I’m not usre if this qualifies as either well meaning or annoying but it did actually make me chuckle.
A colleague of mine who works at our HQ dropped in to my office on Friday and she didn’t know, but she told me that people at HQ had heard that someone in my office had converted to Islam and that because I was wearing a headscarf they thought it was me - i’ve never been called a religious convert before and it brought a smile to my face!
Oh BBB and TLB
Those were corkers.
Thanks for the laugh
June
I belong to the lovely shaped head club as well and I can carry off the no eyebrow look!! Well thanks I would rather have some as I am rubbish at drawing them on .
With regard to washing the head I have used baby shampoo and theN Aloe Vera cream and the hair is growing , I am on FEC 5.
Keep smiling girls but if anyone tells you that they admire you cos you are so positive you are allowed to thump them it is the BC law!!
TLB: so the head-shave was not part of the induction/conversion ritual then? How dare you dress in a politically acceptable and [professionally speaking] *utterly*unremarkable* way, you’re ill don’tcha know? 
Gypsylady, i liking the blue wig :)) (tell me it is a wig, please?)
June I love the wig as well.
I used a purple one for my first and last Tax. The Scots used to paint their bodies going into battle. It was chosen by the grandchildren. The thing I find so annoying is the people that tell me how much my wig has taken years off me…and I must keep my hair like that when it grows back…I wish. That means for 63 years my hair has looked c…p!!! Thanking them. Oops I don’t mean the purple one… the Trendco special.
Cackles
Bless him but it’s my lovely OH who keeps on saying stupid things to me. I’ve had 3 months of for surgery and RADS and go back to work next Monday.
He has been ‘unable’ to take any time off to help with transport and only just made it to my results appt after his work was incredulous he was not there I think. Went to biopsy and treatment planning without him so he clearly struggles with all that but…
I got fed up two weeks post RADS, he was going to work in London for week so I booked a sunshine hol for me, mum and my 4 year old and we had a week away.
Comments from OH ‘I could do with a break’
After me saying ‘well i am off for a reason and i was looking after a 4 year old all week, not having a total jolly’ he then said ‘I would swap you!!!’ grrr.
So I countered with ‘would you swap everything?’ then get told I’m striking a ‘low blow’ etc. He has said similar things three or four times and it forces me to be brutal with him.
I am now reminding him that ‘yes I am going back to work’ but ‘no I am not ‘better’ yet and will have many days where I am tired and have no energy.’
Promise he’s not a heel guys, but I am ready to scream at him!
Carolyn x
YES The blue hair is a wig.
I went shopping in the Metro Centre with my daughter, before all the treatment, and we found this one on one of the barrows.
Once I’d seen the picture they took of me, I commented that I was going back to buy the wig.
Then the post arrived with another blue wig from said daughter and her friend.
I do have a regular blond wig, but it rubs against coat collars so only has outings where I NEED to look ‘normal’.
I cannot be ar3d other times. The b00b gets the same treatment. As long as I am comfortable I don’t care what anyone thinks.
June
When I was about 7years into my breast cancer my sister in law came to visit after many years of living far away. She is a feminist and a psycotherapist, and that background tends to incline her to believe that …
Well, what she said was (words to the effect that):
" Do you think that the breast cancer was your body’s response to all those years you spent abusing your breasts by working as a topless dancer and pub stripper?"
I was so gobsmacked by this ‘helpful and supportive’ suggestion that all I could say was “Well, I don’t think so.”
lynnferg, burst out laughing when I read your post, love your reply, still laughing as I’m writing this xx
PS Should have said “I seriously think it was the yellow wellies!”
Lynnferg
Oh that did make me laugh.
Carole
My jaw will be dropped for the rest of the morning, Lynnferg!
That is one sister who should hand in her resignation as a serious feminist from where I’m sitting (with jaw still dropped)
i second lavender lassie. that is the most outrageous and unfeminist thing i’ve heard.
judes (otherwise known as strident feminist)
Friend came to chemo with me today, very kind of her etc etc, and she asked me how I’d been feeling. I replied not too awful, but just so incredibly tired, today was my 4th tax and I have extensive bone and liver mets. Her reply: “Oh, I’m really exhausted at the moment too, don’t you think it’s just the weather?” Um no, actually I really don’t think it is my case - had to bite my tongue so hard I think I’ve made my mouth ulcers worse 
I had a new BCN today just to check me during rads.
Every single sentence I said, she repeated back to me.
Every single sentence you said, I repeat back to you.
It got more annoying as the time went on.
Yes, I will get more annoying as the time went on.
ARGHH
My mother-in-law said to me last week when she saw me bald for the first time “oh well you don’t look as bad as I thought you would” - mmmm does that mean I look pretty awful, but not horrendous or what? Then when back from chemo and dd said she thought I looked OK, considering I’d just had my chemo, m-in-l piped up with “well I’d hate to see what she looked like when she’s feeling peaky then”
Great! Not known for her tact and diplomacy, bless her.
P.S. Ninja I feel irritated by the woman from just reading your post how did you not scream?!!
P.P.S. My lovely brother who I love VERY much came up to visit the other week, and sat round complaining about how tired he was! I eventually told him to shut up as he should try having chemo and then not sleeping for a week!!
Hi Keepthefaith
Your remark about your brother reminded me of my lovely brother who got up at 5am to be with my children when they woke up on the morning I went into hospital for an mx on a recurrence a few months ago. I was a little anxious - but he soon put things into perspective when he told me he had the start of a sore throat and was a bit tired too …
I was annoyed at the time, but actually it was my husband who told me to forget about it, that sometimes actions are louder than words, that he was actually there bang on time (not his thing) on childcare duty (again not his thing) and yes, he probably did have the start of a sore throat!
Normally I hold a grudge much longer…
And Lynnferg, what a beautifully succinct answer.
C2010
Friend of mine came to visit me - said “oh your hair is growing back isn’t it” and I said “yeah it’s not actually looking like chemo hair now either, theres thickness to it now and it covers all over” and she said “I don’t want to be awful but it does make you look butch”
??? Well cheers for that, I hadn’t noticed.
Oh Lynnferg, my jaw is on the floor too at your sister’s comment! Nothing to do with BC but it sort of reminded me of a brilliant exchange I heard on TV after the hurricane caused New Orleans to flood.
Interviewer: do you think the flood is God’s way of punishing New Orleans for all the sin and debauchery that has gone on there?
Interviewee: I think it’s God’s way of saying don’t build a city that’s below sea level and surrounded on three sides by water and then be surprised when it floods
I thought it was great. I really disagree with people who think bad things happening are some kind of punishment…we all know sadly too well that bad things, including BC, are pretty indiscriminate and happen to good and bad people alike. Oh wouldn’t life be simpler if only bad things happened to bad people, and good things to good people!
El K, I would have been sorely tempted to give a reply along the line of well my hair will grow longer but you will still be (…insert insult of your choice…)
it was me, i said something today that must have been annoying, maybe hurtful.
i’m hair obsessed at the moment, having recently lost mine and decided not to get a wig, which i keep debating. so i stare at people’s hair all the time, wondering what’s a wig and what’s not. then today i went to the haven in fulham for a workshop, and on the tube on the way i was sure there would be other women with BC going, i was examing everyone. i saw a woman opposite who, well who looked great but i could see she was wearing a wig. we made eye contact, she could see i had no hair under my beanie.
at lunch time at the workshop we spoke, i said ‘i saw you on the tube, i thought you were coming here’. of course underlying what i was saying was ‘i could see you were wearing a wig’ but i didn’t realise till it came out. she said ‘oh really’, she knew. we talked a bit then she moved away and afterwards i tried to catch her to apologise, altho i did worry that whatever i said would make it worse, but she ran off.
now i feel shit. but maybe it’s a lesson to me to be kind to people who say annoying things, not to judge them too harshly.
Don’t be too harsh with yourself, judes, it’s possible that you could have meant you knew she was going to the same place because of the understanding look SHE gave YOU.
But you knew what you meant, so I understand that you’d feel a bit bad about it.