Rubycat, this probably sums it up xx
Rubycat
what a day you have had. I think I can speak for everyone when I say that we are all holding your hand and giving you a big hug. I am so sorry that your MIL is feeling the way she does, it isn’t easy for her, and it certainly isn’t easy for you and your husband to hear what she is saying. Families can be the source of so much pain and anguish. We are all here when you want to let off some steam, or rant or just to let it all out. We will always listen.
Today I have done very little. I have taken my lemsip as instructed by dearest Delly and other than pic Mac up from the groomers (who’s a handsome wee boy then), I have not left the house. Tomorrow will be the same I think. Feels good to recharge the batteries a bit again.
Helena - I noticed there was bowls on BBC 1 this afternoon. Is that what you have been watching?
Lee - camping??? Lol I’m afraid i like my creature comforts too much. I like the idea of sleeping under the stars, but the thought of bugs, hard floors and no loos puts me off!
lesley - loved your shopping take today!! So funny! I’m glad you got your shopping though lol
Dizzy - you have my utmost admiration for the miles you clock up. I genuinely don’t know how you do it.
Delly - thank you for your instructions for my cold. I promise to follow them so please no tipping over bedpans as punishment!! Luckily hubby was given a bottle of whiskey for Christmas so I will be adding that to my hot drink to go to bed! Hic!!
Janey - I bet you looked marvellous doing your gardening today!! I have to write everything on the wall calender in the kitchen theses days or I’d forget something.
Hope Ive not left any one out on here. Apologies if I have.
Xxx
Rubycat tonight I’m passing those big girl pants back to you today. So sorry you’re having a time of it and I’m adding my love to everyone else’s.
Beth I had a fine time in the garden but need to write things down properly, as forgot sister and brother in law here for supper!! Thank goodness for the freezer and stew. Better go and be entertaining - but I wanted to check in. 
Xx
Hello lovely Lily,
We’ve had a fab day looking around Knightshayes a National Trust house and we even had lunch out xx
Rubycat, sorry that you’ve had such a grim day. It’s tough when you and all the family are faced with a situation that you just can’t cure. So I hope the MIL feels differently tomorrow, and you have a better day. It isn’t selfish to back away when you’ve had more than enough, you need to be able to help your OH through this, so you need to take time out.
I’ve worn these glasses since I picked them up, I was fed up with wearing reading glasses like a necklace and whipping them on and off like a yo-yo. And finding the oven was on at the wrong temperature because I thought I could see well enough, and buying the wrong size top…
I’m okay wearing them to walk around, the path kept sloping away from me this afternoon but I’m told that will get better. But reading is such a struggle, my eyes are burning. They did say I can have my money back any time within 60 days, so I’ll plug on, but I thought reading was going to be the easy bit.
Dizzy, the optician told me when I first got varifocals to point my nose at what I wanted to look at when I had trouble getting on with them, I found that helped with reading etc. My only problem is walking with them, especially stairs. I always said I didn’t need them except for reading etc, but now I can’t recognise people until I’m right in front of them so guess I should wear them all them time but just can’t seem to. Try and persevere for a while and hopefully you’ll be ok, but some people just can’t get on with them. I’d have contact lenses but I’m too squeamish about eyes to even try.
Right, off to bed now. Hope everyone gets a good night xx
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Morning lovelies and Rubycat I hope you had a good night’s sleep and today a brighter day, although it sounds fairly relentless.
I have been a varifocal wearer now for years and wouldn’t be without them - well other than the relentless cleaning when cooking! I was also told to move my head rather than my eyes and am now used to them. I have a dystrophy in one eye, so was told not to try contacts. However, on the plus side I always buy frames that sit on the eye bag bit! Dizzy if they feel odd go back to the optician. I’m on a new pair and when I first picked them up, I couldn’t read properly and they had the “corridors” all wrong. Once fixed it has been much better. My eyesight did deteriorate two glasses worth the first year post menopause and definitely took a dip again post starting Anastrazole.
The fluffies’ magnolia is looking a bit damp today but I shall post a picture update, as the buds are starting to show promise. We are just like you here Lily. All that Westcountry rain and warmth makes the garden, especially the weeds, very vigorous! Have soothing Sundays all of you. Roast for 7 today, so I shall be dishing out the peelers!
Hugs xx
Woo Hoo
This is what my week off has been mostly about, the indoor bowls final. If you are curious to see what bowls is all about it is on BBC two now.
I know I am sad 
Have a lovely Sunday everyone whatever you are doing, I might be noticable by my absence on here for the next couple of hours
Helena xxx
Marydan
I guess the BCNs are used to women panicking that breast pains could be a sign of a recurrence, they just automatically go into reassurance mode.
Helena, I think there’s a bit of a debate over whether Tamoxifen causes a raised risk of cataracts and other eye problems, my optician didn’t seem too worried. But I have annual eye checks anyway as one of my sisters has glaucoma.
Rubycat, hope you’re having a better day today.
Well the rain is absolutely hammering down here, so no walk today, but the chicken casserole is in the slow cooker and the fire is blazing. We watched Federer and Nadal slug it out in the final of the Australian Open this morning, haven’t seen those two play each other in a very long time, it was a great match. At the end Federer said he wished there were draws in tennis as he’d have liked to share the trophy with Nadal, such a generous thing to say.
Hi all,
apologies for not answering individual posts - too challenging for my brain, lol.
Hoping everyone is having a wonderful weekend. Helena - can just see you watching the Bowls - it is quite fascinating and addictive. Thank you for your post on the other thread and sharing your experience - it might be quite helpful for those there.
I have just munched my way through a whole bag of Bon Maman Madeleine cakes, with a large cup of strong black coffee - sooooo french, lol.
Have just had the news that I shall be starting on My Moving Forward Course on Wednesday and it is weekly throughout February. For those of you, who have not been to one or may be thinking on going on one - I shall report back, if it is of interest to you.
So, it looks as if February will be the month, where I can draw a ‘virtual’ line under my breast cancer journey. Of course it will never come to a proper end, but still…
Seeing my oncologist for the last time on Tuesday re mammogram results, bisphosphonate, calcium, vitamin D dosages and how to deal with the effects of hormone therapy on our female bits and our sexlife. That should be a most interesting conversation.
Then on the 6th back to my brilliatn surgeon to have my implant re-assessed to see how much the chemotherapy and the radiotherapy have and are affecting it. Depending on the outcome replacement surgery should then be scheduled for later in the year.
And of course - my most wonderful hairdresser of many years, who cried when he cut off and shaved my hair before chemo - is making a special visit from North Hampshire to Brighton at the end of February, will hire a chair in a salon and wave his magic wand (scissors) on my short hair. One finds truly wonderful friends in the most unusual ways… So much effort, just for me?!..He does have the knack of making me feel very feminine and sexy - purely by what he does with my hair. He has a husband btw, lol
I am finally having the feeling of moving forward again and rediscovering some of my old self. Confidence in it will still take time, there is more healing and recovery to be done. I am seeing the little shoots of green growing out of the ground - just like in Helena’s garden - spring is on its way and so is summer.
Perfect timing!
Huge Hugs
Sue x
Good to see and have you back Sweet-Sue.
What tiime’s your appointment on Tuesday, so we can be thinking of you??
Dellypoos xxxx
Good evening all, and big hello to Sue, Lovely to hear from you. Really sounds as if you are moving on. Your hairdressers sounds like an amazing person to travel all that way, rent space in a local salon to do your hair, you must be worth it xx
Had a lazy day, rotten weather here. Resting up because busy Ive of lots of appointments coming up. The meeting I reluctantly went along to, Breast Cancer Support Group where the nurse was so amazing and said she would put wheels in motion has had results. Had an appointment through for a check at the Lymphoedema Clinic on 7 Feb, had a phone call from the counsellor who said that she was told I was reluctant, but said let’s just book and appointment (1 Feb) for an informal chat and go from there. Also later that day phone appointment to see if I can have injection on BC side frozen shoulder. Acupuncture Tuesday, and now waiting for the other appointments for cording physio and aromotherapy massage. Finally feel better about things and hopeful of some help. Still need to see why the gp wants to see me (9 Feb) but I can ask about watering eye while there. Beginning to feel like a hypochondriac!
Helena, don’t think I’ll ever get into bowls though I do like watching them play in the park sometimes in the summer, they always look like they are really enjoying themselves, and I always wonder if they have a scrummy tea after like cricket?
Hope everyone is having a relaxing Sunday, especially those of you working tomorrow xx
Thanks for the tip Delly, I’ve just Sky+ that film and will save it for a wet afternoon when I need cheering up xx
Clair, that’s all you need! I suppose if Tamoxifen causes thickening of the womb lining it could have reversed the effect of the ablation? Whatever, I hope it goes awày again, it’s taken long enough for your cold to go without something new.
I thought what gentlemen Federer and Nadal were too, they were applauding each other’s shots, it was just so generous. And not much like Andy Murray really…
Lesley, I’m glad your appointments have come through, and hopefully you can get that pain killing injection for your shoulder. You need to keep that BCN on speed dial, she seems to have come through with everything she promised.
Sue, I’m envious of your Moving Forward course, there is nothing available here or in any reasonable travelling distance. There is an afternoon course organised by the BCNs a couple of months after treatment ends, they sent me on it before rads because I had such a long gap. But it was only a bit of dietary advice and various organisations handing out leaflets, more of a signposting session than anything else. It’s the downside to living in the sticks, lots of shuttling between hospitals and not many facilities. But I may try out the local BC support group.
hi everyone, just popping in.
I haven’t had a chance to read through fully yet, but best wishes for your appointment, Sue & thinking of you.
We’re on our way Down Under now, 1.15am in Dubai, Bangkok next, then Sydney & NZ - yay!
love & hugs everyone
ann xxx
Have a lovely time Ann xx
Woohoo Ann. Have a wonderful wonderful time. You’re lucky we can’t all fit into your case!
Lesley thank goodness you’ve got someone on your side finally. Good luck and Sue too. Will be sending positive vibes all day for you.
Genetic appointment for me on Tuesday but fatigue gym tomorrow. 1 full day and 3 half this week. Helena I hope you have a good first day back.
Delly I love that film, but probably more because I love the music and the storyline incidental. It makes me smile. A tough call recently!
Night night to all - sleep well and be cool! Xx
Morning all,
Have a fabulosity time Ann, not jealous one bit, oh yes I am! God luck at the gym Janey, Dizzy, the wonderful nurse who is sorting everything out for me is not my BCN, less said about her the best. It’s the nurse that runs the local Breast Cancer Support Group, so do check your you nearest one out.
Clair, hope you’re feeling better today and ok to go to work, good luck first day back Helena, and hope weekend of rest saw your cold off Beth. Rubycat, hope MIL is ok and is now settled at the home of her choice, how are you now? Hello to Lily and Delly too. Sue, doesent need saying that we will all be with you in spirit tomorrow. Charys, you’ve been quiet, or have I just missed your post? Or maybe your busy crafting. Moijan has been quiet too lately.
The sun is out here so going to try and get some jobs done, rest of week is busy.
Hello to everyone else I’ve not mentioned by name, I need a list of everything these days. Lee will be in bed as it’s night there, so she’ll forgive me. Xx
Hello everyone
Well first day back at work done, I will probably be asleep soon as I did not have a good night last night, really do not know why but it was a flipping nuisance. Well off to get a sandwich now, catch you all laters.
Helena xxx