Well, back to normality now, having had a lovely break as my Christmas present. Extremely swish hotel in Bath, then to the daughter’s in Bristol, shopping in Cribbage Causeway and an evening going out for a curry with daughter and younger son, and then playing board games. And a night on the bed settee, definitely sublime to the ridiculous.
I managed okay without my handbag, the OH handed over half his cash and a bank card, I had no problems using a card in his name. But it just brings home how we use the same PIN, not very security conscious!
Luckily I’d packed things like my Kindle and my tablet so they were in the case. It just made me realise how often I make my shoulder ache with a handbag, when the inner zipper pocket in my coat was easier and more secure. When I was having physiotherapy for my trapped nerves the physiotherapist told me how lopsided my shoulders are, little did I know I’d have boobs to match!
Lots to catch up with on here, but Lily and Helena, hope you’re taking it easy now, Lesley, glad the head is better, Clair, Beth and Janey, hope you’re not working too hard, and have relaxing weekends planned.
I’m off to light the logburner now, it’s 16 degrees in my living room, despite turning the heating up to full blast an hour ago…
Oh crikey it’s cold out there! We’ve just been to the kennels to collect Daisy, it feels bitterly cold. Though yesterday we had to abandon plans to go round the docks because it was so cold. I wouldn’t normally drag the OH and the daughter shopping, but I left them with the crossword for an hour so they were happy. And no tiredness tantrums from me either, though I did do my 10 000 steps in the day.
It struck me that that was the first trip we’ve done in months and months, where there isn’t anything I’m worried about or waiting for results from or waiting to start. And I tried on clothes without wanting them to hide the lopsidedness, only the usual assortment of things I’m usually trying to hide lol!
i made it!!! A full week in work. I’m proud of myself but I’m also shattered and a bit sore. The relief of taking my bra off as soon as I’m home is immense. In my jammies now and I don’t think I’ll change out of them till Monday lol
It is amazing what people’s expectations are of me now, and how I am in reality. 99% are way off the mark. The old “but your treatment finished over a month ago” or " you look really well so you must have had plenty of rest", blah blah blah. I think mentally it has been the right thing to go back to work, but physically it is still very difficult. My shoulder aches now (it never did before) and I think that may be from using the PC and mouse and just generally sitting at my desk. I’m also getting a bit of pain in my breast itself but it’s manageable with paracetamol and Ibruprofen. To finish off my whinge this evening I think I’m also coming down with a cold. The staff are full of them in work so I guess it was inevitable.
For all you ladies out there who are employed rather than self employed, take full advantage of any phased return you can get. It’s important.
Im going to catch up with everyone’s posts on here now, then have a bite to eat and looking forward to watching Fortitude later. New series started last night but I was in bed by 8.30 ish so missed it.
What a day and Dizzy jealous of Cribbs! Well I had a teary day today with my manager getting the brunt. He made the mistake of emailing all to say it was nice to see me up and running, at which point he got an email back to say I was nowhere near up and running and struggling without support. His second mistake was to call me!
Anyway, all done now and not in again until Tuesday, so I shall relax this weekend. I am questioning if I was ready to go back. I definitely didn’t struggle like this first time around. Beth I take my hat off to you being fully back. Being self-employed is wonderful in many ways but not easy when you need space.
Sending love to all of you. Lesley I think you now become Lady of the Ring. Brilliant result. Xx
Evening lovelies,
I really didn’t want to get up this morning I felt so tired. I’m so glad this working week is over!!!
Beth your amazing going straight into full time work I’m full of admiration, Have a lovely relaxing weekend you totally deserve it. Xxx
Thank you for asking about my friend Lily she’s feeling a bit better and things haven’t got worse so hopefully she’s on the mend, it did give us such a fright. I’m also feeling better today work was easy as I just sat and listened at the back. I’m glad your feeling brighter today too Xxx xxx
Hubby is on new tablets and has had the pharmacist ringing him to check he feels ok talk about good service. I’ll be glad when he’s had his tests done though.
What a wonderful surprise finding your ring Lesley how lovely and glad your headache has gone xxx
Janey I hope they sort your laptop etc out that’s awful! Xx
Helena sounds like you’ve had a lovely day, what channel do you watch bowls on? I’ve never seen it on TV xxx
Dizzy you make me laugh I’ll never think of cribs the same again xx Mary I hope work is going well for you xxx
Hello Lee, I always think of you swimming around in the sun xx
Much love to everyone xxx
catch up later Clair xxxxxx xx
Sorry Janey our posts crossed. What a wally
… I’m sure he thought he was doing a nice thing, men have no idea!! I hope you get more support next week and if you don’t.feel ready talk to occupational health again xxxx
Have a large gin my lovely, I’m having a large wine xxxx
I have the opposite problem! everyone treats me with kid gloves and they’re always faffing around me. I have told them I wouldn’t put myself or anyone else in any danger or do anything I wasn’t capable of.
I know it because they care.
xxx
Janey, good for you for letting him see how you feel, whether teary or not. I think it shows that although people mean well, they just haven’t a clue. Which is also what Beth was saying, there’s an assumption that if you’re well enough to be back, then you’re better. They need educating in the long term effects of this thing, the aches and pains, the tiredness and the emotional effects. You shouldn’t be so tired at the end of the week that collapsing in your pyjamas for the weekend seems like the most appealing option. So I think that you and Beth and Clair have been brilliant in what you’ve achieved, but it does seem like a heck of a lot to ask at this stage.
I seem to have gone down with compulsive eating disorder, does anyone know a cure? I don’t know if it’s the weather or the pills, but I’m always hungry at the moment, with disastrous effects on my weight. So the diet will have to start again tomorrow, for the third time this year. I know what to do, I just can’t seem to be able to do it.
Hi everyone, trying to read all your posts but having trouble, eyes all blurry. Janey, You Had that problem a while ago, did you go to doc? It happens sometimes when I get a bad headache but I’m ok at the moment, just blurred vision. No Charys, before you ask, I haven’t been drinking lol.
Did see that Janeys Boss is being a bottom hole, Beth is working flat out instead of easing herself back in gently, Clair is exhausted. Lots of lovely nice comments about the finding of my ring, thank you, so happy to have it back, Im wearing it again. Helena watching bowls, again! Lily’s had a restful day, Dizzy chilling in front of her logs, Rubycat has escaped out of the cat flap again. Think I need to give eyes a rest then read back and catch up with you all properly, I’d hate to miss something, Im so nosey xx
Morning glories. Well I’m a twit! Thought I was going to meet a friend for coffee today but it’s next Saturday. Wondering if gardening in full slap is the way forward! Sun is creeping around the corner, so already a better day. Hugs to all of you today - may all your days be fluffy and bright … xx
lucky you Janey, no sun here, raining so no walking this morning. Instead my friend is driving us to town for breakfast and a mooch round the shops.
Beth, you need to stay in the warm and get rid of that cold. Stay off work until you’re well, you’ve been through so much you need to go go easy. Sorry to nag, but if you we’re not the boss and had a boss they would not let you go straight back to working flat out like youve done.
No nonsense Cold Nursey Delly here. Please do as I ask, and not ignore me as Helena did. Go get some Beechams Hot Lemons. Do not accept ANY other form of “Hot” anything. Also get some lemons and some honey. Take the Hot Lem drink with half of lemon and 1 or 2 tsps of the honey. Take 3 or 4 sachets per day starting with one first thing, then make sure your last one is just before you go to bed.
If I find out your not doing ANY of this, I’ll be over pronto and empty a full bedpan over your head, got it!! You wistening??!! They’ll dry you out within 3 days - honestly, I promise. Add a good SLUG of whisky to your bedtime one.
Now, I’ll take my kinky nursey outfit off and put my latex one back on to say :-
“Good Morning Lusciously Fluffies”.
Am just buzzing off to do what catching up I can and shall no doubt be back shortly
Hi all, midnight here and have just spent a lovely half hour reading this thread and the 16/17. Loving all the stories, especially the rings. Just racked up my first week on Tamoxifen, which coincided with a period so not sure if the headaches everyday were caused by one or both. Seems two days in a row are my limit at work because for the second time the Wednesday hit me hard. Happy to say less than the fortnight before though so that is improving. Lasted half a day just and felt so tired, dizzy and just weird I could only just drive home. So for the next three weeks I’m only doing two days. Next week going camping for four days days in a beautiful spot on the water. Crossing fingers and toes the fatigue doesn’t hit but will take it easy and lay around reading in the shade. Warm hugs to you all xx
Oh and Delly, you sound wonderful, eccentric and remind me of one of my oldest and dearest friends. She makes me smile, laugh and shake my head often and my life would be beige without her xx
I would never ignore you my darling, I just had hot toddies instead of lemsips etc., very pleased to report that I am well and truly over that now.
Beth - you really do need to look after yourself with that cold, I was lucky because mine happened during the week I was off over xmas, but I can assure you the way I was feeling if it had of been a work day I would not have gone in, it was not worth risking my health any more as I was doing rads at the time and needed all my strength for that.
Lee - Oooh love the sound of going away for a few days but camping is definitely not my bag xx Enjoy and make sure you do as you say re your working pattern, I am still on 3 days per week 4 hours per day but I am hoping to increase it in a couple of weeks time to do an extra 4 hours on the Thursday but it is very much wait and see.
Lesley - sounds a lovely thing to do on a wet day. I have just popped down to my bro’s flat to drop off the curtains I washed for him, he has given me a key to his flat, oh bless. By the way he is 57 years old but he said he wanted me to have one as well.
Everyone else I hope you are having a lovely Saturday even if it is wet.
Would you believe it, no sooner had we set off for Town in The car when the sun came out and it turned into a beautiful day, perfect for a walk. Still never mind, took advantage of my friends huge car and stocked up on lots of heavy stuff. We popped into Lidl and I did a Delly, Got chatting to a lovely eccentric posh lady in there for ages who was stocking up on champers for a party to celebrate the finishing of her house renovation. We chatted away like dear old friends for so long my friends had finished their shopping, queued up, paid, put their stuff in the car and came back to find me, and All i had were two of champers in my trolley that my new friend and persuaded me to buy because “such a bargain darling, madness not to” after wrenching me away they dragged me round to buy sensible things like food.
Eyes not blurry today thanks, but left one is still constantly running, Have to keep dabbing it with a tissue and people keep asking if I’m ok as it looks like I’m crying. Dizzy, I’m on my third pair of varifocals but I only wear them for reading, telly, Knitting, computer etc, I can’t walk round in them like I supposed to as I feel all disorientated if I do, and I could never walk downstairs in them, I d fall down.
Beth, really hope you’re not feeling too bad and resting up. Ive just had a massive sneezing fit so hoping I haven’t caught your cold, serve me right if I have, my three friends today all just getting over one and I boasted that I rarely get one.
Hope everyone else has had a lovely day. We’ve just had a glorious sunset and it’s only now getting dark, the days really are getting longer xx
Oh RUbycat, you poor thing, how awful for you, and of course for SO. Sending you a hug and my permission to have a good weep and pour a wine or G&T or eat something nice. Of course you must let it out on here, that’s why we’re here to share everything, good and bad xx
xx Mary I hope work is going well for you xxx
It sure is!!!