ohhh there have been so many crass comments from folk I am sometimes just left standing going " eh??"
another one: was on the phone to my friend giving her the low down on the drama of diagnosis and MX- all she could do was laugh and holler at the most inappropriate moments? Didn’t know cancer turned you into a comedienne too.
i’ve just read the post about the prognosis dished out by the RAC man and the taxi driver. I am almost wetting myself with laughter !!! x x
Flower
No doubt the comments will keep on coming !!! hope people keep posting them its great to have a wicked sense of humour eh :0)
As they say laughter is the best medicine
Take care
Janice xx
I have a lovely but completely batty friend who, when I had my reconstruction 6 years ago said that I had finally motivated her to getting the boob job she had always wanted … Err ok (?!)… A few weeks after she had it done she asked me if I would like to come over for coffee ‘and we can compare our new boobs’… Err no thanks(!)… Last month she told me that her implants were from that French company that were in the news a while ago (can’t remember the name) and so she was going to have to have them replaced. She asked me if mine were from the same company when I said no she said ‘oh its alright for you, you wouldn’t believe the nightmare I’m having with all of this’
I said how sorry I was and how awful it must be.
Now I know she’s a bit ditzy but I really sometimes wonder what planet she’s on
I should add that she has said some very nice things in between times 
Mx
Standing round with a group of friends and everyone chatting about how much they are dreading being 50 years old!!! I wish i had the courage to say ‘I just hope to make it to 50. I will be exceptionaly greatful and have a massive PARTY - you should all be grateful too!!!’, but I just said nothing - why do we do that!!!
Sadie Xx Xx
Sadie
I know - the silent scream when we have to listen to these sily things. I smile graciously and write them all down so i can have a giggle when i’m fed up. I’m also sure that i have, in the past, resorted to cliche when hearing news of illnesses. I could cringe whenever one of my awfully well meaning but crass phrases comes up on this thread.
As I’ve said before, I can forgive most of it but one day I will scream out loud at “Keep being positive” !
Louisa x
Sadie- i’d just say it. Who cares what folk think.? Makes them feel a bit uncomfortable for a nanno second because they realise how stupid they sound. I’m going about saying I am looking forward to be 40th ( in three years) with relish. x
oh yeah forgot to add- got the obligatory remark today " you’ve got a pretty face and a nice shaped head so you will be lovely when your hair comes out." Oh really i said, why did you not tell me to go for such a trendy (witchety )sp?) grub look before??? nuff said x
I’m going for my mx on Thursday.
My friends are going to Liverpool on Friday, I had to pull out. Everybday on one friends Facebook page it says. " Liverpool… 5 days woo hoo … " or whatever the countdown is.
I just look it and my heart sinks with " mastectomy 4 days… Noooo "
That’s probably me being over sensitive…
I quite liked my boob but I very much hated/feared the cancer. So, instead of anxting the mastectomy itself (=bad), try and focus on getting rid of the cancer, countdown to “No More Cancer, Woohoo”. How important is fotball against that, I do agree. 22 grown men playing with their balls, just. And getting paid for it. (Ooh, that will upset some fans, sorry!)
Fingers crossed for you, Elli, it’s a tough week waiting. I did a cooking spree and filled the freezer while I was waiting.
Hugs to you Elli… people just live in their own little worlds - which is really hard when our world is crumbling… hang on in there… I found the MX not anything like as bad as I’d feared… Jane
Aww thanks girls.
I have a wee mantra now. May or may not help me because I know it’s not intentional, and I know that everyone is entitled to go and do nice things… I’m going to rationalise it with…
They have a life to live, at the moment I have a life to save.
Hopefuly that will help e keep a little perspective. I was ok about the mx till I got news it was to be followed by chemo… Now I just feel quite upset, all the time. It’s hard trying to brave…lol
Eleanor xx
Elli
I hope it all goes okay. I have not had this op myself - lumpectomy,rads, hormones and bone mets discovered 3 weeks after lumpectomy and positive prognosis - bummer!!!
The mantra is a good one and please let us know how you get on.
ouisa x
Elli, that is brilliant, you should patent it.
“They have a live to live, I have a life to save”
Yeah, mastectomy AND chemo doesn’t seem fair. You’d think it would be one or the other. And I love the mantra too
I don’t often post on this thread but I do dip into it and read the comments.
Anyway, just had to share this classic with you. It fits right into this category as it came from my mother who is both very well-meaning and very annoying.
I explained how it feels to have extreme fatigue and how, having tested for other things, the docs are convinced it’s definitely a side-effect of the aromatase inhibitor which I have to take for a few more years. Her response…
“Sorry you are feeling weary, might it be the effects of the air in our town, I certainly feel less lively when April/May comes around.”
Got to love the parents… Bless… a wee bit avoidance to a comfortable place for them…
When I told my dad I had cancer and had to get mastectomy… He was shocked… As I explained what was happening he brightened up and said … " that’s what Mary had" … " she’s fine…" and I thought bless… If marty is fine I’m bound to be ok … Lol…
In all honesty I was just relieved he had comfort…
Well Elli at least it’s a huge improvement from the more common: Oh, that’s what X had, she’s dead now Of Course.
PWC, yeah definitely avoid that town, the air’s not good for you
Holiday insurance computer quote …page three…would you like to add a condition…if you say yes the next screen gives you a list and asks you to “CHOOSE CONDITION”
I do not choose my condition thank you insurance companies…what a load of old nonsense…I will pick up the phone and point this out to them
N
Yeah too right, and tell them they forgot to include your chosen conditions, Healthy and Rich…
Before i left work i told all my clients about my illness and explained that I would be off a few months. One man with aspergers told me that he had had loads of relatives who have had cancer; he named them all (a long list) and followed each name with a description of the cancer they’d had and how long it had taken before each one died! Well if I hadn’t been depressed before that…He actually meant well and was i think just trying to make some kind of connection with me-bless!
Louisa x