Aaaaah so sorry JCJ, but the decision has come from OH and that is really good. It is major when you have always been a driver and it is sad. Because he won’t have expense of running a car use the money for taxis, well worth it and may not be as expensive as you think. He will then be able to keep his social side which is equally important to him as your sanity is to you. You both need your own space so taxis are the order of the day. No more tears and it will now be less of a worry than when he was driving.
Glad your car was not too expensive and even though you had to faff around, cafe visits are fun, haha.
Had a large pile of to do letters on my table, all cleared apart from 1 and that will be done tomorrow, woo hoo!!
ED had an accident with her car, lady drove straight into her when daughter was stopped at a junction, her car is drivable but has a nasty crack on bumper, insurance companies involved well, lady’s as she was at fault, the main thing was no one was hurt, all just had a fright whew.
Still lots of visitors arriving here, normality is nowhere soon…
I can make dinner for you this week JCJ, a warning though it will never be as good as yours…xx
I agree that it was good that it was OH’s decision and it wasn’t forced upon him. A friend of mine when faced with the same problem sold his car, put the money into a taxi account, added to it weekly with the petrol money he would have used then added yearly amounts for the tax, insurance and MOT. Six years later he’s still going where he needs to,:smileyhappy: And I’m so glad OH’s not in a strop or taking it out on you. It must have been very difficult for him to face up to.
Glad your car went through with just minor things.
Katy - so looking forward to trying your cooking, what are we having? (No shellfish, please).
Thank goodness your ED wasn’t hurt, just her poor car. It’s always the car behinds fault when you are stationary, it happened to me many years ago.
Family over today. Son fixed up my new remote control for the tv, (I leave technical stuff up to him). SIL measured up the conservatory for snow precautions… Last Spring when we had those snow storms I was seriusly worried that my conservatory roof was going to cave in, as I could see the support beams bowing under the weight of the snow. Taking measures now to ensure support of roof and peace of mind if it happens again.
Firework display tonight about 150 yds from my house. Wondered about Pudie, I’d switched on the calming diffuser about an hour previously. When they started she was not particularly bothered, just ears pricking and flattening. I turned up the tv and did my best to distract her and the 20 min display passed with no dramas, and it was loud!!
Spoke to exec HT today. The deed is done: I’m mornings - and some lunchtimes - only, from January. She was very sympathetic and supportive, even gave me a hug! She says they will do whatever is necessary to keep me, but that I must do what’s best for me, taking whatever time I need for appointments etc. (I’m sure it helped that my performance management (ugh! Hate that phrase) meeting went extremely well!! Smashed it!!
OH is very happy about it. I’m still getting used to the idea, but at least it means I can carry on working, and I’m sure I’ll find plenty to fill my afternoons - probably mostly the good old CBA bench??!
Hub cap collected. OH’s car booked in for MOT next Friday when I can take it in after school and wait for it. Actually, it’s not his car any more it’s mine! My second car. Mwahahaha!
Glad your daughter not hurt in her car prang. I always dread someone rear ending me when I’m stopped at a junction.
Good to hear Purdie wasn’t too spooked by fireworks. I’ve said many a time that I’m glad we’ve not got pets because there’s been “wheeeeeeing” and banging every night for weeks now. So sick of it.
I hope you get your snow defenses in place before they are needed, FF - actually, putting them in will probably guarantee no snow at all this year?
Oh dear am on the bad behaviour bench because I ordered a takeaway for Sunday Dinner, I just can’t pretend any longer it was me who cooked that wonderful spread…
Glad you are feeling happier JCJ, morning hours are so much better, you have free afternoons, woo hoo!! Am also pleased your report was excellent!!
FF, are you feeling any better? When are your results?
Am on the “struggling but putting on a brave face” bench, started clearing Mums, have lots of meetings to arrange (Mum) and lots of loose ends to tie up. I literally feel I have no time to do anything at all but am trying. ED was at consultants today and had to have a scan, some issues had arisen, she texted to tell me and said she would be back in time to take me to my appt with consultant, I felt panic surging:smileyfrustrated:, took lots of deep breaths…baby is fine whew! xx
The Sunday takeaway was delicious, thank you KTC! I’m not sure what the brown squidgy stuff was but it tasted fine! We had Indian takeaway - for the first time in years - on Saturday too. I had mango chicken. Yum!!
Made the usual Sunday roast - very little ever gets in the way of that! Chicken this week with the usual and broccoli, cauliflower garlic buttered courgettes and gravy followed by homemade blackcurrant and apple pie and ice cream. Leftovers in the shed.
You scared me about ED’s “issues”, Katy, hope everything is ok. Don’t make yourself I’ll chasing around for your mum. I hope things settle down soon and you can have a rest. Hugs. x
Oh my I don’t know what it was either:smileyvery-happy:!!!
Am getting there slowly but surely, clearance people cancelled at last moment yesterday, new date arranged. Stayed at Mum’s sorting out stuff most of the day so an achievement has been made. So much stuff…
Solicitor sorted for next week and another appt made.
Flu jab tomorrow.
Baby GS is just over a month now, honestly where did that time go?? His jaundice is fine, saw consultant this week and all good.
ED fine too.
Am popping into town later, am really hoping I can stroll today and not RUN!!
I’m sitting very still (on the CBA bench), Katy, so the weather gods can’t possibly misconstrue any movements as a rain dance!
Glad you are starting to get things sorted. One step at a time. A month already?! Your YD will be fully into new mum routines before he should even have been born?!
Hope your back is easing, FF, and that the bloods/x-rays have not caused any concern. Still got everything crossed.
It’s been a week of juggling work and taxi-ing OH about: Physio appointment Tuesday afternoon, detour on way home on several days to collect him from wherever he was. Next week will be much the same: He’s got a dentist appointment on Monday morning and an orthoptics appointment on Thursday pm apart from any social/leisure things he wants to do. School are being very supportive at the moment and just rearranging adults in school to cover me where necessary. I’m hoping he can arrange all future appointments to be in the afternoons because that causes less problems at work - and in 6 weeks time I’ll be free then anyway! I took him to his swimming last night. An hour’s driving in dark, wet windy weather and I only got an hour’s peace at home before he returned in a taxi! Not sure it was worth the effort! Or the cost of the taxi. 9pm on a Friday is definitely PJs and cuppa time not a time to be driving 25 miles! If it was summer, I’d take my knitting and Kindle and sit in the car to wait for him while he swims and meets up with friends, but it’s cold and dark at that time now.
I did manage to finish the first hoodie last night though. Here is one of the bears modelling it.
mmmmmm a taxi for 25 miles??that would have been expensive, would he feel comfortable on a bus? Bit daunting if you are a bit wobbly though.
Things are looking up, clearance people should be at Mum’s next week, they will take everything apart from the carpets, so will just have to figure out how to get rid of them now. Was along yesterday and have emptied everything apart from bathroom, it will not be a big job. Have paperwork and millions of photos strewn across the living room, am going along tomorrow to sort those all out. Really feel as though I am making good progress now.
Am about to pop out for storage boxes so when I bring photos etc here I have somewhere to put them!
Glad things are getting sorted, Katy. Do you have Freecycle up in your neck of the woods? Online community where you give stuff away to save it going to landfill. You post the offer, people reply, you chose someone and they have to come and collect. Somebody would be interested in free carpets? Or can you do a deal with the landlord. Might he want them left?
Dinner is roast Welsh lamb, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, smashed roots, crispy kale, cabbage, gravy and mint sauce followed by lemon tart (bought) and raspberries.
I took OH to a nearby Country Park (one we used to walk to from home!) so that I could go for a walk and he could sit in the car, listen to his CDs and at least be away from the house for a bit. The autumn trees were beautiful, but, by the time I got back to the car the windows were so steamed up he couldn’t see out! It took me 5 minutes to clear them before we could drive home.
Another crazy week ahead juggling work and taxi-ing. Roll on Christmas. 6 more weeks.
Ha ha JCJ, a steamed up car??? What are you like???
Aaaah that’s not so bad the taxi…
Thank you as always for lovely dinner:smileyhappy:
3 smallish piles now left at Mum’s to sort through hurrah, have a charity coming to collect everything JCJ, makes life so much easier and do think it’s lovely that Mum’s things will be useful to others.
Lots going on again this week, said to YD think I’m going to have a meltdown/breakdown at the end of all of this haha.
ED came along today to show us some baby clothes she had just purchased, nearly all PINK haha xx
Katy - glad that your flat sortimg has got down to three smallish piles. Hope Mum thrives in her new home.
Loving the hoodie modelled by Bear JCJ. Steamed up windows? Well… Thanks for dinner, very yummy.
Went back to work last Weds. well that was a mistake, practically crawled out of school on hands and knees again, trouble is back is fine while I’m just at home pottering about. So I think I’m allright. Managed to work Thurs and Fri by taking painkillers at the right time and also because KS2 Teacher cleaned her own class tables and put the chairs up for me. Today I couldn’t hack it, I did the basics and left early. I have a Drs. appt on Weds to discuss the results of the Xray and the blood test. So we will see.
Hellooo Ali! Good to see your name pop up! Good grief! That sounds alarming - mysterious bruising! I hope they find the cause during their rootling around tomorrow. I’ll be thinking of you with everything crossed. Glad your MIL is feeling better - I hope she continues to improve.
HMI in school today and tomorrow. Seemed to go OK today. Who knows? We were all wearing odd socks for “celebrate difference” in Anti-Bullying week. Thank goodness for Christmas socks because all the rest of mine are black with coloured toes/heels so they all look the same with shoes on!
Grrrr about your back still giving you gyp, FF. Time to look for a less physical job? Hugs.
So, Drs. appt today, blood test shows I’m deficient in folic acid so tablets for that. X-rays were compared to the CT scan I had two years ago and there is evidence of degeneration in bone and loss of cartilage between the bones.
Dr. had me up on the examination table and moved my legs around until I said ouch!. Didn’t take long!:smileysad: Now she wants more x-rays of my hips. Signed off for two weeks and referred for physio.
Ali. I hope all goes well for you and that stepmum continues to inprove.
Ooh er! Degeneration of bones! Sounds hideous, but I suppose, at our age that happens to all of us to some degree? I know my scans (when they were investigating the gall stones symptoms) flagged up bone degeneration. Freaked me out a bit at the time! I hope they can sort you out so you’re not in so much pain.
Yey! For getting through the house clearance and other tasks, Katy! Soon be able to settle back on that CBA bench?
Had to take afternoon off school, again, today, to take OH to his orthotics appointment. He now has a leg brace to try to stop his leg bending backwards when he walks, causing pain in his foot and knee. He had high hopes for it making walking easier but he’s very disappointed that it doesn’t seem to help much On the way home, we stopped off at a big garden centre to have lunch and look at some mobility scooters. I’m trying to persuade him to get one as it will give him back some independence, but he just can’t accept that he’s that much of an invalid. I’ll have to back off and let him come to that milestone by himself, in his own time.
Friday tomorrow! Yey! Pajamas for Pudsey day at school. I’ve got to go in OH’s car so I can take it for its MOT straight after. Meeting a friend for a cuppa and catch up while the car’s being seen to. Think I’ll take some proper clothes with me - not sure I’m brave enough to brazen it out in my PJs at the garage - or in the pub where I’m meeting my friend!
Got to take OH swimming again tomorrow. I’ll probably take my tablet and/or kindle and a flask of tea and sit in the car playing silly games while he swims - save a big taxi fare. I’ve decided I’m not going to change my swimming night. I like Ladies night at the nearer pool. There’s ladies there that I’ve been seeing every week for years. Also, it’s ME time, away from work or OH, and that’s important. Swam another mile tonight. Now 36% of the way around Jersey. Talking to someone who lives near us - mother of ES’ best friend when he was at school - in the changing rooms, and she said she was impressed with my fitness!! Nobody has EVER said that to ME before!!
Ouchy ouch FF, no wonder you are pained:smileysad:, what happens next more painkillers or an op?? ouch.
Hope you managed everything JCJ and enjoyed your coffee with friend.
Is it a plastic brace?? Mum has one and they look soooooooo uncomfortable. It is hard to go down that route, you have to process it, when you make the decision, you have freedom…which is sooooooooo worth it.
Clearance DONE, took almost 5 hours…had everything in boxes apart from furniture…a very long day. One carpet to get rid off now and that’s it, woo hoo!!
Have been neglecting my own home so had a “superclean” today, feels like home again. Clutter drives me crazy, YD is out so went mad in there, she will be annoyed but order was needed haha!
GS has colic, have no experience of that whatsoever so we are trying out lots of different things to try and ease the discomfort, evenings are wild here at the moment.
Have also managed to order X food, woo hoo! Another tick on that never ending list…xx
Reciprocating the hugs, Ali, gently. Glad you’re not too ouchy. I hope your follow up appointment comes quickly - (but not so quickly it causes alarm?!) and they can sort out whatever the problem is.
FF, I hope your physio is not too ouchy and they can help you get comfortable again.
Baby colic! Oh how I remember that! Pacing the landing with a screaming baby (ES) for HOURS (days?) Also remember trying to get the lid off the gripe water (probably banned nowadays as it contained alcohol!) and dispense it via a teaspoon whilst simultaneously juggling a writhing baby! Such fun. I see the children’s medicines come with neat little dosing syringes now. So much easier. Far less medicine up the walls when the baby/toddler/child knocks the spoon out of your hand!
Dinner tonight is steak braised with mushrooms and onions, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, sprouts, carrots, broccoli and garlic buttered courgettes, followed by gooey chocolate pudding and chocolate sauce. Help yourselves. You’re welcome.
The braising steak was because we shopped at C*-*p instead of S********'s last week because I had twighlight training, so was already later leaving school, and OH decided to need picking up from the town in the opposite direction from S’s. The traffic was hideous and I just couldn’t BA to drive back, so we ate and shopped at C*-*p. Stressful trying to find everything. No joints of meat smaller than that required to feed 10. Tried to get some at the local farm shop yesterday: same problem, but they did have locally reared braising steak and one home reared lamb shank (OH can have that next week - I’ll have to have a chicken portion or something; lamb shanks usually cause me stomach problems! :()
Yet another trip to the hospital tomorrow and yet another afternoon off work. OH got a physio appointment. I’ve told him, if he’s got to go again, to get the appointment as late as possible. School are being brilliant but I really don’t want to take the p!
Had a terrible sore throat on Friday night but Strep***s Max strength sorted it out. Just a snivelly nose now. Let’s hope it doesn’t convert to my usual hacking cough!
Big hugs flying your way ali, fingers and toes crossed all goes well for your appt.
FF, when does your physio start??
Thank you JCJ for dinner, yum yum, tummy is soooooooo full:smileyhappy:, hope sore throat calms down, there is always something…
It’s not changed much from your days ali, infa*** is what YD is using and baby massage, think it is awful, he is not screaming for hours on end, thank goodness, touching wood etc, but is obviously pained and discomfort is obvious:smileyfrustrated:
Carpet is gone, woo hoo, 3 carrier bags to come back to mine and it’s done, now 50 ton of paperwork to do. No POA yet so have to take stuff up to Mum for her to sign, hopefully will come through soon. xx
Hope all goes well for you tomorrow ali, fingers and toes crossed xx
Wet and wild weather here, brrrrrrrrrrr!!
On last legs of Mum’s now, quick tidy and some hoovering to do, read electric and gas meters, then hand keys in either Fri or Mon, will be glad when things are finally done, one less thing to worry about…
Was up to see Mum today, she was looking a little tired but chatted away fine. Learned yesterday that the delirium was/is not the cause of Mum’s balance issues, it is chronic arthritis in her hip and spine, so chronic she is unable to successfully stand upright. Felt really sad when I was told this, would have been better coming from the consultant…not that it makes a difference as she would be unable to have any ops anyway:smileysad:
Today is baby’s actual due date, was weighed yesterday and is now 6lb 10oz and doing fine xx
She says they will do whatever is necessary to keep me, but that I must do what’s best for me, taking whatever time I need for appointments etc. (I’m sure it helped that my performance management (ugh! Hate that phrase) meeting went extremely well!! Smashed it!! 
On the way home, we stopped off at a big garden centre to have lunch and look at some mobility scooters. I’m trying to persuade him to get one as it will give him back some independence, but he just can’t accept that he’s that much of an invalid. I’ll have to back off and let him come to that milestone by himself, in his own time.