Context and and the person saying something has alot to do with how ‘acceptable’ it is.
My family has a very irreverent sense of humour with a definite black streak and they get away with saying things that I would be horrified at by anyone else - and it’s usually led my me! There are also very few people who are treated to my rather good impression of a baby orangutan - only works with no lashes, brows or make-up and with what’s left of my hair standing on end!
Dx 
There are some things that we, or our close family, can say that we’d go bananas at if someone else said it.
I’m boiling about yet another person putting that FB status up, so she’s had “the treatment”.
“Not you too!
This is a crock, XXX. It’s over-simplistic and insultingly patronising. Things don’t just stop in your life when you get a cancer diagnosis, there’s still all the rest of your life to be dealt with. A person with cancer STILL wants thing like… good exam results for their kids, enough money to pay the gas bill this month, a decent night’s sleep, to lose the weight that chemo kindly helped you put on, to grow a bit of hair so you don’t look like a 70-yr-old man, a nice dinner out (that doesn’t taste like cardboard), a new phone (mine’s turning up tomorrow). So please DON’T repost this, someone with cancer won’t thank you for it.”
And yes, I have bought myself a new phone!
I agree- the “fighting the battle” “losing the battle” thing gets right up my nose. Even when I’ve read it somewhere makes me want to shout at the writer. As lots of people have said on various threads “if you haven’t had it you don’t get it” Grrrr !!
Well said, CM! In fact I used it as a template for a status update. So sick of ‘friends’ posting about cancer but not bothering to get in touch personally:
Things don’t just stop in your life when you get a cancer diagnosis. A person with cancer STILL wants thing like… good exam results for their kids, enough money to pay the bills this month, a decent night’s sleep, to grow a bit of hair, a nice dinner out and the appetite to enjoy it, a good laugh with family and friends. So please DON’T repost this, send someone with cancer a personal message of support instead.
Good on you, Lilac! I did post something similar a couple of days ago in response to a friend who finds it completely impossible to understand why I felt patronised by her post.
I phoned my doctors yesterday for a repeat prescription of and she asked how I was doing - just recently had lymph node removed and lumpectomy. I said I was doing ok but dreading the chemo and losing my hair - she said “oh its a small price to pay”. AAAArrrggghhh
Lilac, I love the status update! Not sure if I dare post it tho! I guess I still get too worried about what people will think and say. Having said that, one click of a button and you can"unfriend" them. If only it was that easy in real life!
Jenben, if you haven’t seen the original post popping up, perhaps you wouldn’t have any cause to post it, but seeing all the trite and patronising posts that seem to have been doing the rounds among various groups of “friends” on FB, I got really cross when I saw it for the third time in as many days.
Well done CM and Lilac! I did a similar thing too. Those posts turn me into pitbull mode!
Rachelx
I nearly decked someone tonight.
Q: I hear that you’re staying in bed late in the morning these days, your OH said that when he rang you at 10.00 the other morning that you’d only just got up. What a good little number! I wish I could stay in bed like that.
Me: I’d rather still be getting up at 6.30 and going to work every day than having an extremely serious disease and chemotherapy.
Q: how are you anyway?
Me: very up and down, how are you?
Q: oh, much worse off then you are just now. I tore a muscle; I may have to have ultrasound.
At this point I turned away before I decked him.
What a complete and utter barsteward.
There will always be muppets!
Actually, in that situation, how about ‘Great - want to swap?’
Dx
Tell me who and where and I’ll come and deck him for you!
It’s almost unbelievable that somebody could come out with a comment like that!!
Ragamuffin: "Tell me who and where and I’ll come and deck him for you! "
Can you rouse a posse? ;o)
DJ: I was speechless; Totally gobsmacked.
I tell you what really peed me off the other day. I will cut and paste for you.
"Let’s play a game Ok ladies it’s that time of year again, it’s breast cancer awareness month!! So we all remember last years game of writing your bra color as your status?!.. Well this year, it’s slightly different. You need to write your shoe size,( just the number) followed by the word ‘inches’ and then sad face :-(
Remember last year so many people took part it made national news and, the constant updating of status reminded everyone why we’re doing this and helped raise awareness!! Do NOT tell any males what the status’s mean, keep them guessing!! And please copy and paste (in a message )this to all your female friends to see if we can make a bigger fuss this year than last year!!! Go on ladies…
This is just an excuse for people to make stupid inuendos and snigger like kids in the playground!! And correct me if I am wrong, but breast cancer awareness month is in OCTOBER, not July! I told her not to send me this kind of rubbish again!
gggrrrrrr, sorry if I offend anyone who thinks this is ok, but I personally find it in bad taste to be sent this crap when I have recently been diagnosed with bc!
Rant over!!
Posse gathering in progress!
I can even supply horses!
Here is something totally unrelated to BC just to take your mind off it all.
rethinkingschools.org/just_fun/games/mapgame.html
Hope the link works.
SGL:
I wish I was brave enough to post “I like to support breast cancer awareness by donating money to cancer research and actually saying the words ‘breast cancer’ instead of my shoe size"
Actually, maybe I am…
Sounds like a good plan Ninja! If you do I will comment underneath it.
xx
Why are we all awake at this hour?