Oh Terri, that’s a disgraceful attitude and yes you should def report her to anyone and everyone. We all have enough to deal with as it is. Sending you virtual hugs xx
Something that annoys me - people who ring up my OH and ask how I am. Why do they not ring me??
Terry … WOW!!! I am insensed on your behalf… why do some staff feel that administering chemo is a favour to us!!! life saving it may be but it’s no favour! I would tell her if she ever spoke to me again like that I will complain and push it all the way, until the only thing she will be doing in a hospital is emptying the bed pans!!! then remind her exactly what a nurse is and ask her if she can’t treat cancer patients with dignity and respect then why on earth is she a nurse anyway!!! I have been the recipient of sme major admin errors during my journey but NO ONE has been rude about it…quite the opposite as you would expect!!! I’m with the girls COMLAIN…LOUDLY & BITTERLY!!!
Jeanette xxxx
and I also would like to know why people can’t ask me how I am …My S-I-L rings and asked my mum???
Supertrouper, I love your photo but did the dog steal your wig?!! This is now one of my top 3 along with CMs scary cat and the Tortoise being scratched with a brush, (although I do think maybe I should be calling the RSPCA!) sorry can’t remember who’s photo it is
I can beat you all on the ringing to see how you are front - my sister (who lives a 5 minute walk away) has not rung me once since I was diagnosed last Nov, when I did finally speak to her in May she made the mistake of saying that she was concerned for me, got both barrels I’m afraid…
Back to the tread! Receptionist at Hospital yesterday complimented me on how nice my scarf was and how nicely I had tied it, now this is not the best thing to say to me as I hate wearing a scarf as it just screams “chemo woman” and I look really ugly but I let her off as she only said my scarf looked really nice and not me, which I know is a lie!
DaisyGirl xx
I don’t think this is actually the right thread as there is nothing well-meaning about the following, but just had to post it somewhere …
I was dx’ed with bc and bone mets from the word go in December 2008. I have mostly responded well to treatment but have had a big hike in the tumour markers in the last month and so am concerned, pending outcome of MRI scan in 2 weeks time. Generally though I try to be ‘positive’ ( how we all love that word) and upbeat and don’t mention my illness much to anyone.
Anyway, my 15 year old daughter is being quite badly bullied at the moment and when things went a step too far (another long story) I took it upon myself to send a fairly controlled text to one of the girl’s mothers to try to calm things down. This was met with a wholly abusive phone call from this mother saying, “Listen to yourself, you disgust me, your daughter is a liar etc etc …” I responded that I am a single parent and finding it quite tough at the moment dealing with ill health etc etc.
Her response, on the phone, by text and by voicemail: “You disgust me, how dare you throw your illness into the equation? Don’t give me that sob story, you should be ashamed of yourself.”
My friends have done a really good job of trying to calm me down but I just needed to vent on here as well. I just cannot believe one human being can say things like this to another - especially as we previously had a good relationship prior to this bullying etc .
Absolutely speechless! Think she’s the one who should be ashamed of herself!! Responding by text, voicemail and phone is OTT and bullying - no wonder her daughter’s bullying yours - what a role model! You have enough on your plate - and so does your daughter! Jane
DaisyGirl,
I know how you feel with the Sister situation. I have quite a big family living locally but since my diagnosis in Feb not one has been to visit me, I get occasional texts of ‘how are you’ but unless the reply is ‘i’m fine’ I get no response back. Occasionally I get texts telling me that I should go and visit THEM! Hello, I’m the one that is sick and has no energy! Makes my blood boil!
I’ve just recieved a message on Facebook from an old work colleague praising my “Courage and determination” and telling me to “stay positive and keep fighting”. I really don’t know how to reply!
Bless her I know she means well and probably if I’d never had cancer I might be saying the same things to someone in this position. It’s not til you hear it all the time that you realise how twee it is!
!"£%^Y&!!! Terri, Harp1970 I am totally flabbergasted by what happened to both of u, trying to remain calm and write a good reply but prob couldnt be printed - ~Terri, i hope u do complain in writing to the hospt, its totally unacceptable, glad u stood ur ground - ~and Harp, your neighbour oh my god, i hate it when people think chemo is just nothing, it like a drug to make u better so how can it make u ill, people just dont realise, but cant they see, oh i cant put it into words, hugs to u and see u tomorrow - like ur new pic Shar xx
So many comments that have my blood boiling I can’t begin to respond sensibly, other than saying “Ooo, Ooo, Ooo!!!” like a demented chimpanzee and spitting out my tea!
Bullying - both you and your daughter should climb gracefully on your high horse and look down on the pair of them.
Family - I hadn’t intended telling my sister about my diagnosis, but I haven’t heard a squeak from her since I spoke to her at the end of February. But that’s fine, my CHOSEN family - my friends and you lot on here - more than make up for the distance between me and my sister.
Ooo, Ooo, Ooo!!! at all the others, how on earth can people feel right about themselves!
Joannie & Choccie, sorry to hear you have cr*p families too, I don’t know how some people live with themselves, definitely their loss and not ours!
Fortunately, like CM I have some fantastic friends and all you lovely ladies on here to support me through the tough times, share the better days and make me laugh
Thanks to you all!
DaisyGirl xx
I wouldn’t say my family’s crap, just not close. (Well SOME of my family isn’t, but one particular former member is the ONE person I WOULD wish BC on. That or having rusty screws shoved under her fingernails and left to fester. I’m waiting for her funeral so I can dance on her grave.)
Well I’ve just had a classic one today. We have a small to medium business, I’ve worked all through this crap except for one and a half days off for my operation.
One of my customers said today ‘well your lucky really working for yourself, at least you don’t have to worry about bosses, childcare etc etc’.
I put the phone down pretty quickly for fear of poluting the phone network with expletives.
Wow Choccie, I’ll make sure I never get on your wrong side!
Ive got a plan for LesleyP…why don’t you give us all her number and we can ALL text her to say how disgraceful her behaviour is/was!!! or perhaps could that be bullying??? I think Choccie had the best idea just remember how much better than them you are!!!
Jeanette XX
I am not sure if this is well meaning or whether it belongs elsewhere, but instead of the usual, my aunties friends etc etc got breast cancer and there ok now, I had the opposite today!!!
I popped around to one of my Avon customers houses and was told Oh yes my dads the same as you, hes got cancer and hes dying!! I am not sure if it was supposed to show solidarity! It did’nt!! just left me feeling sad.
Saphy-LUCKY!!! the mind boggles! How insensitive.
CM-I’ll dance on her grave with you if you’ll dance on ex mother in law’s with me. If she asks me one more time why I’m not wearing my wig so I look more normal I will not be held responsible. I have always taken my girls to see her so that they have a sense of family, even though their dad doesn’t bother and is a complete ****, But I have had enough and no longer go there. She can come and see them but doesn’t bother. My mum and dad make up for her shortcomings anyway! Did cross my mind to buy the most outrageous wig ever and arrange to meet in restaurant and watch her squirm with embarrasment, but decided she’s not worth it.
Reading all these comments just about makes you lose all faith in human nature, doesn’t it?
Jeanette, like your idea, tempting very tempting, but I am going to take the moral high ground and just ignore her and anything else she wants to say.
As one of my friends told me this afternoon, what goes around comes around and I certainly hope that is true for a lot of the people who have upset so many of us in so many ways
Daisy, you’d have to REALLY get to me to get on my bad side, but she has done good and proper.
Harpie, I’ll be there, just pick the music and tell me whether it’s a waltz or a jig.
Sometimes we are better off without some people.
Hubby this morning - after asking three times ‘how are you?’ in about 10 minutes, and being told that I was ok, he said " but you don’t seem as bouncy as usual’ . Mmmmm wonder how bouncy he would feel an hour before being due to go for a chemo session?