I have been following Wendy's story over the past few years and I am really sorry to learn that she has died. I can remember her from her 'Come Outside' days, through her 'Miss Brahms' days and then in her fantastic role as Pauline in EastEnders (I vividly remember her screen death too). She was a stalwart of the old school of British acting and I will miss her on our screens.
Rest in Peace Wendy, there's a luverly moon out there...
This is very sad news again and very difficult for everyone in the middle of treatment. When I was in the middle of my treatment Jane Tomlinson passed away and it knocked my confidence about my ability to get through what was happening so I understand how hard it is when its on the news and headlines in the papers.
However I am now approaching 2 years since DX and [fingers/toes/everything crossed] all is well at the moment. I have a check up coming up which I am dreading but I know that my family will help me through it as they always do.
None of us know what the future holds for us but with the love of friends and family, a good dollop of laughter and knowing beyond doubt that the sun is shining just for us we live the life we have.
Lots of Love to Everyone
Worry is a weird thing. It can consume us, it can be a complete waste of our energies and time so we should avoid it but we can't help it.
Sometimes I think that it has been easier on me to be diagnosed with secondaries straight off as I've missed out on the post-primary diagnosis/treatment worry. For me, advanced BC is a fact not a worry. Of course I worry about the future at times but I can't change it (or at least I don't think so) so I try and just get on with life.
I can imagine that post primary diagnosis, the worry is huge. On the one hand, there may be nothing to worry about in the future. On the other, this sneaky thing may one day reappear. There is no middle ground. Howard, your wife sounds as if she has a pretty good chance (but chance is all it is -for any of us, even for the many women who don't have cancer) of being in the former group and she will learn to live with her experience and knowledge. It really still is very early for her. You will have to just be as supportive as you can be, while coming on here to get some support for yourself.
When I hear about Jade Goody and now Wendy Richards, it reminds me that with this disease we all have to face our own mortality (as we all know though, we never were immortal anyway!) and I too have found all the publicity and constant reminders pretty difficult. For Jade, it is too late to hope for anything other than comfort and no pain (God bless her). Wendy Richards actually should be a beacon of hope. She had her painful diagnoses but appeared to participate fully in life and certainly gave us much entertainment and joy. That is what we should all try and do and not let this b**** disease ruin our time in this wonderful world. She still died too young though.
I hope your wife's worries will lessen soon. For now, I would just like to add my condolences to Wendy's friends and family and best wishes to everyone.
It must be very difficult for you trying to keep your wife cheerful at the moment - but we are all different and all react in different ways to our dx, treatment and future. BUT I think your wife has an excellent prognosis with no vascular invasion and no lymph node involvement, does she understand the difference this makes to her? The chemo is the belt and braces bit: and then with the radiotherapy on top of that, are you sure about 6 1/2 weeks of rads - that seems a very long time? But she will be well and truly treated with that lot and she should not be in despair about her future. Very best wishes to you both.
So sad to hear the new about Wendy Richards.My thoughts are with her family and friends.
Howard,I understand how your wife is feeling ,I was a bit low this week but the news of Wendys death has sent me spiralling down further and I feel very down and weepy.Its very hard when things like this remind us of our mortality.Its important we remember that it doesn't necessarily mean the same will happen to us.Every BC is different.
However sometimes its easier said than done.
Has your wife been offered counselling? I had some and it does help with your thoughts.
Thanks so much for the support, even just a few understanding words and a listening ear (or reading eye!) really helps. You guys are amazing on here, you really are. 🙂
You've come to the right place for support, the users of this site have a wealth of information between them and are always willing to support each other through this.
If either yourself or your wife would like to talk to someone in confidence then please do use BCC's helpline, the staff here offer a listening ear and are here to support you both. Calls to the helpline are free, as are all of BCC's publications, some of which you may find useful, just follow the links from the home page for publications.
I hope this helps you both. Kind regards,
We are all saddened to hear about Wendy Richards death, and it does bring the fear of death from cancer home to you when it is splashed across the newspapers. I am really sorry your wife is feeling so fearful, and how tough it is for you too, especially when other members of the family don't always acknowledge it.
I hope that you will be able to gain some understanding and support from this website; often friends and family are so afraid of cancer, they just don't talk about it, and that can be very frustrating. Sometimes, I just want to scream when 'normal life' is discussed and all I can think about is cancer!!
It is not all doom and gloom, although it may feel like that at the moment. I was diagnosed with triple neg tumour 2 years ago, which was large and aggressive and had spread to most of my lymph nodes and vascular system, but have somehow managed to limp through to 2 years without secondaries, but several scares!!
Please don't feel isolated,you can always rant on here, and someone will always listen.
Just watched the tribute to Wendy Richard on BBC1 - she came across as such a lovely funny lady and I am sure she will be much missed.
I too was so very sorry to hear that Wendy Richards,like so many others,has died of this awful disease.She was the same age as me and I have enjoyed so many of her performances over the years.
Yes I felt very sad reading this news in the Evening Standard tonight. Eastenders is my favourite soap and I've been addicted since the early days in 1985.
Wendy Richard's story is another ordinary story of a woman with breast cancer who happened to be well known: diagnosed in the mid 90s, recurrence in 2002, and then terminal in 2008...About 15 years living with breast cancer, she went into the 5 year and the 10 year survival statistics lauded about; not particularly brave or a fighter cause why do the press or anyone else have to use those adjectives? Wendy was 65; she's died far too prematurely of breast cancer...like 12,000 plus others this year.
Condolences to her real family and the actors from her Eastenders family and all her friends.
You were a fighter as are a lot of ladies on this site.
My condolences to all your family and friends
Rest in peace
My wife was diagnosed in August 2008 3 weeks before our wedding. She's had a 13mm triple neg taken out by lumpectomy and her nodes were clear as was her vascular system. She's been through her chenmo, and started 6 1/2 weeks of R/T last week.
she's a natural worrier, and the debacle of Jade Goody in the press has made it really hard for me to keep her positive recently. Now this news of Wendy Richards has come out, and it's sent her right down in a panic again... She's petrified about it coming back and being terminal. I'm starting to get emotionally exhausted trying to keep her afloat, her parents act like nothing is happening, as do her brothers. - I dread the front cover of the papers these days.....:(
Such very sad news.
Wendy Richards kept many of us 'entertained ' for so many years on the television.....a very brave lady.
Rest in Peace Wendy x
Such sad news. I was only commenting recently to my OH that it had been a while since she got married and I was wondering how she was doing.
My condolences to all her family and friends who are suffereing her tragic loss.
This is such sad sad news. Another tragic loss.
Sincere condolances to Wendy's family and friends at this very sad time,
As Miss Brahams she rocked, playing a bit of a lush! Whilst she played a bit of a misery in 'enders and still rocked! Wendy will be sorely missed.
R.I.P Wendy, goodnight and godbless,
I just said to my husband a couple of days ago that we haven't heard about Wendy Richards. This is such sad news. A lovely lady xxx
Just heard the announcement that Wendy Richards has passed away.
I loved her as Miss Brahms in Are You Being Served and Pauline Fowler in Eastenders.