School has been surprisingly clean yesterday and today so work not to onorous and some extra jobs done. Today is youngest grandsons birthday so have been over to see him and take him his presents. A milestone as he has now reached double figures. Tea and cake on the menu!
Will be back there for more tea and cake on Monday as eldest grandson has his birthday :smileyhappy:
On the other hand, appointment for mammogram has arrived. After forgetting about it for 10 months all the what if’s are back. Hopefully all will be well. At least they haven’t forgotten me this time!
How lovely you can see both grandchildren on their birthdays, FF. My daughter is 18 next month and I am looking forward to grandchildren, but not too soon
Sorry you’re on the poorlysick bench, katy. Dioralyte and dry toast coming up xxx
Perhaps “coming up” wasn’t the most appropriate phrase (or was it? ?) to use T4T?! ?
Trying very hard to see the funny side of life and stay off the FF bench. However, I may spend some time on the Looking For Another Job bench after this week. ?
So sorry you’re feeling yuck, Katy, hope it is just a 24 hour bug and goes away soon.
How nice to have company on the Looking for Another Job bench JCJ, I’ve been on it for a while now and read the local paper ads. avidly but I keep coming up against the fact that (for this neck of the woods) I am actually quite well paid and it’s not really a difficult job. It certainly has its off days but then there are the good days, perhaps the devil you know…
I am really,really lucky that my family all live close to me T4T, so I can see all six grandchildren on their birthdays and any other days too. We all get together at least once a month.
I’m looking forward to a lazy weekend, will be watching the tennis, go Andy, can he finally win an Aus Open? Probably not, but I’ll hope.
Morning ?
Not visited for a while so thought I would paddle over. Think I will be stopping on the total denial bench. I have been dealing with the practicalities but blocking the thoughts and feelings stuff. Not for much longer chemo starts on Tuesday ?.
Enough said
I have been following you lovely ladies. I have 2 beautiful grandchildren that I rarely see not really due to distance but more to do with" busy" parents. Usually I make a fuss and visit them every 6 weeks or so but right now I don’t seem to have the energy to continually make a fuss!
On the very upside my oldest daughter is expecting her first in July. This one will not escape nanna attention. Busy knitting and in daily discussions with OD re baby requirements. I am holding this event as my light at the end of this very cr** tunnel. Baby is due about the time I should complete my treatments.
Hope you are feeling better Katy.
Well ladies I have enjoyed my visit and wish I could paddle off into the sunset but reality beckons.
Sending you all hugs
Jan x
Lovely to see you back, Jan ?. So sorry you have to have chemo :( I’m only having rads and I’m wearing brown trousers, if you get my meaning. Sending lots of hugs xxx
We lived a long way away from my parents when my kids were little. I often pondered how much they were missing out on not having more time with each other because they had such a special time when they were together. Now, my kids text, call and FaceTime their grandparents and really have a warm and loving relationship with them ?. It’s lovely to know you have all the joy and pleasure of that bond with your OD during her pregnancy and the excitement and anticipation of your new grandchild in the summer to get you through this ordeal xxxx
I’ll be thinking of you on Tuesday Kayak, and you when you start rads, T4T. I didn’t have Chemo, but from my sister’s experience and reading posts on here, it seems the anticipation is the worst part. Yes, there are SEs but you will have a caring team who will do what they can to minimise them. Also, as soon as treatment starts, you’ll be on countdown to the end. I crossed my rads days off on my calendar. Such a feeling of achievement!
Thank you both for making me stop feeling sorry for myself and realise I have much to be thankful for. I had an observed lesson, last week, with the class, I have been having trouble with. It didn’t, apparently, go as well as I thought, mostly due to the kid’s behaviour between the observers leaving the room and coming back for the end of the lesson.
As I had that meeting back in November, and “despite support” (??? only from class teacher. Bugg none at all from elsewhere!!) I have not shown any improvement in my behaviour mamanagemet so I have been given notice of 6 weeks to improve or Capability Proceedings will commence. ?
After a sleepless night (for once nothing to do with Tapoxyfen) I have come to the decision that I will find out if there is a job for me at the school if I resign my HLTA role of whole class teaching. I will miss the good classes/lessons, (tho’ they are getting increasingly fewer and further between - so perhaps it *is* my fault - losing my grip in my old age??!) and I’ll have to take a substabtial cut in hours/salary, but life’s too short to put up with this much stress. Whether they’ll let me stay will determine whether or not they value everything else I do for the school. Otherwise: office job here I come - and the possibility of holidaying in term time!! Every cloud…??
I am in a position to compare a number of schools, JCJ, and while pupil behaviour has declined across the board in the past decade, it is most noticeable in schools with weak leadership and management. Where staff are not supported effectively in disciplinary (or other) matters the kids quickly exploit the vacuum. I see the same kids outside of school and have some interesting conversations when they’re on my home ground. They tell me it’s not about the teacher. They play up because they know there are ultimately no consequences.
I hope you find peace about whatever decision you make. Life is precious, as we all know too well and if you would be happier working elsewhere… Hugs xxx
Saw ENT consultant today. Results from head MRI scan are completely normal (!!??!!) He thinks it’s restricted blood supply to my ears, so I’ve got to try brainstorm - no , betahistine - for 2 months to see if it helps. Will go to GP for a chat and give it a try.
I’ll be rattling soon…
Grumpy
PS rads is easy peasy, just tiring especially if you to travel a long way. My rads was 80, yes 80, miles from home so that was the hard bit.
JCJ - I didn’t realise that your problems at school were quite so bad. I hope that you manage to resolve them to your satisfaction and considering all the other things you do that are not actually teaching, they should be jumping at the chance to keep you. No, you don’t need the stress and other jobs are available.
Good luck on Tuesday Kayak, hope the SE’s are few. Didn’t have to have chemo myself so can’t really comment about it.
T4T - rads I did have and, as Grumpy said, easy peasy. Just tiring and the worst of that is when you have finished them! Get yourself some aloe vera gel 99% and slather it all over.
So very glad that your MRI was normal Grumpy, even though it does not give you a definite answer to what is wrong. Hope the new treatment works.
Katy - hope you are feeling better???
Still watching blue tennis…Serena lost…still don’t believe it. Will Andy win? I hope so…but I don’t think so…
FF, we don’t have Eurosport so have to rely on BBC highlights, which we recorded. I said to OH “shall we watch it? I don’t suppose there were many highlights” I thought Serena would just win easily, yet again. So we watched the Murray match highlights from yesterday and only started to watch today’s because the men’s doubles was on it. WOW! What a match! GO KERBER!!
JCJ I hope you have got your union o n board cos it sounds to me that this is being mishandled. AND WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN, you need a record of everything that happens, or doesn’t happen in the case of support. Tat is absolutely right, it’s poor management in following through with the kids that sanctions poor behaviour.
I thought Serena would win too and although I recorded it, I just couldn’t watch her lose it, so I deleted it but YAY to Kerber. Well done to her. I will be recording Andy tomorrow, if he wins I’ll watch it, if he loses I’ll delete it. I just can’t watch him live. Seems that I need to know the result before I can watch any match if I *care* about the players.
Thank you for all your kind words girls, very nasty bug but seems trivial compared to what’s happening to you all.
Jan fingers crossed for your chemo journey, all the very best to you, lovely and exciting news about the new baby, something very much to look forward to.
tat, good luck with your rads, agree with the girls, it’s fine really!!!
grumpy, great news about scan results let’s hope tabs make a huge difference.
FF, enjoy your quiet time…any birthday cake leftovers?? Both my grandchildren’s birthdays are Feb, 3 days apart, not good planning by my ED haha!!!
Aaaah JCJ, if no plan of action was set in place for any sort of management or aid for yourself, how can this **** go ahead, would do as grumpy says and get the Union involved might give them a scare, sitting on the “FF” bench for you, absolutely ridiculous. Don’t let them get away with it…
On a brighter note MMU4 have found the most perfect gift, laughed out loud when I saw it (that was an ordeal cause my ribs hurt a lot) soooooooo apt:smileywink: xx
Thanks, girls. Unfortunately, I don’t belong to a union because TAs are represented by the massive unions that know b. all about education, or by teaching unions, where there is a definite conflict of interest. I always thought I could rely on my own professional conduct and the support of colleagues - pah! Besides, several people (at least 3 teachers and a caretaker!) have brought union reps in recently, so the scare element clearly doesn’t work - (or the prevention of dismissal??)
Today, with YD’s help, via email, much to her delight, I have updated my CV (written in 2008 but not needed as school applications specify no CVs!) and posted it on Monster - we’ll see if anyone suggests anything interesting. In the meantime, I will plaster on that positive persona and battle on. OH is wingeing on about me losing school holidays if I move out of education, but I’m quite excited by the prospect of being able to holiday in term time, and better my sanity than 6 weeks summer holiday??
Talking of sanity, Grumpy, are you confident in your consultant’s credentials? He took a thorough scan of your brain and declared you ‘normal’?? How did you get in to Benchland then? :smileytongue:
Yes, with great sadness I had to delete the blue tennis. Can anyone beat Djokovic? Is he human or a robot?
Hope your CV brings positive results JCJ. Maybe a change is just what you need and holidays in term time are so much cheaper!
I did put the birthday cake leftovers in the Lost Plottery Shed but forgot to tell you. I hope you found them, there will be more tomorrow as eldest grandson becomes 12 years old. Where did that 12 years go?
Have thoroughly enjoyed doing nothing this weekend, just catching up with recorded tv programmes. Back to real life tomorrow with batteries recharged and hopefully raring to go??? Two weeks to half term and some time off!!
Hope you are doing fine today JCJ, you keep your chin up, big time.
Fab your daughter has helped with CV, who knows a career change may be much more rewarding for you, fingers crossed. It’s sad that this is the way of the workplace nowadays…
FF, have a Happy Granchild’s Birthday, what kind of cake are we having??
Feeling a LITTLE better, gosh it’s horrid, this is the 5th day, geez!
Gale force winds and torrential rain here, heating on full blast, brrrrrrrrrrrrrr xx
Hope it’s been a bearable day, JCJ. If you do go down the career change route, can we make suggestions? Obviously, we all think you should be earning squillions writing marketing jingles to the tune of Christmas carols… But, you also have great talent and taste for event management, methinks You could actually start Norecambe Nuptials!!
Glad you’re on the mend, katyc, even if it’s slow progress. Cake is kind to the stomach It’s incredibly gusty here too. On the home stretch with my dog today there were times I couldn’t move forward against the wind!
