oh Joannie, i nearly spat my tea across the room then. Bless ya, old people just have noooo tact whatsoever. My mum will soon tell me i look fat but u don’t expect it from anyone else. Things people say never fail to surprise do they! x
This comment will make you smile.
I was visiting my class today and one 5 year old asked me why I didn’t have any hair. I told her I had been given some medicine to make me better and It had made my hair fall out. She responded with a knowing look and said. My baby brother has calpol and he hasn’t got any hair either. I just thought of the syringes of red stuff when I had chemo. If only it had been calpol!
Janipi
My class are also fascinated by my bald head. When I told them the medicine made my hair fall out and made me poorly one little boy said “Well, they should give you better medicine then!”
The only really upsetting statement I had (from a friend at work), was that she didn’t know why I was so upset about losing my hair, as I never did much with it anyway! I neer spent a great deal of time or money on it, but IT WAS MY HAIR, for Heavens sake!
She went on to say that that was something that wouldn’t worry her at all. I answered that if it was happening to her, she might feel very different about it then. She had the grace to admit that it might.
I keep getting asked is how am I? The answer to that is F-I-N-E, of course.
Fran.
Fran
I spent my life complaining about my very curly hair and didn’t spend a lot of time doing anything with it-but I’d give anything to have it back, as I’m sure you would. We have to deal with losing it because we don’t have a choice. I hope a buzzard poos on her head!!!
No harp1970, not a buzzard - an ostrich.
Jane xxx
Losing my hair for me, was THE most horrid experience of the lot! I got sick and tired of people telling me how it would grow back, how great Kylie looks now, and how it is ONLY hair!
WHAT A LOAD OF PANTS! No woman wants to lose their hair, be bald for months on end, then have stubble on the head and look like a man, have one or no breasts , a lob sided chest , no eye brows, lashes, nails and generally feel poop!
I have to say, when i was at my worst, i wished that every woman alive was going through what i was!
xxxxxxx
Naz
God i sound like a right miserable one!
I do think that people need to experience it all, before they open their big mouths!
No Alto, not a buzzard nor an ostrich, but Dumbo the flying elephant!!
Dumbo --brilliant. i am always glad when i see this post at the top of list, know that I am in for a good chuckle
Not sure that Dumbo’s offerings would be sloppy/smelly enough - anyone seen a flying pig!
Dx
I was asked in a kind of mumble by the rads planning person why I wasn’t wearing my wig… those of you who know me will understand that I am not one to mince my words, but as he was going to be frying me, I just gave him my best Paddington look and told him tersely that I don’t bother wearing one.
What a cheek, he wouldn’t ask me whether I was wearing knickers or not!
CM he might have asked about your nickers but saw the glint in your eyes and reconized the shape of the flamethrower in your bag.lol
Chris
Surely you told him it was because you had a lovely shaped head!
Dx
And that you were being inspirational!
and keeping positive, it’s so important. Yeah, important for everyone else.
I’m going to visit my mother next week, first time since my diagnosis in Feb. She hasn’t phoned me once, real head in the sand. Don’t know what she’ll say but it’s bound to be a pearler. I shall report back. To be fair she has altzheimers but she know enough to know I’ve got cancer.
I saw my big sis last weekend for the first time since starting chemo.
She’s been a rock since before my dx - travelled from Suffiolk to Shropshire to be with me for results and looked after me post op - still managed the damning with faint praise phrase ‘you don’t have a bad shaped head’!
Dx
Every time I look in the mirror I see my youngest son. He has my head, and it’s not beautiful at all, but all knobbly with scars and chickenpox scars. That’s why we have hair!
I heard from a friend today I had not heard from in ages. I told her I was having chemo, and also said before you say my hair will grow back, I dont care I dont want to be bald.
Her reply was
"I’m sure you can get a really nice wig Jules. They do really good ones now.
Good luck with your next lot of news."
GRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr wtf, what is it with people and sodding wigs!!!
But, tonight when hubby and I were on our way out tonight, I saw one of my avon customers hubbys. He asked me how I was as not seen them for a while. I said about chemo and said I would have hair like his. His reply was this.
“You have a really pretty face, and you will still look lovely without hair”.
My heart actually melted and I have to say it was the sweetest thing anyone has said to me in a long time.
lily that’s really lovely. HOnest and from the heart. I wonder if he’s experienced cancer in his life or if he’s just a great guy.
It’s the 'staying positive ’ remark I find the most prolific and the hardest to deal with. I’m pretty chirpy most of the time so I think I get the positive remark more than if I was down and depressed. I think it might mainly be said to positive people by negative people. That seems to my experience of it in the main.