Well, unusally it’s me on the late-ish shift. Lots of work stuff whirring round in my mind, some quite tricky to get right…
Clare, please look after yourself, I keep detecting hints of weariness in what you are writing that go beyond just end of the day tired. It is your time to focus on yourself and your family, so keep the spoons for the really precious things. You are so good at looking out for everyone else who posts on here, but I worry for you…
I really hope you have a fabulous day tomorrow… and if I recall correctly Nicky08 has her little birthday too. So lots of happy moment to savour.
Forgive me not naming other people, but I hope that everyone has a really good weekend whatever they are up to, with moments to cherish and lots of deep laughter too.
Yes Clare, I agree with Rev, you must look out for yourself,take the rest you need and do what you want and are up to rather than what you feel you should.
I know we love this thread, and you, and hearing about all your goings on, but you did start it because of your surreal position so we do know that there will be times when you are too tired or not feeling up to posting jollies or anything at all some times. So please don’t feel burdened to keep us up to date if it is difficult. Yes, we’ll miss your posts yes we’ll fret about you, but you need to look after you. Maybe if there’s more than a day or two you aren’t up to posting you could text one of the girls something simple like ‘fine but tired’ and they could let us know.
Anyway, hope all you mums out there have a lovely mothers day on Sunday.Hope things have improved for you CM, hope your head has stopped whirring and you have some answers Rev. Everyone else, hope you have a peacefull pain and SE free weekend.
I’ve had taxi-driving day today, which I’m sure is very familiar to parents of teens. Clare, does that ring a bell? That and the “can I have” moments… It was also my 50th birthday, but I don’t like birthdays so didn’t announce it. And kinda messed it up by blubbing all over my 13-yr-old about how rubbish life has been recently, just before we went to bed, when she has to be up and off on a school exchange trip to Germany tomorrow - taxi driver to school at 4.30 tomorrow… oh the joys. But I know you’d rather be in the position where you can be the taxi driver for this year, and next year, and the year after. Clare, THIS is the kind of day-to-day thing, like those lovely little white flowers, where your influence will last for so long. Thank you.
As for your own day-to-day stuff, you just move the horizons inwards if that’s what you need to do. If you’re not up to big days out, then let people pop by for half an hour and then feel free to ask them to leave again. GET SELFISH. I know that’s going to be a very difficult message for you, seeing how you are with those around you, but sometimes these things have to happen. Turn into that lady who wears purple (I’m sure someone will know what I’m on about, any chance of the poem quoted on this thread? YOU know what I’m on about!)
Hugs everyone. Damp ones, but hugs all the same. You are such a special bunch of people, and I feel priveleged that you’re there for me, for Clare, for each other, for those of us who benefit from the mutual support from these forums.
CM
x
(erm, didn’t CM write a “note to self” recently about avoiding keyboard when outside a bevvie or two? Perhaps someone’d better remind her in the morning…)
Hi Clare, hope you are feeling a bit easier this morning, have a lovely day, rest if you have to, I am sure everyone will understand. CM your post as usual is lovely, and I agree you are all such a special bunch of people. Hugs and love to all x
Hi Clare, hoping you have a lovely day today and the energy spoons are plentiful
Thank you Rev and a belated Happy Birthday to CM, sorry it was an emotional one for you ( in the wrong sense)
Hane a lovely weekend Claredrops and for all the Mums wherever they are, a lovely day tomorrow.
Nicky xx
Felt pretty rough yesterday. Looks like the attendance at the gig was too much for my body at this time! Had lots to do yesterday before travelling down south to my family. Slept pretty well but will be good & leave my brothers birthday gathering at a sensible time tonight. Save spoons for my journey back home tomorrow.
Wow…half a century CM. You really don’t seem it, despite all that you’ve had to go through this last year. So sorry about cancelling yesterday but I really wasn’t up to it.
Hi Clare…yes will be sensible & save some spoons! Looking forward to seeing you on Monday. I will bring dessert!
Hope everyone has a good weekend. Juicing no.2 looming for me next week.
Morning all.
Clare I hope you have a lovely day with your parents today.
Remember, i just live down the road, if you need some shopping or a lift somewhere let me know.
CM, happy birthday, if you neeed a chauffeur uniform, let us know, I have a spare one.
Revcat, you are such a wise and caring lady. Your posts are always full of wisdom.
Everyone else, lurkers or posters, have a great week end.
Hi Clare and all Claredroppers.
Just catching up with news this morning. Hoping a trip to the Brodey?? to see BCN on Tues will mean some mecical “tweaking” to help with the tiredness/other stuff. Let them “tweak” away and whatever the cost of drugs/ treatment you are SO worth it!!! I’ve been saving special, valuable spoons for you for a lovely day with your folks.
I totally agree with the Rev. Let others work around you and how you are feeling. Shall be visiting Yarnton nurseries later for plants. You have inspired me.
Going to Brodey to see N Levitt (onc) in a few days. Will fly past Deddington and give you a wave. Flag me down if you ever need anything. I would be over the hills and to yours in a heartbeat.x
CM I felt cr** on my 50th last year. Had rads on birthday and spent much of it sobbing and asleep. Decided to ditch that one. One year on just booked a citybreak to Rome to mark the occasion (probably can’t afford it who cares)so 51 is the new 50.
Happy Birthday(s) Mother’s Days and wishing you all a sunny weekend. x
The extra rest and leg rub has done the trick, feel much better today, hopefully it will last…but I have just (whispering here) hoovered…Yikes!!!
Jan, which nurse do you have at the Brody clinic, they are all fab but mine is Anita who is the most compassionate person I think I have ever met. I am boarderline anemic again and they have said if I feel extra tired this week to pop in for a blood test and a refill :o)
I think with XOH rubbing my legs and a few private drainage on the legs will see me through to the 28th, I am not doing nothing as my quality of life is rubbish with 10 ton legs and I think what is getting me so very down as apart from that and the disslocated shoulder I have no other pains at all. So its priority if I want to carry on the living part not so down.
Happy belated birthday CM hope you have a better day today :o)
on wards and upwards, lets go and raid wardrobe to see if I can find anything half decent to wear…
Have a good one everyone, its finally stopped raining here :o)
Nicky and Clare enjoy your/your parents golden days too.
Wow, what can I say? 1962 was CLEARLY a vintage year… which I just squeaked into by being born three weeks early. (No doubt one day someone will find a vague link between premature birth or low birth weight and bc, if they haven’t already… Pah!)
I really hope you all have gorgeous weather today because, wonder of wonders, there is a big round yellow thing in the sky in Glasgow!
Really busy day tonmorrow, and really challenging - I have childless couples, people who had unhappy childhoods, people who lost children, people who’ve lost their mothers recently, people for whom love never arrived, and more to try to affirm and reassure, as well as giving space for those who want to to celebrate this festival of all things motherness. Hope I get it something like right.
To those of you who are mums, I salute you, you all do amazingly.
To those who may not be able to be mums becuase of bc or other reasons, I affirm you, you are wonderful women.
What a balanced thing to say Rev, its something we don’t always think about, all the circumstances and situations that crop up all because someone has designated a day for Mothers.
I remember seeing my sisters pain every mothers day if we all got together, it was almost like rubbing her nose in it but she was there for our mother and was in a difficult position, needless to say we didn’t do it very much ( get together) untill her littlw ivf twins arrived… They were in a national newspaper as they had so many attempts at ivf and all the other things on offer. 10 sessions in all so you can imagine what her hormones were like.
I have a friend who was so seriously betrayed by her mother, I imagine this is a painful day for her, she was abused as a child and the mother stood by then and stood by him as he was convicted for her and the granchildren that came afterwards, she still visits him in prison.
My son is calling…gotta get them all smart for mother :o)
I’m sure with your thoughtfulness you will reach as many people as possible Rev, you are an inspiration
Clare xxx
Rev, you’ve nicked it! Dull and damp down here, but we do need a bit of rain so I’m not complaining, and you haven’t had that yellow thing nearly as much as we have. A beautiful and very thoughtful post about mums. I hope everyone here has a peaceful day tomorrow.
I’m a bit of a grump about celebratory days and have never been a big one for mother’s day as it just seems to be an excuse for Hallmark to make cards and for retailers to guilt us into spending money. Sadly I don’t have a mum, she died nearly 30 years ago, so I suppose that’s another fairly big reason why I don’t “do” it. For me, I think about her every day so just having one day a year for her simply isn’t enough - EVERY day is Mother’s Day. My youngest went off on a school trip at silly o’clock this morning so she won’t be around, the next one up is away, and the two biggies came out for a quiet beer last night so I wouldn’t imagine I’ll see them again this weekend.
As for today being better, oh I wish… More family trauma but then, what’s new. Not quite as traumatic as recent events but still not a brilliant start to the day. Thanks all for the good wishes for yesterday.
Clare, I’m sure you’ll do your darndest to have a good evening with your mum, and I think we could do with a pic of the new top your sister bought. Turquoise really suits your colouring, as I’m sure she knows, so despite all the other physical discomforts you have you’ll look wonderful with your smiling eyes, and everyone will be very happy to have you with them.
Special thoughts to Clare on this Mothering Sunday for her, her Mum and her daughter Aisling and son (whose name I have forgotten at this late hour!)
Enjoy the special love that you will share together today and every day ahead…
Sending you a tight squeeze too.
Obviously not too tight but just enough for you to know we’re thinking of you, as always…
I hope today’s celebrations went well and you and yours had a hoot of a time.
Wishing you a lovely mothers’ day with Aisling and Jamie, I’m sure it will be special for you all. Make sure the two kids run around after you, pampering to all your needs, LOL.
I had a lovely day today, fabulous 5 star meal and good, fun company. I was totally knackered as adding the photo shoot on the end of our meal meant we didn’t get home till 5. It was worth it though as there were some lovely parts of the hotel to take photos of the kids.
Mum and Dad had a good time and that was our priority today. Even dad who doesn’t express much emotion at the best of times seemed to come out of himself. He was so gentle with me, we don’t see much of each other as he gets bored spending a whole day at mine unless he had a few jobs to do LOL…I was always ‘daddy’s girl’ although not as bright as he would like it, he has always been there for me, in the background, sometimes totally desparing of me lol but ready to help and make my life easier.
Its funny, Janes twins don’t treat me any different whicch is lovely, I thought they may be afraid of me as physically I have changed so much but they are a delight :o) and they adore Jamie and Aisling, its nice to see. Bodes well for the future.
Off to try and get some more shut eye, hope everyone is safely tucked up in bed
Sooo glad you had a lovely time Clare… a very seical day for all of you. I’m really pleased the twins treated you as normal - are they quite young? I find younger children tend to deal with things in such a straight forward way.
Please chill today - let you children pamper you (I hope they will!) - and savour some moments just for yourself.
However Mothering Sunday / Mothers Day feels for you all, I really hope it has some wonderful moments to bring you smiles, laughter, hope and happiness.
Hi Clare -I’m SO pleased you had a good day yesterday. Revcat’s Boss would have had a terrible time from all of us if you hadn’t!! You have wound your way into all our hearts and had a huge contingent of Forumites wishing happiness for you.
Sending a big hug and lots of love for another good day today with lots of resting involved- and legs up-ness too.
Diana x
