Hello Destiny 3355
Thank you for your reply. My sons are now 29, and 31, I was originally diagnosed with Breast Cancer in 2019. Within months of diagnosis and after some treatments I started talking about my disease, I did an article for a Breast Cancer Charity. It was shown a cross national and regional press coverage.
My message was for men to Notice and Report all new changes to their body, never second guess or put off seeking expert medical opinion on things that you feel not right with our body. We are our own expert when it comes to our body.
My sons were told at the very start of the cancer, what signs appeared, they also saw my breasts before operations so noticed the inverted nipple and know that symptom . Those same photos were shared on face book, with over 6,000 views…175 shares ,so it was out there for others to see.
I’ve been on many insight panels, worked with Macmillan on projects, Helped co- Design a Male Breast Cancer Leaflet with The Plumrade, ( another Male Breast Cancer suvivor whose on these forums)
My sons in my opinion are fearful not if the Cancer but the loss of their Dad, they were recently dustraught when my Father in law passed away before Christmas.
They lost their Aunty my sister in law two years before to Cancer.
My children were distraught when last June they were told my cancer had spread and I was stage 4.
I think the reason they don’t talk about it was it’s not easy to do, and politely young people are busy with work, personal relationships, and basically living their life. It’s how the seem to cope.
Last October both sons took the Genetic test for the BRCA genes, I have Brca2. ……my eldest son doesn’t have it, my youngest Son tested positive for Brca2……so he also has this to contend with.
In 2021 due to Extamastene hormone treatment, my Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm grew very quickly, and I had major surgery to fit a graft of over the Aneurysm. This too can be hereditary, as my sister
Also has one…So both sons know after the age of Forty they have to seek advice on monitoring ….
So deep down I understand their silence re my health, doesn’t make it easier on me, but I understand.
My wife talks most days to both sons by phone, but she too must find it hard to talk about my Cancer to them, she’s lost so much herself recently and now this with myself it must be awfully hard.
Thank you for your concern, and I wish you best wishes with your treatment, maybe your partner would benefit from talking to someone about the lost of his mother to BC,and in turn that might make him cope better with yours, I wish you both well.
Take care of You
Kindest regards
D