Delly You can have the “restored my faith in myself” statement free, gratis and for nothing. Well done for managing to pull yourself out of the black hole! I read the " That’s £1 I owe you" as “That’s £11…” I thought you’d been wearing out my and my daughter’s favourite phrase! :slight_smile:

 

December tomorrow. I’m going to look out those carols again so we can get practising!! "D